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Maria3m
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Liza,
We married and left the state…away from all family & friends.
So, our situation is different, but even so, while dating DH came to my family’s home because his was out of state. They didn’t like that he didn’t fly home, but he decided that’s what he wanted to do.
Now after almost 20 years away, with the occasional holiday visits, we’ve moved back & now in the dramatics of his family 3hrs from us pulling and my family 5 minutes pulling. My family is very disappointed that we want to take that three hour drive this year, but I had to remind them we spend all our time here…last Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New years Day dinner was with them.
If this is what you’ve decided to do, the best thing is to NOT back peddle or talk like your not sure or uncomfortable. When I read your first post, I thought your dad would be alone (no wife), but he’ll be fine. Plus, this is something you have only done for 5 years…it’s not like you’re pulling away after 20 or 30 years.
It’s not fun or easy and there will be many more holidays or family events you’ll have to make a decision to compromise or stand firm.
Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving!
We married and left the state…away from all family & friends.
So, our situation is different, but even so, while dating DH came to my family’s home because his was out of state. They didn’t like that he didn’t fly home, but he decided that’s what he wanted to do.
Now after almost 20 years away, with the occasional holiday visits, we’ve moved back & now in the dramatics of his family 3hrs from us pulling and my family 5 minutes pulling. My family is very disappointed that we want to take that three hour drive this year, but I had to remind them we spend all our time here…last Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New years Day dinner was with them.
If this is what you’ve decided to do, the best thing is to NOT back peddle or talk like your not sure or uncomfortable. When I read your first post, I thought your dad would be alone (no wife), but he’ll be fine. Plus, this is something you have only done for 5 years…it’s not like you’re pulling away after 20 or 30 years.
It’s not fun or easy and there will be many more holidays or family events you’ll have to make a decision to compromise or stand firm.
Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving!