Brother's invalid marriage

[maryjk]

They are guilty of fornication. Why do you encourage the sin. I have seen your advise before **never have I seen it bring the couple back. ** Accepting the sin only encourages them to remain in sin.

It took years but I came back. (Of course you don’t know me)

I was married civilly. At that point my parents accepted that I was married.

If we stayed with them, we stayed together. Prior to that, when we stayed with them, we stayed in separate rooms.

If my parents had treated me as you are suggesting, I would have told them to take the plank out of their eye.

 

[adrift]

If we stayed with them, we stayed together. Prior to that, when we stayed with them, we stayed in separate rooms.

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This is contradictory. You stayed together and you stayed in sperate rooms. I know of parents in the situation you describe. There children never came back to the Church. I will not allow unmarried people in my house to share a bedroom. You equate that to removing a plank form my eye

 

[maryjk]

This is contradictory. You stayed together and you stayed in sperate rooms. I know of parents in the situation you describe. There children never came back to the Church. I will not allow unmarried people in my house to share a bedroom. You equate that to removing a plank form my eye

Prior to being civilly married, when we stayed with my parents, we stayed in different room. After being civilly married, we did not. We slept in the same room. Sorry if that wasn’t clear.

We were married civilly for 11 years before I returned to the Church. In fact, we just had our second 10th anniversary. In other words, 10 years in the Church, 21 years total. Yes, we celebrate both.

adrift, I have no idea if you have a plank in your eye. I simply told you what I would have said to my parents.

LaSainte, I think this point illustrates very clearly that Baptizing a child, then not bringing them up in the faith is a really bad idea. ( I am in no way indicating that you are doing that, thought of doing that or recommended someone else does that.) I can’t count how many times people will post on the forums that a priest told them that they couldn’t have their child baptized because there wasn’t any evidence that the child would be brought up in the faith. There are so many people here that get upset and basically tell them to priest shop.

Being baptized obligates you to being married in the Church. Now, unlike before, there is no way to officially remove yourself from the obligations.

So, it could be that a child is baptized. But receives no other Sacraments. They could even attend a different church for most of their life. Heck, they could be atheists. They are still obligated to marry in the Catholic Church.

For me, I consider those people married even if they don’t get married in the Church.
For you? Only you can make that decision.