This reply deserves not contempt, but admiration for its honesty. That being said, I have a few comments to make.
First, there is no indication that the practice of confession is anything but a human concoction. It is a human invention, and its artificial rules. But that could be accepted, except for the following reasons.
If someone committed (past tense!) a deed, goes to a priest, repents and asks for absolution, the seal of confessional COULD be defended. Not really, because it prevents closure for the relatives of the victim (if there are any). But if someone confesses to an ONGOING set of acts, or - even worse - admits that he intends to commit an act in the FUTURE, then the “seal” is simply criminal. It is aiding and abetting a crime.
You said: “If that sounds cold to you, then so be it.” Well its not just “cold”, it is unloving. There is the penitent and there is the victim. To put the penitent ahead the victim is definitely NOT a loving act.
Yes, we - who have compassion - do get emotional about it. What is wrong with emotions? Emotion is the first step toward love.
Since you are clearly not of the Catholic faith, you will never accept any explanation as to why things are the way they are. YOU might believe Confession is a human invention. WE believe it is of divine institution. Since WE don’t believe it’s a mere human invention, we cannot and will not treat it as such.
But it is the way it is. We believe in the soul and the good of the soul is higher than the good of the body. You don’t accept that, but we do, hence, our practice. You call it unloving. We call it a higher good.
So again, that is your answer. That should be the end of it. Whether this will drive you farther from the Catholic Church or draw you into it is something we will not be able to determine. But the Seal is not there on its own merits; it is there because of a whole lot of other truths that comprise the Catholic faith. The existence of the immortal soul is only the starting point.
IF you begin to learn the Catholic faith from the beginning, starting with the basics, then perhaps you will eventually understand. But if you start here with the Seal and hypotheticals, no explanation will ever be sufficient for you. So I will leave you with my “cold”, “unloving” answer. But it’s way more than that.
And contrary to what you might think, we do have compassion, as do you. The only thing is that your compassion extends only as far as this temporal existence. Ours goes beyond that.
To put the penitent above the victim, as you put it, IS in fact a loving act, not just for THIS penitent, but for all other penitents out there. And the fault is not the priest’s, but the killer’s. Again because we believe in the good, first and foremost, of the immortal soul.
Again, I don’t expect you to understand. If you don’t believe in the immortal soul, in God, in Christ, inf sin, in grace and of salvation, then this is all nonsense to you. But this is not the right point of entry for a catechesis of the Christian faith.
But we will explain it from OUR perspective. THIS is what we believe. Do with it what you will. Scorn us, or take it as our explanation. But this is what you are going to get, and no more than that.