I’m not, I simply answered a question put forth by noclevername.
Just ask my dh, he will tell you that I NEVER pushed him, it was ALWAYS his choice to marry and stay married. I just supported him (in the bad times

) and kept on loving him - because it’s never about sex alone!!
I never have cryed ‘foul’ - I think you would like me to be doing so, but I am not, nor do I have a need to (perhaps sadness at the time would be more an appropriate term to use).
Oh that is so not true. When I was unclear as to what to do at the time, I took the road of popular truth that perhaps he did need to go and live a gay lifestyle to sort himself through this and I told him as much!

I only wanted truth, I didn’t want to see him suffer so much (at that particular time). This is what real love requires.
He chose otherwise and now we see that would have been like throwing him to the lions to be devoured all over again.
Says you - if you don’t believe in these teachings as adamantly as you make out, why not leave? You always have a choice.
The reality is that he never wanted it - it took faith made of guts on his part to say I do - and guts to work his way through all of the past trauma that had led him into this lifestyle in the first place. Marriage was the sacrament that gave him the ability to do this, I totally accepted his orientation and in doing so, he was in a space where he did not have to go seeking for his identity. The road has been long, but not impossible. He actually was quite excited to give me a diamond eternity ring for our wedding anniversary last week - knowing full well he could give it out of the honesty of his love for me. When I discuss these conversations on here with him, he just tells me to let it go - unless a person wants to willingly change they will NEVER hear the TRUTH.
Excuse me?? Since when, in our fallen natures, have we been able to give unconditional love? That, my lad, comes from God alone. I also don’t know of one mature marriage that hasn’t been exposed to heartache. I think you need to learn about relationships and what they entail before you start speaking like this. If you’re expecting to find unconditional love in your partner, you are going to be in for a LOT of heartache.lol
I’m sorry that you’re appear to be so angry, my prior posts were simply answering a question. Just breathe!! for heaven’s sakes.