..Bus trip to DC (Right to Life)

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I’m an 18-year-old girl who has been courting a 16 1/2-year-old for the last year 🙂 …we’re heading to DC in about a month, for the second year, for the Right to Life march… It is a 10 or 11 hour trip, over night. Is it appropriate for Grant and I to sit together on the bus, knowing that I will (and he probably will) fall asleep? We wouldn’t be tempted to do anything (except probably cuddle a bit). We’re going down with our church youth group. Would it be different if he were awake and I slept, or would this make no difference?

He believes that it’s inappropriate 'cause it’s for all night and while he allows me to sleep, on occasion, that by sleeping beside me he would be “taking what is not yet his.”

I was upset about this–as there is another couple in my youth group that thinks nothing of sitting together/falling asleep together on the bus, but I cannot convince Grant otherwise (unless he really believes it’s right). And, I would not try to convince him, either, he will come to his decision on his own.

I am interested in knowing your opinions.

Thanks!
 
Well, Emily, as an 18 year old you are an adult and your boyfriend is not. If you DO get caught in a compromising situation, depending on the state, you could go to jail. That’s just fatherly advice to remember.

In the present situation, I can tell you that you can sit close by, like one in one seat and one in the seat behind, to remove temptation but allow you to talk during the trip. Don’t temp yourselves on that long bus ride, some of which will be in the dark.

And, quite frankly, if nothing is going to happen, why not remove the hint of scandal and not sit in the same seat?
 
Grant and I would not be tempted to do anything…so, temptation is not an issue. He is worried about scandel. And, yes, I am an adult. He is not. I would be arrested should we do anything, but we would not. Hence, age, nor the fact that I am an adult/he is not is not an issue.

I enjoy being with him and hanging out with him and talking with him, etc, which is why I would like to sit with him. Also, we sat together last year, and he seemed fine with it, but is not this year.

I realize it’ll be dark on the bus. And quiet, etc… most people will sleep. But, that still won’t be a problem. We aren’t married and both of us are completely committed for waiting 'til marriage for anything and everything sexual.

Thanks for your thoughts… 🙂
 
You could sit in one seat, and your boyfriend across from you in the row over. You don’t want to commit scandal, even if some other youth want to.
 
My freakin goodness…so when you go on a date you shouldn’t sit close to one another? If one of your sets of parents takes you two along on a trip, you should separate with one in the front and one in the back?

:rolleyes:
 
He believes that it’s inappropriate 'cause it’s for all night and while he allows me to sleep, on occasion, that by sleeping beside me he would be “taking what is not yet his.”
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Emily, if you’re courting this boy, I assume you care for him. If he believes what he said, why not respect him? In my years, I have learned that it is *much *easier for a girl to sleep next to a boy without being tempted than it is for a boy who sleeps next to a girl. That’s just a fact of life.

You’ve gotten a couple of good suggestions about how to be near him without causing scandal.

You said that one couple is already sleeping side by side. If you and Grant join them in doing so, you could inspire another couple, without your fortitude, to do so and possibly fall into sin. That’s what “scandal” means.

So over all, I like Grant’s idea best. After all, if you wind up married to him, you’ll have a lifetime of sleeping next to him to look forward to!

God bless you, and happy new year!

Ruthie

P.S. Thanks for participating in the Right to Life events. I wish I could!
 
Thanks guys-especially Ruthie-who made me think some more.

Grant and I have come up with an acceptable compromise for us each. We will sit together, but cuddling has been vetoed, especially after the lights are out. And, if this causes trouble, one of us will move to the floor to sleep.
 
And, the lifetime of sleeping next to each other will be a definite perk of being married… 🙂

Sometimes being young is hard. And sometimes being good is harder, especially when the majority of people in my area are not. (Not complaining and/or making excuses). …many “Catholic” youths do not behave in ways that Catholics should. I’m guilty, too, I believe… …I try to be good, though. And, Grant is always there to make sure I am. …he says it’s his job.
 
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