Bullying at work

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TheLittleLady said:
Bullying is a squishy term.
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Zach said:
If it’s a clash of personalities it’s one thing.
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I agree that the line is gray. My best way to measure is this: If it’s bullying, the bullies create an environment that makes you flat-out intimidated or scared to be around them.

I’ve worked with persnickety, petty office gossips who had petty excuses for not liking me. Not bullying. My trick is to live and work in such a way that the outsider hearing the gossip wouldn’t believe them.

I’ve also worked with an office bully who would get in my face, shout, and humiliate me in front of co-workers, (one of my superiors, of course). I was young and just quit. If it happened today, I’d like to think that I would A) warn him to stop and B) contact HR.
 
I really appreciated your comment, “I would let your work do the talking by doing your best there. I would not bring up a former manager to a current one; you may end up looking like a trouble maker.” I have been doing this and you just gave me the encouragement to keep on the path. Thank You so much.
 
This has happened to me, also, in the past. Money and power, and position does strange things to people. It is obviously evil. I think about that TV show called Survivor where they vote you off the island. Apparently this happens in the real world as well.
 
@TheLittleLady gave you great advice. Do your job the best you can, and keep written track of your accomplishments at work to ensure they are documented in your performance reports. The bullying will pass. You’ll learn as you grow older the less you’ll care and develop thicker skin.
I think back to on specific individual who tended to bully and take credit for the work of others. He is several years older than me. I retired seven years ago and he’s still working. I can’t help but smile a little thinking of that. 🙂
 
A bully is insecure. A person confident and comfortable is his or her own skin doesn’t need to bully anyone. Pray for the bully and wish him or her a better life. There’s usually some complex involved – either an inferiority or superiority complex. Bullies are unbalanced. You are fortunate you no longer have to work for or with these folks.
 
canadaryan said:
I don’t have to work with them anymore … how do you deal with these people?
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My suggestion is to just get over it.

Some people are knuckleheads. If I’m blessed to be in the position of not being required to interact with them, I will actively ignore and avoid them.
 
One thing forgot to mention, please don’t ever think bullying is your fault or you deserve it. No one deserves to be treated like dirt.
 
This is not something that is easily translated from job to job. Some places have more enlightened HR. We have a good HR here, but I take it as a blessing.

Is there anyone in your organization with a passion for anti-bullying? That would be who you should ask for advice. I know because I am that guy in my office.
 
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