Bosses who abuse their workers

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I work 3 jobs, but I recently got fired at one of my jobs. I had only worked there for about 2 months, but it was the worse 2 months of abuse I have ever had on work.

They pretty much nitpicked every single call I had. And found anything that was wrong with it, and I mean absolute things that some people can’t control(breathing, giving customer number, pausing). I was blamed even on things I wasn’t even trained on… I had talked to other agents about this, and they couldn’t even believe the things I was going through. And they were giving me ERRORS simple because of giving something like a customer number.

I found that they just wanted me off the team. And they were trying in every way to find something to get me on. Ive worked for 2 other companys for a long time and Ive never had problems…

my question is. Will justice be served to these people in higher positions who abuse the worker like this? Bosses and their helpers just love to feed off each others egos, and it makes it miserable for agents like me. There are many things about being unjust to the worker in the bible. But these people in higher power just seem to do whatever they want. In reality, these types make me physically ill. Wil they have to answer one day for these injustices they do to the average worker?

I am in a really wrathful state right now. Because I feel injustice. Ive already wrote the boss a letter on how I really feel. Some of which had bad language. but i nthe end I did tell her that I hope God forgives her for the injustice shes done, and for my wrath. I still am horribly angry and just want to punch a hole in the wall. I feel like I can only tell and relate this to my fellow Catholic Christians in faith. The secular world and people just don’t care how I feel about this…
 
it isn’t that small. I need this to support my family for finances. its a great injustice how some bosses are with their agents.
 
I know how you feel. I had the same thing happened to me with a second job I had doing some bookkeeping. Unfortunately, it was at a Catholic church and it was the priest and his “lady friend” who wanted me off the staff. They would publically embarrass me and had people write nasty letters about me behind my back that were full of outright lies. I only learned about this because some of the other staff members put copies the letters in my in-box.

I basically told off the priest and all his cronies and quit, both my job and the Church.

It took me a couple of years to come around and come back. I have forgiven the priest and the others, but I will never forget how they treated me and how it made me feel.

It’s easy to say, “Get over it, It’s just a job” when you haven’t been treated this way, especially by people who should know better.
 
Enoch said:
I know how you feel. I had the same thing happened to me with a second job I had doing some bookkeeping. Unfortunately, it was at a Catholic church and it was the priest and his “lady friend” who wanted me off the staff. They would publically embarrass me and had people write nasty letters about me behind my back that were full of outright lies. I only learned about this because some of the other staff members put copies the letters in my in-box.

I basically told off the priest and all his cronies and quit, both my job and the Church.

It took me a couple of years to come around and come back. I have forgiven the priest and the others, but I will never forget how they treated me and how it made me feel.

It’s easy to say, “Get over it, It’s just a job” when you haven’t been treated this way, especially by people who should know better.
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Thank you for the response. Someone who understands. So many say “get over it, its job”. Yea, well what if this was my only job and it was my only income to support my wife and children? its not “only just a job” then. And as you said, the write ups I got from my boss and his cronies were just awful. But they were doing it in order to make me look bad to the higher workers so Id get fired quicker. They would take the smallest things and turn it into something huge. I just cant stand people like this. They are cruel and cold hearted. Its funny that nearly all these types are divorced or have out of wedlock kids. maybe they take their anger out on co-workers because of their personal failures.
 
Renton405 said:
Thank you for the response. Someone who understands. So many say “get over it, its job”. Yea, well what if this was my only job and it was my only income to support my wife and children? its not “only just a job” then. And as you said, the write ups I got from my boss and his cronies were just awful. But they were doing it in order to make me look bad to the higher workers so Id get fired quicker. They would take the smallest things and turn it into something huge. I just cant stand people like this. They are cruel and cold hearted. Its funny that nearly all these types are divorced or have out of wedlock kids. maybe they take their anger out on co-workers because of their personal failures.
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I am hearing you say that you are so much better than these people that they owe you something.

Yes, we are all entitled to make an honest day’s wages for an honest day’s work. But an individual company does not owe you a job, or a good job, or whatever.

If you do no like the conditions of employment, move on. Yes, it might be unfair. If you have a discrimination complaint to file, file it.

Forgive these people and move on.
 
This is an example of why we have laws in this republic against harassment in the work place. You could have laid charges against these people, but you probably didn’t have written documentation regarding their behavior. If it ever happens again in another job, begin a notebook in which you enter each individual instance of abuse. List date, time, name of offender, what was said, etc. My daughter had a job where something similar happened with a coworker. When her boss found out about the notebook, the offender was dismissed. No problem after that.

Matthew
 
Dear Renton. I feel bad for you. :console: I too, have recently left a job where I wasn’t always treated fairly. And I was there for nearly 8 years! My job was in retail, and had a high rate of manager rotation. That meant that… just when one manager got to know you, they’d move him or her out… and bring in a new manager. And you had to start proving yourself, all over again. For a long time… I suffered with this. Most of my friends, also suffered with this. And still are.

But eventually, I learned that it’s better to pray for those abusing me. When I was finally able to do this… I began to feel better. I was more at peace. I still left my job (but that had more to do with my role as a caregiver). Try praying for them… and then, place your trust in Our Lord. I’m sure He will lead you in the right direction, for you and your family. God bless and hang in there.
 
Hi,May God give you courage…been there done that! Years ago a friend asked me,why he was not called to work in the local Post Office…he had passed the test and all.after I finished my route I asked for him and was severaly yelled at…‘we dont want them in here’ my friend Billy was African-American…next year I passed the new supervisors test and never got the job…wonder why? then two years later two clergymen died the same week on my route,the local Catholic pastor and African-American minister,I knew them both and wrote a nice complimentery letter about each to my local paper…when it came out I found at work a hand made miniature hangmans noose hanging over my light bulb! Thats when I decided to better myself and go to college evenings,which I did for 8 years earning my ba and ma at age 34! They found out I was going to college and increased my route so large that when I left to student teach they had to take one hours work time off of my route!!! other methods also was used against me…but so what…I became a teacher in a Catholic High School and just retired after 30 years teaching…my little letter by the way made its way to congress,read on the floor and inserted into the congressional record…the point of all this is …let the lemon become lemonade…at TR declared…Life is like a football game,dont flinch,dont foul and hit the line hard!..go for it my friend…Jesus took far worse and he stood tall …amen …
 
PaulinVA said:
I am hearing you say that you are so much better than these people that they owe you something.

Yes, we are all entitled to make an honest day’s wages for an honest day’s work. But an individual company does not owe you a job, or a good job, or whatever.

If you do no like the conditions of employment, move on. Yes, it might be unfair. If you have a discrimination complaint to file, file it.

Forgive these people and move on.
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I know that a company dosen’t OWE me a job, but there is a difference when a company hires you, trains you(not paid training either), makes you pay a 30$ background fee, and then kicks you to the ground after 2 months because of a boss that has a big head(along with their assistants who “ohhh” and “awe” then at every second they can). I just get a real bad taste in my stomach with these types of people. It was a new group, with a new boss. And people like this tend to abuse their power over the workplace because of their newfound power.
 
I stayed in a job like that for 4 years and after severe depression I decided to hand in my notice. I felt as you did. They nearly led me to taking my life. interesting thing was, when I left, they got a new boss and my manager got the same grief from the new boss as she had given me. She ended up off ill with depression and I know I should not have felt smug but I am human and I felt that she got what she deserved. I am over it all now but my confidence is fairly low. I think the saying is ‘What goes around, comes around.’
 
I’m sorry you were being treated this way:( I would try to focus my energy on finding one solid job–I think that how they treated you was wrong, but your anger could also be due to stress in juggling multiple jobs–that is very stressful! I would start searching for one job–unless you love the second job you have–because it most likely will provide you more downtime with your family–which we all need. I think also if you have one job, your attention will be focused in one place. Working more than one job is very taxing–and I applaud any and all who do it. But, that is where I’d focus my energy and attention. Just know that the world is very round…what goes around comes around, and God sees every injustice small or large. I will keep you in my prayers.🙂
 
Dittos. Forgive them, forget them and move on. Leave the retribution to the Almighty. 😉

It stinks working in an unpleasant/unfair environment, but leaving it, for whatever reason i.e. getting canned or quitting is the best outcome.

FYI, it’s best not to put “bad” things in writing that could be used either in or out of context against you in the future. I was tempted to write a similar letter to a former employer when I was released (for making too much money…and I was on a straight commission:confused: go figure) and did write one. It was therapeutic, but I made sure that I tore it up and didn’t send it.

I take it that if you are looking for another job, you won’t use them as a reference. Your supervisor, it would seem, probably doesn’t care what you think anyway.
 
I Can Identify With The Original Threader. Losing A Job Is A Tremendous Stress. I Have Struggled With This Same Issue As To Why Bosses Can Be So Abusive. Granted We Are Not All Perfect But What Got Me As How Come So Many In This Position Don’ Seem To Have A Conscience About It. I Think It All Goes Back To The Lust For Power–power To Rule Over People. It’s Humanity’s Greatest Flaw. I Don’t Understand Why People With Such Power Have To Get So Mad About The Bottom Line-they All Think They Are Perfect & Incapable Of Making Error. I Always Hope Some Type Of Justice Visits Them. I Leave That To God. I Always Keep In Mind Never To Stoop To That Level & Be That Angry. There Is More To Life Than That. The Hard Part Of These Events Is That I Fail To Comprehend What Happen To All This Christian Golden Rule Stuff. You Know Where I Got Most Of My Healing–the Jewish Book Of Virtues. This Basically Was A Manual Written On Life Events & How To Conduct Oneself. The Teachings Were Remarkably Healing That I Said This Is What Is Missing In The World Today This Wisdom. It Was Not At All Condemning, It Was Hopeful & Redeeming. It Said Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff In The Face Of Larger Issues. Or Else You Miss The Big Picture. Even More So The Wisdom Provided By This Rabbi Is Really What I Think Christ Taught & That Even The Christian Faith Has Not Lived Up To It. The Book Cleared Me Of My Overbearing Conscience. And I Questioned Why A Good Part Of The Population Ignores These Principles In Their Daily Lives. I Mean Did Christ Really Scold Matthew When He Enlisted Him. No. It Was The Way He Treated Him–like A Person. Christ Basically Told Him–mankind Is My Business. After That Enlistment, The Apostle Matthew Became One Of The Most Loyal Disciples & Really Rose To The Occasion With His Missionary Work In The Far East.
 
Renton, I’ve had a few really bad jobs. I am sorry you have had to go through this experiences, and I’ll be praying that something comes your way soon. 🙂

I was really excited about my first job. I was in high school, and I though that I would finally get to be in a place that had no cliques (you know, cheerleaders and preps, football players and jocks were the cool kids, and the band nerds were always spit at… I was the band nerd). But I was sorely disapointed after the first week, because I realised it my job had cliques as well… And it’s been the case at every single job I’ve worked at. These “cool kids” grow up to be “cool adults” whose thinks their digestive byproducts smells very good. 😉 With Oprah and others preaching about feeling really good about yourself, it seems some have been lead astray and have taken it to the extreme. I feel sorry for them, because I know that while they might think they’re happy, most are really miserable inside, and acting abusive and mean hearted makes them feel better about themselves. They need much prayer. And I know that certainly I did to deal with them as nicely as I could without letting myself being stepped on. It’s a tough balance to keep.

Again, many prayers will be going out, to bosses and employees alike.

God Bless!
Ericka
 
drafdog said:
This is an example of why we have laws in this republic against harassment in the work place. You could have laid charges against these people, but you probably didn’t have written documentation regarding their behavior. If it ever happens again in another job, begin a notebook in which you enter each individual instance of abuse. List date, time, name of offender, what was said, etc. My daughter had a job where something similar happened with a coworker. When her boss found out about the notebook, the offender was dismissed. No problem after that.

Matthew
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Your daughter was smart to document the harassment but lucky to have the problem resolved.

I think it’s a good idea to document abuse but don’t count on it working in every situation. The personnel policy where I work does have policies against harassment but only if it has to do with one’s race, religion, sex, sexual orientation; those kind of things. When a previous boss engaged in abusive behavior we all documented the abuse but to no end as it didn’t fit into the above categories therefore wasn’t illegal. It took a financial irregularity to get her fired.
 
Being abused at work is a terrible thing. No one should have to endure being mistreated.

However, I manage a few dozen people and I can tell you it cuts both ways. It largely hinges on expectations. I’ve had people take me aside and tell me I’m the best boss they ever had. Some others, I’m told, cannot stand me. The objective is to respectfully accomplish the job at hand. I work harder and longer than anyone I manage.

Some people just come with an unrealistic view of the world and their place in it. I try to be fair because I too will be judged someday. There are people who evaluate my job performance as well.

Keeping a large, diverse group of people peddling in the same direction can be an extraordinarily difficult task. You have to insist on things sometimes that impinge on people and make them unhappy. Goes with the territory.
 
PaulinVA said:
It’s just a job.

Forget about it and move on.
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Easier said than done. When my boss fired me on false pretenses it took my close to 3 years to find a job to replace it. And we wonder why so many are down with the business world. I didn’t used to be but am now. I want to work and do a good job, not brown nose and be involved in a clique.
 
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