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Lou2U
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He’s acting like a normal teenager. Distancing himself from his family and prioritising others are all part of him growing up. I think you need to accept that and take a step back. It sounds as though you have been his mother and have taken over from your actual mother. You need to learn how to be his sister.
Also, you should really be focusing on your life and not living through his. It’s not his fault you felt obligated to spend time with him instead of your friends, and he does not need to feel ungrateful for a choice you chose to make.
You’re not his mother. Let her do the parenting. Stop making sacrifices - that is not your job. Be his sibling, be someone for him to talk to and spend time with. Lose the idea that he’s “your baby”.
Also, you should really be focusing on your life and not living through his. It’s not his fault you felt obligated to spend time with him instead of your friends, and he does not need to feel ungrateful for a choice you chose to make.
You’re not his mother. Let her do the parenting. Stop making sacrifices - that is not your job. Be his sibling, be someone for him to talk to and spend time with. Lose the idea that he’s “your baby”.
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Irishmom2
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I don’t know if I would say you are crazy…
But were you ever 14 or 15? I dont condone your brother’s sexual activity or his lying about having a girlfriend, but you and your mom dislike his girlfriend just because she is his girlfriend.
You probably will only put more of a wedge between you and your brother by telling him you don’t like his girlfriend. You sound a bit jealous and petty about something that was bound to happen: your brother growing up.
Your parents, not you, should be the ones to have a talk with him and teach him about chastity.
Jason Evert’s books and website, chastity.com are good resources.
But were you ever 14 or 15? I dont condone your brother’s sexual activity or his lying about having a girlfriend, but you and your mom dislike his girlfriend just because she is his girlfriend.
You probably will only put more of a wedge between you and your brother by telling him you don’t like his girlfriend. You sound a bit jealous and petty about something that was bound to happen: your brother growing up.
Your parents, not you, should be the ones to have a talk with him and teach him about chastity.
Jason Evert’s books and website, chastity.com are good resources.
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Clementine14
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I realize that you are quite a bit older than your brother, but you should stop thinking of yourself as an authority figure in his life. That is your parents’ job. He is not “your baby”.
It’s understandable to be disappointed if he chooses to spend time with his girlfriend over you, but it is not fair of you to expect him to stay the same as he was when he was a small child. You need to let him have his own friends and let him decide how much time he wants to spend with you. And focus on making friends of your own, and other things like work.
Try to get to know his girlfriend. You don’t have to like her, but if your brother is important to you, it would be worthwhile to at least give her a chance.
It’s understandable to be disappointed if he chooses to spend time with his girlfriend over you, but it is not fair of you to expect him to stay the same as he was when he was a small child. You need to let him have his own friends and let him decide how much time he wants to spend with you. And focus on making friends of your own, and other things like work.
Try to get to know his girlfriend. You don’t have to like her, but if your brother is important to you, it would be worthwhile to at least give her a chance.
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Legend
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I can’t help but wonder…is this the same Nicole, who, just about nine years ago, started a thread that allowed us to follow her through a very personal, very adult situation?
If so, I can certainly understand how she got so involved about her brother’s upbringing. Although she most likely has gone too far, I can certainly discern her reasons.
Well, no more advice, as likely she doesn’t want any more. But, good to see this person again. And, if she is someone new…well, welcome!
If so, I can certainly understand how she got so involved about her brother’s upbringing. Although she most likely has gone too far, I can certainly discern her reasons.
Well, no more advice, as likely she doesn’t want any more. But, good to see this person again. And, if she is someone new…well, welcome!
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Nicole_55
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Hello Legend,
No, most definitely a different Nicole.
Thanks for stopping by
No, most definitely a different Nicole.
Thanks for stopping by
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Irishmom2
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What happened to the OP? Without it, the rest of this thread makes no sense…
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