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angel12
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I hope you’ve cut off contact with these people.
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Eleni1
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I try to cut them off in my heart is sad but you have not point arguing or explaining but the enlisted members see you at the store giving you stingy eyes calling you a name and all for silly reasons at least with my husband’s family. I have been accused I pulled my husband away our only crime we got married but we were still here for them but never they show us. At 3 and 4 years old our kids I brained washed our kids somehow not to like my husband’s family they couldn’t understand how to tie their shoes let alone I brain washed them. Because sometimes we couldn’t attend my Mother in laws Christmas due to I lived 18 hours away or maybe being sick I was accused I am taking my Mother in laws Christmas. The worse thing was when my Son met his future wife they did not approved of her called her names and didn’t believe my Son’s kids and daughter in laws wasn’t my Son’s. I had enough so I stood up. I wanted to brake that cycle that I went through with my disapproval entering my marriage and my Mom’s disapproval entering her marriage with my father and his family disapproving her. Of course on both sides I am their enemy and the one that is the bad person. But I believe it doesn’t matter how much a person attends church or they believe it goes back to the principle don’t judge or you should be judged. In my eyes I can think I am perfect but I don’t know that that’s why Priests pray for our salvation and for God to have Mercy on us is his final call. All I can say from my experience to new Parents with Adult kids entering marriage accept their future spouses and don’t try to control them nor they have to much your expectations. God bless and I am sorry for the long post.
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Kathleen8
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I am praying for you…I have been there…I lost…luckily i got away. You have been given good advise…kids need their mom. Get a shark lawyer…no more submissiveness…get an education online be good to your self…Alwways report any incidents to the police…God bless.
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GoodDad1
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My ex-wife is a narcissist. I always saw her as mentally sick and didn’t want to ever leave a sick spouse.
Then after 23 years, 5 kids, and without a real warning, she tricked me out of the house, recruited a dozen helpers to take nearly everything out of the house, closed my bank accounts, and hid my kids from for 3 months. Yes I prayed and yelled at God claiming he duped me those dark days.
But I understand that I had to go through that darkness to realize how nice it is to not walk on egg shells. Things are better with my two youngest because I won 50/50 custody after a full trial where she lied repeatedly under oath, but there is still a lot of parental alienation damage, especially amongst the 3 oldest kids.
A key characteristic is that narcissists lack empathy. How is anyone capable of the Catholic concept of marriage if he or she lacks empathy? I know in my deepest being that I was never really married.
I won at difficult trial because I proved her alienation of my kids and I’m now working through the nullification process. I know she will not undergo an mental examination as required by the tribunal to establish personality disorders in an annulment so I don’t know what to expect.
Any thoughts?
Then after 23 years, 5 kids, and without a real warning, she tricked me out of the house, recruited a dozen helpers to take nearly everything out of the house, closed my bank accounts, and hid my kids from for 3 months. Yes I prayed and yelled at God claiming he duped me those dark days.
But I understand that I had to go through that darkness to realize how nice it is to not walk on egg shells. Things are better with my two youngest because I won 50/50 custody after a full trial where she lied repeatedly under oath, but there is still a lot of parental alienation damage, especially amongst the 3 oldest kids.
A key characteristic is that narcissists lack empathy. How is anyone capable of the Catholic concept of marriage if he or she lacks empathy? I know in my deepest being that I was never really married.
I won at difficult trial because I proved her alienation of my kids and I’m now working through the nullification process. I know she will not undergo an mental examination as required by the tribunal to establish personality disorders in an annulment so I don’t know what to expect.
Any thoughts?
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runningdude
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One step at a time. You have to get yourself out of the situation and give yourself time to heal before you think about annulments and dating again.
Full custody may be difficult, but an arrangement with court ordered child support may be possible so that you can live independently of him with the children.
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Joe_5859
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That sounds like quite the ordeal. I don’t really have any insights into what you might expect to see from the annulment process. I will say a prayer that it all goes well for you.
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Lifeisbeautiful3
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It depends a lot on how you respond in the paperwork that goes to the tribunal.
Was the person at the time you were married able to make a lifelong commitment? Your description of recent events suggest that she wasn’t.
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GoodDad1
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The person I married never had any empathy so I don’t believe she was ever capable of marrying. My ex won’t allow herself to be evaluated by a psychologist so I don’t know how the tribunal will proceed.
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Viki63
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My ex was never evaluated by a psychologist. They simply asked some friends of ours for information. I don’t know what was said, but it was apparently simple and quick. The annulment came through.
Good luck.
Good luck.
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Rozellelily
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I’m very sorry @Eleni1
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Rozellelily
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Hi @Eleni1
I don’t expect this to be of any comfort but often when people (like your father) are raised in these “toxic” situations themselves they don’t always have the insight to see that there is something unhealthy happening.
Is it a case that your father was also beaten as a child or saw his own father hit his mother?
I’m making the guess that you are Greek?
I also was raised in a European home that could be patriarchal and had witnessed similar things.
In your case it’s even worse though because your fathers relative are caught up in it too instead of being peacemakers etc.
They possibly feel torn between being loyal to your father but also see that this shouldn’t been happening to your mum.
It seems that your upbringing is still having an influencing factor in your own life currently as the “pattern” continuing with your husbands family.Is you husband of the same nationality?
It’s wonderful though that you have been “the hero of the situation” and have broken the cycle by being so accepting and welcoming of your sons wife
I don’t expect this to be of any comfort but often when people (like your father) are raised in these “toxic” situations themselves they don’t always have the insight to see that there is something unhealthy happening.
Is it a case that your father was also beaten as a child or saw his own father hit his mother?
I’m making the guess that you are Greek?
I also was raised in a European home that could be patriarchal and had witnessed similar things.
In your case it’s even worse though because your fathers relative are caught up in it too instead of being peacemakers etc.
They possibly feel torn between being loyal to your father but also see that this shouldn’t been happening to your mum.
It seems that your upbringing is still having an influencing factor in your own life currently as the “pattern” continuing with your husbands family.Is you husband of the same nationality?
It’s wonderful though that you have been “the hero of the situation” and have broken the cycle by being so accepting and welcoming of your sons wife
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