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ringil
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YAY! Fellow Social Worker!
God Bless and good luck in your studies.
I don’t know about macro though. I always heard “Micros can go macro, but macros can’t go micro.”
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God Bless and good luck in your studies.
I don’t know about macro though. I always heard “Micros can go macro, but macros can’t go micro.”
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lnjdhg
Guest
Hello,
I have borderline personality disorder and have been in Dialectical Behavioural Therapy for 6 months now. It has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I recognize my anger and my shame and how those emotions affect myself and my loved ones. When I feel myself getting “emotionally dysregulated” or out of control, I use the various techniques to get in control. I’ve been on all types of meds, but side effects made me come off. I’m glad, because now I when I feel pain I know what strategies to use to lessen its effect. We’re all going to feel pain, it’s how we deal with it that matters. DBT teaches us how. If your mum can get into a program, I strongly recommend it. Good luck
I have borderline personality disorder and have been in Dialectical Behavioural Therapy for 6 months now. It has been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I recognize my anger and my shame and how those emotions affect myself and my loved ones. When I feel myself getting “emotionally dysregulated” or out of control, I use the various techniques to get in control. I’ve been on all types of meds, but side effects made me come off. I’m glad, because now I when I feel pain I know what strategies to use to lessen its effect. We’re all going to feel pain, it’s how we deal with it that matters. DBT teaches us how. If your mum can get into a program, I strongly recommend it. Good luck
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ringil
Guest
That’s great to hear! I know you have been doing some hard work to get where you are so congratulations! DBT has to be practiced continuously so the fact that it has brought you relief shows that you have been consistent with your committment to getting better.
Also if Borderline Personality Disorder is your only diagnosis then medication may not really be helpful anyway. I am not aware of medication being used effectively for those with theis disorder alone.
Now, if you have Major Depression, Bipolar Dirorder, or some type of mood instability along withthe BPD, then meds may indeed be helpful. Make sure to follow your psychiatrist’s advice and to let him/her know if you are thinking of discontinuing your meds. NEVER stop taking them on your own without talking to your doctor!!
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ScareBear
Guest
I’m an LCSW! Yay for social workers!
Yes, it was hard to work with clients. Boundaries issues, etc. Some days I felt like, “I should be coming here, not working here.”
A lot of stuff came up during treating others. You reach a point where you think you’ve moved past most everything but then something else arises. It’s challenging. I had to stay in tune with my own feelings and when to get supervision and help.
I tried to take good from my experiences. I learned an awful lot from my clients and I’m grateful. It showed me how far I’ve come, and what I needed to work on. I think a strength as a therapist was being able to relate to the clients, but not in any inappropriate or dual relationship manner. I never sat back and felt smug about my own life or terribly judgmental. We’re all products of our environment. My co-workers were constantly amazed at my calmness and demeanor with even our “Jerry Springer show” clients. Inside I was thinking, “Sure this person is ornery, but my family of origin has them beat! I’m not related to this client!”
I’m glad, honestly, to be taking a break from my profession and to be home with my kids. My husband is encouraging me to switch gears and do something that does not involve helping others with their functioning. I could have easily let my job eat me alive.
Gosh, it’s so hard, having these issues. It’s tough to know what is “normal,” healthy, and appropriate. How would I impart these traits to clients when I struggle myself? How do I help my kids discern how to appropriately interact with others?
Yes, it was hard to work with clients. Boundaries issues, etc. Some days I felt like, “I should be coming here, not working here.”
A lot of stuff came up during treating others. You reach a point where you think you’ve moved past most everything but then something else arises. It’s challenging. I had to stay in tune with my own feelings and when to get supervision and help.
I tried to take good from my experiences. I learned an awful lot from my clients and I’m grateful. It showed me how far I’ve come, and what I needed to work on. I think a strength as a therapist was being able to relate to the clients, but not in any inappropriate or dual relationship manner. I never sat back and felt smug about my own life or terribly judgmental. We’re all products of our environment. My co-workers were constantly amazed at my calmness and demeanor with even our “Jerry Springer show” clients. Inside I was thinking, “Sure this person is ornery, but my family of origin has them beat! I’m not related to this client!”
I’m glad, honestly, to be taking a break from my profession and to be home with my kids. My husband is encouraging me to switch gears and do something that does not involve helping others with their functioning. I could have easily let my job eat me alive.
Gosh, it’s so hard, having these issues. It’s tough to know what is “normal,” healthy, and appropriate. How would I impart these traits to clients when I struggle myself? How do I help my kids discern how to appropriately interact with others?
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ringil
Guest
I am a stay-at-home-dad mainly because I need to get my stuff together and get a job!I’m an LCSW! Yay for social workers!
Yes, it was hard to work with clients. Boundaries issues, etc. Some days I felt like, “I should be coming here, not working here.”
A lot of stuff came up during treating others. You reach a point where you think you’ve moved past most everything but then something else arises. It’s challenging. I had to stay in tune with my own feelings and when to get supervision and help.
I tried to take good from my experiences. I learned an awful lot from my clients and I’m grateful. It showed me how far I’ve come, and what I needed to work on. I think a strength as a therapist was being able to relate to the clients, but not in any inappropriate or dual relationship manner. I never sat back and felt smug about my own life or terribly judgmental. We’re all products of our environment. My co-workers were constantly amazed at my calmness and demeanor with even our “Jerry Springer show” clients. Inside I was thinking, “Sure this person is ornery, but my family of origin has them beat! I’m not related to this client!”
I’m glad, honestly, to be taking a break from my profession and to be home with my kids. My husband is encouraging me to switch gears and do something that does not involve helping others with their functioning. I could have easily let my job eat me alive.
Gosh, it’s so hard, having these issues. It’s tough to know what is “normal,” healthy, and appropriate. How would I impart these traits to clients when I struggle myself? How do I help my kids discern how to appropriately interact with others?
I have an LCSW in NC but I moved to NY three weeks ago, and I don’t meet their req. for a clinical license, and you can imagine how upsetting this is.
Anyway I’ve got to get the state MSW license in order to get one more year of clinical supervision THEN I will be an LCSW in NY.
Yes, I have to get a license to get a license.
Anyway, regarding BPD, I find it a facsinating issue but I don’t believe that helping BPD clients, at least primarily, is my calling per se. I believe it takes a special person- and you seem to have what it takes. That’s great!!
God Bless,
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anon59781800
Guest
I have had one heck
Of a roller coaster ride, and I needed to
Get off of this relationship unfortunately. I befriended
A woman at my work place, the hospital. She seemed alone and scared and
Abandoned. She was going through school for an APN and I am an MD. So we became friends. She is married and had a
Five year old son. I am single and just do what god has asked me to do, help
Others. We became close, having what seemed
The same ideals in life. Then she sent her small son to Europe with her father over last summer and we got to know each other better. There were times when she completely just shut me out- would not
Answer any calls or texts. She always said her husband was mean and untrustworthy. I eventually got to meet him and he was quite pleasant. Anyway, of all things she slowly started taking me
Away from my family, my job, and My God. She would also do things that made me
Uncomfortable- hug me, hold my hands. This at first to me was “odd” but she said I was just cold. After her son
Returned- 3 months later- she started to
Then try to make out with me or tempt me
For sex. I said this is something that I
Do not want to do, but she continued to pressure me. Every time I brought this up
She became out of control mad. I just said, I’m
Not a lesbian and would not
Do these things at all. Well- we fought. Anyway, over time she accused me
Of odd
Things that made her not “trust me”, such as I was reading her mail. That led to a HUGE fight. I was so upset at all that happened I went to our parish priest just to talk and get his advise. By this time, I was VERY distant from the family I loved, my church, and my work. I wanted my old life back. So, even though it hurt me, I broke off all communication with her saying I could no longer live life like this. A week later, she shows up
Quite distraught at my home. She won’t stop crying - saying its all my fault. I end up calling 911 bc she is
Just psychotic by this point. I go with her to
The ER and just tell her husband
That she really needs psychiatric help. Since then, she has tried to call me, text, and email me, but I have not responded. I had to block
All communication. I still love her as my friend and I know she is mentally ill, but as selfish
As this sounds, I had to save my life, my profession and most importantly my relationship with God. I pray for her, but sometimes you need cut ties
Completely as much as it may hurt
Of a roller coaster ride, and I needed to
Get off of this relationship unfortunately. I befriended
A woman at my work place, the hospital. She seemed alone and scared and
Abandoned. She was going through school for an APN and I am an MD. So we became friends. She is married and had a
Five year old son. I am single and just do what god has asked me to do, help
Others. We became close, having what seemed
The same ideals in life. Then she sent her small son to Europe with her father over last summer and we got to know each other better. There were times when she completely just shut me out- would not
Answer any calls or texts. She always said her husband was mean and untrustworthy. I eventually got to meet him and he was quite pleasant. Anyway, of all things she slowly started taking me
Away from my family, my job, and My God. She would also do things that made me
Uncomfortable- hug me, hold my hands. This at first to me was “odd” but she said I was just cold. After her son
Returned- 3 months later- she started to
Then try to make out with me or tempt me
For sex. I said this is something that I
Do not want to do, but she continued to pressure me. Every time I brought this up
She became out of control mad. I just said, I’m
Not a lesbian and would not
Do these things at all. Well- we fought. Anyway, over time she accused me
Of odd
Things that made her not “trust me”, such as I was reading her mail. That led to a HUGE fight. I was so upset at all that happened I went to our parish priest just to talk and get his advise. By this time, I was VERY distant from the family I loved, my church, and my work. I wanted my old life back. So, even though it hurt me, I broke off all communication with her saying I could no longer live life like this. A week later, she shows up
Quite distraught at my home. She won’t stop crying - saying its all my fault. I end up calling 911 bc she is
Just psychotic by this point. I go with her to
The ER and just tell her husband
That she really needs psychiatric help. Since then, she has tried to call me, text, and email me, but I have not responded. I had to block
All communication. I still love her as my friend and I know she is mentally ill, but as selfish
As this sounds, I had to save my life, my profession and most importantly my relationship with God. I pray for her, but sometimes you need cut ties
Completely as much as it may hurt
E
EphelDuath
Guest
I have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
People with BPD just want to be loved unconditionally. The random hostility you may encounter with us is a result of mood swings that make us paranoid of betrayal, or that others secretly hate us. The best thing you can do is constantly reassure us.
God bless!
People with BPD just want to be loved unconditionally. The random hostility you may encounter with us is a result of mood swings that make us paranoid of betrayal, or that others secretly hate us. The best thing you can do is constantly reassure us.
God bless!
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