Would it be better, maybe, to approach with the pastor on the basis of what’s appropriate for the Catholic church as laid out in her own documents? I’m just wondering whether bringing up “Protestant service” might risk getting the pastor’s back up and perhaps not get the discussion off on the best footing. I guess I’ve seen plenty of abuses but they weren’t committed by people saying, “I want a service like the Protestants have”, it was a matter of people wanting to do their own thing. Most priests have probably had their share of irate parishioners (purple people, I called them on another thread) slapping the label “Protestant” on everything they don’t like and he might jump to a conclusion about you that is quite wrong before he gets to know you - it’s quite clear you are really nice people and not “troublemakers”. IMO the issue is whether we are following our own rules and regs or not - it probably isn’t necessary to use Protestant services (which, as many have told us here, vary widely) as a kind of a negative benchmark to get the point across. And if the pastor’s not receptive, the P word probably won’t make him any more so.
Just a thought offered FWIW. :twocents: