Books for a bride?

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I’ve decided to give my niece (age 22) 4 or 5 books that I think would have helped me if I had had them when I first got married.

Here’s my tenative list:

Life Giving Love by Kimberly Hahn
Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey
Tightwad Gazette
Is There Life after Housework? Don Aslett
Five Love Languages

Any other suggestions? Or, is there one you might knock off the list. My niece isn’t Catholic, btw. She’s also graduating from nursing school this spring. Her fiance is an Air Force officer (Engineer) who is in graduate school.
 
I second the Love Dare. And I also very much like the 5 Love Languages-I think it’s a great book for a newly married couple to read. It helped my DH and I understand how each other “works” much better!
 
Better Homes and Gardens cookbook, the one in a 3 ring binder with the red plaid cover
 
I wonder about 5 books. Kind of overwhelming. Kind of suggests you think she is dumb. Maybe just one book, along with other non-book gifts. Just a thought. I know you are aiming to be helpful. But people can and do buy the books they want to read and think they need.

Really better than any book would be a close or open relationship with you, her aunt. Anyway to make that happen?

Best wishes.
 
Bartolome_Casas said:
I wonder about 5 books. Kind of overwhelming. Kind of suggests you think she is dumb. Maybe just one book, along with other non-book gifts. Just a thought. I know you are aiming to be helpful. But people can and do buy the books they want to read and think they need.

Really better than any book would be a close or open relationship with you, her aunt. Anyway to make that happen?

Best wishes.
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Yeah, I agree with this. I love to read, but I love to read what I choose, not what someone else forces on me. I am in the process of purging my 2 vast book shelves in my bedroom, packing up college text books, novels from literature classes, tour books from trips overseas, and interestingly a few books I was given upon my wedding 20+ years ago that I never read …still have not read them, and they are in the donate box now.
 
Not that I’ve ever been married, but I did volunteer with a bridal charity for a few years, and we always recommended Christ on Your Guest List. It was written by the director of the charity after she went through a lot of hassle with her wedding. It is more of a wedding planning book meant to be used by both bride and groom, to bring them together during the wedding planning process.

Also, I second the cookbook idea! Though, my family always gives a Betty Crocker book of an older vintage. Back when she still used real ingredients 👍
 
Of course, I wouldn’t think of a cookbook, since I hate to cook:ouch:

Great idea!

I don’t know. I think I would have loved to get a stack of books when I was a bride. And, every time, I happened along one of these books, I had the thought, “I wish I would have had this book years ago!”
 
leonie said:
I’ve decided to give my niece (age 22) 4 or 5 books that I think would have helped me if I had had them when I first got married.

Here’s my tenative list:

Life Giving Love by Kimberly Hahn
Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey
Tightwad Gazette
Is There Life after Housework? Don Aslett
Five Love Languages

Any other suggestions? Or, is there one you might knock off the list. My niece isn’t Catholic, btw. She’s also graduating from nursing school this spring. Her fiance is an Air Force officer (Engineer) who is in graduate school.
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The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom
(my favourite testimony… with this book you are sure to inspire faith and evangelise in the most effective way. Without first a living relationship with Christ, teaching people about moral theology is of little use:)

Or how about:
**Captivating ** by John and Stasi Eldrigde
Its a good book for young ladies to understand themselves as women positively and in the light of God’s love…
 
Matthew Kelly “The Seven Levels of Intimacy”

Fulton Sheen “Three To Get Married”
 
I agree with the posters saying that 5 is too much. Its insulting, and its fun to discover marriage firsthand.

My idea: ‘Wild at Heart’ and ‘Captivating’, so that the couple can read together and have some good conversation starters. And a really nice, really big cookbook. That way you’re giving more than just unsolicited advice.
 
I’m a little dumbfounded at the idea that a stack of books would be insulting.

I think it would be worse to get one book–to me, that would be pin pointing one issue and giving it more importance.

I love books, esp. practical self help kind of books and these were ones that really helped me. I guess I’d love a stack of books. In fact, we received one Christian advice type marriage book when dh and I got married and I wore it out.

Now, if I were wanting to preach, I’d give her a homeschooling book . 😃

I’ll have to think about this “insulting” angle…that’s the last thing I would want to do. Just want to share my delight at these books…huh.
 
leonie said:
I’m a little dumbfounded at the idea that a stack of books would be insulting.

I think it would be worse to get one book–to me, that would be pin pointing one issue and giving it more importance.

I love books, esp. practical self help kind of books and these were ones that really helped me. I guess I’d love a stack of books. In fact, we received one Christian advice type marriage book when dh and I got married and I wore it out.

Now, if I were wanting to preach, I’d give her a homeschooling book . 😃

I’ll have to think about this “insulting” angle…that’s the last thing I would want to do. Just want to share my delight at these books…huh.
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What if you gave her books, but not as a wedding gift? You could get her a gift, and then sometime in the near future you could mention that you found a bunch of your old marriage books and how much they helped you. Then make it clear that she’s free to have them and you would be happy to recommend some. Then its up to her and you guys are left open to a cool bonding discussion.
 
leonie said:
I’m a little dumbfounded at the idea that a stack of books would be insulting.

I think it would be worse to get one book–to me, that would be pin pointing one issue and giving it more importance.

I love books, esp. practical self help kind of books and these were ones that really helped me. I guess I’d love a stack of books. In fact, we received one Christian advice type marriage book when dh and I got married and I wore it out.

Now, if I were wanting to preach, I’d give her a homeschooling book . 😃

I’ll have to think about this “insulting” angle…that’s the last thing I would want to do. Just want to share my delight at these books…huh.
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I would not be insulted to get a book/books. In fact I did receive some coffee table books at my wedding of artisitc photographs…and have given books at least once.
 
actually, the books wouldn’t be our wedding present. I just want to give them to her as a personal gift.
 
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