Can a man and a woman "just be friends?"

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Without a romantic entanglement developing?

I say no. One or the other is gonna eventually get smitten. :love:

I know with me, if I was friends with a girl I was still looking for a way to get her to like me more or she was doing the same
and sooner or later one likes the other more or they :love: :yup:

So if you have an opposite sex friend-------watch out, if you’re not after them, they’re after you. :yup:

What say you?

ps----same with gays, only same sex friends instead.
 
Of curse they can, especially if one has already a wife/girlfriend.
Love does not always mean romantic love. :hug3:
I only wanted to be more than a friend to a girl ONE TIME.
 
A pollhas been done and EVERY woman said YES and every man said NO!

I take the men’s word on it and my personal experience. NO. Never had a guy friend who didn’t eventually start hopi g for more. Not one.
 
itullian said:
:nope:

i think you women are a little naive about this.

give that man friend half a chance and he’s going for you…:yup:
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No, not naive. Mature and in a good marriage. I have friends of the opposite gender and so does my husband.

You can speak for yourself and your experience. But in my life, a man and a woman just being friends works.
 
There are other factors.

I’d say yes, and I am male. Their respective ages, life states, etc, all factor in.

ICXC NIKA
 
They can, but not in the same way that two women can be friends or two men can be friends. It’s still a friendship but just different.
 
No, of course not, no one can help but to date every person of the opposite sex. :rolleyes:
 
Yes, they can. Most of my male friends have been in my circle since long before I knew my husband. Most are married themselves now and have kids. Some of those kids are friends with my kids. Some are friends with my husband, other are not. These are mostly friendships of forty years or more. I look forward to them (and my girl friends) keeping me laughing well into old age. If there was going to be anything romantic, it probably would have happened long before now.
 
If there’s no attraction, and they get on like buddies, or if they are professional acquaintances in the workplace, sure.

But if there’s attraction, then, No. It’s too dangerous, especially if either of them are married, ordained etc.
 
Yes, I think strictly friendship between man and woman is possible, but very difficult to do when there’s physical attraction involved.
 
itullian said:
Without a romantic entanglement developing?

I say no.
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You are 100% correct, of course.

Everyone knew this until Feminism became a mainstream ideology in the 1970s as a result of its positive portrayal in movies, on TV, in high schools and universities, and as a result of the flooding of women into the work force at about this same time.

The trouble is that once you acknowledge that men and women cannot be just friends, then you are also acknowledging that women can never really be equal in the workplace or in the professions, since life in workplaces and in the professions is based upon informal networks of friends. This has often been called “the old boy’s network” or “the men’s club.”

So, then what are women supposed to do? Just stay home and have babies and raise children? Well, that is mainly what women in the USA used to do, and is mainly what women in Muslim countries still do.

But, in the America of today, even Catholic and Christian women feel ashamed if they don’t have a career outside the home. Most of them feel this way anyway. They have no choice about this shame. It is imposed on them by the General Society in which they (we) live.

Even so, your position is still correct. Romeo and Juliet could never “just be friends.” Dante and Beatrice could never “just be friends.”

Even in lower social mammals, such as apes and wolves, we see that there is a male section of the group, and a female section of the group, and the members of each section stay apart except for purposes of mating, reproduction and perhaps raising and protecting the young ones.

The saddest thing to see is when a guy thinks the way to get a gal as his girlfriend is to first become her friend. Some women make the same mistake with guys. I’ve NEVER see a case of this having a happy ending, have you?

Furthermore, all this goes to show that “romantic love” is not unselfish. Some people feel that romantic love between a man and woman is all about unselfish giving and so on. But, in fact, unselfish giving is really only possible in non-romantic family relationships or in non-romantic same-gender friendship relationships.

This is why, in former times, non-romantic same gender friendship relationships were always exalted as more important than than romantic or marital relationships.

It was not until fairly recent times that the idea came into vogue that one’s relationship with one’s spouse was one’s most important relationship.

Isn’t that amazing?
 
How many girls who have liked one of their guys friends been turned down? If anyone has then that proves that guys do not always want to date their female friends. Any guys here who have turned down a female friend for a date? Also proves that guys can have female friends without wanting to date them. And the poll shows women can be friends with guys without wanting to date them, as well as the phenomenon known as the “friend zone.”

In summary, Yes, men and women can be just friends.
 
I’ve always had male friends who were just that…friends. Besides I know why too much about them to even remotely consider dating them.
 
If you are a teen-ager or immature young adult immersed in contemporary secularist behavior, then the answer is a resounding NO!
However once one is mentally and emotionally mature, than the answer is yes.
The whole argument that a man and woman cannot “just be friends” is a result of an irrational desire of many young men to bed every girl or woman he meets (except possibly his mother or sister). This is largely due to raging hormones during adolesence, and culturally promulgated by the secular culture, such as the entertainment industry and the likes of Playboy magazine.
 
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In summary, Yes, men and women can be just friends.
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And if the friendly association is a good one, it may not be worth the trouble to “go further”, because if a romantic relationship does not survive, going back to simple friendship might well be too hard.

ICXC NIKA
 
I’d say all too easily.

Speaking as a 35 y/o single man, I’ve found it difficult to find women with whom I actually want to become romantically involved. Maybe I’m too picky, but don’t believe in shoehorning romance.
 
Yes, of course. Its tougher when there are romantic feelings on both sides involved, but even that’s possible-I’m still close friends with an ex-girlfriend, although when we broke up we did have to agree not to talk to each other for a period of several months.
 
Of course they can. I have a large and diverse group of friends, and all but one are male.

I think it says a lot about how you view and treat the opposite sex if you can’t maintain a friendship with them without things turning romantic and/or sexual.
 
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