Boyfriend-girlfriend vacation together but staying in separate hotel rooms

[petesgottheseat]

Hi everyone,

My sister (27) and her boyfriend (30) met on a dating website. They have officially been boyfriend-girlfriend for a little over a week now. I have never met her boyfriend, only from what she tells me about him. My sister has kept herself pure all these years, but her boyfriend hadn’t. They are going on a vacation next week to New Orleans (which is about a 3 or 4 hour drive away), and staying in separate hotel rooms. She is paying for her own room.

I told her that I deeply disapprove, especially after only dating for less than a month. She said that it is like going on a vacation with a friend. I told her that it is different. But she wouldn’t listen to me. She said that I’m a prude.

I’ve been married for almost 16 years to the first person that I ever dated. We were both pure when we married. I guess I just expect my sister to be more like how I was - never kissing around and all that.

I just don’t want my sister to be in a situation that might cause her to sin, if you know what I mean.

Any advice? Am I being too “old fashioned”?

Thanks!

 

[bilop]

Hi everyone,

My sister (27) and her boyfriend (30) met on a dating website. They have officially been boyfriend-girlfriend for a little over a week now. I have never met her boyfriend, only from what she tells me about him. My sister has kept herself pure all these years, but her boyfriend hadn’t. They are going on a vacation next week to New Orleans (which is about a 3 or 4 hour drive away), and staying in separate hotel rooms. She is paying for her own room.

I told her that I deeply disapprove, especially after only dating for less than a month. She said that it is like going on a vacation with a friend. I told her that it is different. But she wouldn’t listen to me. She said that I’m a prude.

I’ve been married for almost 16 years to the first person that I ever dated. We were both pure when we married. I guess I just expect my sister to be more like how I was - never kissing around and all that.

I just don’t want my sister to be in a situation that might cause her to sin, if you know what I mean.

Any advice? Am I being too “old fashioned”?

Thanks!

I agree that it is too early for them to be going on vacation together.

However, if they had been dating say 6 months, I think it would be allright to go on vacation with separate rooms. Travelling with someone helps you learn a lot about them.

Quite frankly, they’re adults. If they’re going to have sex, or not, the geography they’re in won’t affect the decision. This is not the case of 18 yr. olds just out from under their parents’ roofs.

God Bless

 

[phoage]

You are being old fashoned. NOTE: this is not necessarily a bad thing.

Are you being TOO old fashioned,

If you sister has managed to remain pure for all this time, she has probably dealt with this type temptation successfully before. Other than a somewhat questionable situation, has she given you any rason to distrust her? If not wish her a good trip and pray for her. If so, pray for her.

She is 27 years old. There is not a lot else you can do unless you are contemplating kidnapping, or following her.

 

[kage_ar]

To take a road trip with a man you met on line one week ago is D U M B.

Your sister sounds very niave, offer to go along with her. She should not go alone on a trip with a stranger.

 

[bilop]

To take a road trip with a man you met on line one week ago is D U M B.

Your sister sounds very niave, offer to go along with her. She should not go alone on a trip with a stranger.

Amen, I missed the part of meeting online. I thought they knew each other, but only started dating a month ago.

This is a very bad idea, and it has nothing to do with sexual purity, per se.

How much does she know this guy? He could be dangerous.

Stop her from going!

God Bless

 

[withwind]

Hi everyone,

They have officially been boyfriend-girlfriend for a little **over a week **now. I have never met her boyfriend, only from what she tells me about him. My sister has kept herself pure all these years, but her boyfriend hadn’t. They are going on a vacation next week to New Orleans (which is about a 3 or 4 hour drive away), and staying in separate hotel rooms. She is paying for her own room.

Thanks!

I used bold for couple words - that is very alarming.
She also should be worried, not just you.

 

[petesgottheseat]

Thank you all for your replies. I forget to add that my sister is still living with my parents. She was valedictorian, graduated college with top honors, and graduated at the top of her class with a masters degree. She’s got a great job in the medical field. The reason I’m going into her background is that while she’s very book-smart, it just seems that she’s very naive.

And this boyfriend is her first boyfriend. She’s had dates with other guys from the online dating site, but they never go beyond a date or two.

She is of the mind-set that this is the 21st century and so much different back when I married a little over 15 years ago. I don’t want to come on too strong, but I just don’t feel right about this whole situation.

I can’t go with her, as I am 19 weeks pregnant (high risk). My mom is very upset, but my sister is too old to be “grounded.”

Again, thank you for your replies and I look forward to more.

Peace be with you.

 

[Newbie2]

To take a road trip with a man you met on line one week ago is D U M B.

Your sister sounds very niave, offer to go along with her. She should not go alone on a trip with a stranger.

Amen, I missed the part of meeting online. I thought they knew each other, but only started dating a month ago.

This is a very bad idea, and it has nothing to do with sexual purity, per se.

How much does she know this guy? He could be dangerous.

Stop her from going!

God Bless

dittos. Guess what the guy has in mind?

OK, I presume, but this seems like a very bad idea.

 

[withwind]

Thank you all for your replies. I forget to add that my sister is still living with my parents. She was valedictorian, graduated college with top honors, and graduated at the top of her class with a masters degree. She’s got a great job in the medical field. The reason I’m going into her background is that while she’s very book-smart, it just seems that she’s very naive.

And this boyfriend is her first boyfriend. She’s had dates with other guys from the online dating site, but they never go beyond a date or two.

She is of the mind-set that this is the 21st century and so much different back when I married a little over 15 years ago. I don’t want to come on too strong, but I just don’t feel right about this whole situation.

I can’t go with her, as I am 19 weeks pregnant (high risk). My mom is very upset, but my sister is too old to be “grounded.”

Again, thank you for your replies and I look forward to more.

Peace be with you.

A book-smart is often not a street-smart.

I’d suggest that you continue showing her your caring but don’t approach too strong. If you can …somehow get her to invite the guy to your house (does not need to be your parents)…for dinner or something…then see how things go.