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anon64350612
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Wow. I could be a hugelkultur! Never thought of that. Just Kidding!
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Pup7
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I am out of likes.
That is one of my favorite books.
She will make you LOL sometimes with the things she comes up with. I had to take the dust jacket off because the picture is a foot with a morgue toe tag on it, and people were giving me funny looks when I would laugh out loud.
(The opening meeting at the plastic surgery convention with the spring pastel tablecloths and her single thought about that woman is hilarious…or how the guy used to like his Rice Krispies…)
Yes. Read it. It’s very informative, accurate, well researched…and amusing at times, despite the subject matter. It is not a grim read at all.
That is one of my favorite books.
She will make you LOL sometimes with the things she comes up with. I had to take the dust jacket off because the picture is a foot with a morgue toe tag on it, and people were giving me funny looks when I would laugh out loud.
(The opening meeting at the plastic surgery convention with the spring pastel tablecloths and her single thought about that woman is hilarious…or how the guy used to like his Rice Krispies…
)Yes. Read it. It’s very informative, accurate, well researched…and amusing at times, despite the subject matter. It is not a grim read at all.
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Pup7
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Most funeral parlors won’t take uncashed policies as collateral. They work off short-term loans that you can pay when your policy pays out.
She’s saying that because funeral homes are a business. It’s like buying a car. Go in, ask your questions, and don’t let them sell you stuff you don’t need or guilt trip you into stuff like innerspring mattresses (I am not making this up) and caskets that look like they were designed to compete with the Sistine Chapel.
Again, not kidding.
She’s saying that because funeral homes are a business. It’s like buying a car. Go in, ask your questions, and don’t let them sell you stuff you don’t need or guilt trip you into stuff like innerspring mattresses (I am not making this up) and caskets that look like they were designed to compete with the Sistine Chapel.
Again, not kidding.
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pianistclare
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We have had families who had an insurance policy to cover final expenses for someone.
When they went to the Mortuary to make final plans, the original quoted price for services was $15 grand. After they let the Funeral Director know that they had $25 grand coming from insurance, all of a sudden “extras” got piled on and they ended up spending nearly the entire sum on the funeral. If they had not let on they were using insurance money, they likely could have had the same services for the originally quoted price.
You have to be very care and deal with very reputable people.
When they went to the Mortuary to make final plans, the original quoted price for services was $15 grand. After they let the Funeral Director know that they had $25 grand coming from insurance, all of a sudden “extras” got piled on and they ended up spending nearly the entire sum on the funeral. If they had not let on they were using insurance money, they likely could have had the same services for the originally quoted price.
You have to be very care and deal with very reputable people.
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Pup7
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Yep. Like a car dealer.
I’m not against people making a living. I’m against chicanery.
Our funeral home with my dad was wonderful, and that is the one we will use for my mom. They were compassionate and experienced at dealing with Arlington National Cemetery, which took some expertise.
My dad was a retiree, so his funeral was at the bottom of the list for full honors. He died 13 years ago tomorrow, and he wasn’t buried until May.
There was a storage issue…but as he was a veteran, as a courtesy, we were charged for one day and not 30. We did not ask, they said it was something they do for vets and families, as we have no control over when the funeral is and we go on a waiting list.
So I share that to say there ARE good funeral homes out there that do look out for, well, clients.
I’m not against people making a living. I’m against chicanery.
Our funeral home with my dad was wonderful, and that is the one we will use for my mom. They were compassionate and experienced at dealing with Arlington National Cemetery, which took some expertise.
My dad was a retiree, so his funeral was at the bottom of the list for full honors. He died 13 years ago tomorrow, and he wasn’t buried until May.
There was a storage issue…but as he was a veteran, as a courtesy, we were charged for one day and not 30. We did not ask, they said it was something they do for vets and families, as we have no control over when the funeral is and we go on a waiting list.
So I share that to say there ARE good funeral homes out there that do look out for, well, clients.
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Alex337
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I hope this isn’t an insensitive question, if it is please feel under no obligation to answer. But with military funerals are any specify requirements? Such as type out coffin, embalming, etc?
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pianistclare
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I really don’ think so, Pug would know. Or @BoomBoomMancini.
When my dad died, I don’t remember us having to do anything special, but they did play Taps, and give my mom the flag that flew over the State capital that was on his coffin at the burial.
When my dad died, I don’t remember us having to do anything special, but they did play Taps, and give my mom the flag that flew over the State capital that was on his coffin at the burial.
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pianistclare
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Yes, I know of some great ones as well. To give people encouragement, always ask the Parish Administrator who they prefer. Some are much more accustomed to handling a CATHOLIC funeral and all that goes with it, the customs, the expectations for the Mass, and the importance of what is allowed and not allowed.
Your parish will know who is very good.
Your parish will know who is very good.
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Maximilian75
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@Spyridon is former USAF. Maybe he’ll know?
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Spyridon
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I’m a lowly former enlisted Airman. A peon of peons.
Ask @pup7, she’s a current active duty Officer! This question is above my paygrade.
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Maximilian75
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Air force? more like #Chairforce
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(jk jk)
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Spyridon
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True, true.
Although the Security Forces (military police) are pretty militant, and often get attached to Marine and Army infantry units.
Also, the USAF has some of the most hardcore SpecOps people - Air Force PJ’s, Combat Controllers and TacP’s will give Navy SEALS a run for their money any day of the week.
But besides SO and SF, yeah, the USAF is pretty much the Chair Force. Or maybe the Beer Force.
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2towers
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Not sure about the finish, but I do know that the person should not be wearing anything but natural fabrics, there should be no plastic or rubber shoes [leather is ok] no embalming fluid, no metal caskets or casket parts, no vaults. Wooden or stone natural markers with carved inscriptions are also ok.
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TheLittleLady
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Because THIS!!!
Research the actual law in your state (I’ve seen funeral homes charge $$$$ to drive the cremains to the parish for the Mass and then to the interment site. In every State I’ve researched, this is not a legal req. Someone in the family or a friend can pick up the cremains and transport them in your own car. (A few times we on parish staff have gone to pick up the cremains for a family).
Preplan, preplan, preplan.
Not only with the mortuary but also with your parish.
Research the actual law in your state (I’ve seen funeral homes charge $$$$ to drive the cremains to the parish for the Mass and then to the interment site. In every State I’ve researched, this is not a legal req. Someone in the family or a friend can pick up the cremains and transport them in your own car. (A few times we on parish staff have gone to pick up the cremains for a family).
Preplan, preplan, preplan.
Not only with the mortuary but also with your parish.
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Spyridon
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You should be able to find the answer somewhere in here:
http://www.mortuary.af.mil/About-Us/Policy-Directives/
http://www.mortuary.af.mil/About-Us/Policy-Directives/
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pianistclare
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Amen!
Also, please note that cremains cannot be placed inside another coffin
People ask. The answer is no.
Like they never got around to interring aunt Susie, and they just want to tuck them in Mom’s coffin under the misguided thought “well, they would want to be together”. No
State laws prohibit this in CASE one has to be exhumed. You only get permission for one at a time, Not two. No bueno
Also, please note that cremains cannot be placed inside another coffin
People ask. The answer is no.
Like they never got around to interring aunt Susie, and they just want to tuck them in Mom’s coffin under the misguided thought “well, they would want to be together”. No
State laws prohibit this in CASE one has to be exhumed. You only get permission for one at a time, Not two. No bueno
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Spyridon
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If someone had a yard of their own and were broke, could they just bury their aunt in their yard?
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Maximilian75
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I think it depends upon local zoning laws.
A whole body, certainly not.
Not advocating this but if you were cremated and got a wooden urn, you could probably subtly just bury it…
A whole body, certainly not.
Not advocating this but if you were cremated and got a wooden urn, you could probably subtly just bury it…
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Spyridon
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That’s what I meant. LOL, I didn’t mean just carrying grannies carcass out to the back yard
The only differences I can think of are:
A cemetery is consecrated earth.
The law, I am fairly certain, does not allow for disposal of human remains outside of a cemetery or authorized location.
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Maximilian75
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I mean, a priest could bless the ground, but then he would become an accomplice in this whole misdemeanor or what have you
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