Can a marriage last forever

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Can a marriage last forever? It sounds impossible compared to the high divorce rate in our society. Can anyone give any example or advice? Do you really have Agape love between you and your spouse? To me, it kinda sounds incredible.
 
I am sorry I didn’t express my question clearly. By “forever”, I meant “until death.”
 
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Can a marriage last forever? It sounds impossible compared to the high divorce rate in our society. Can anyone give any example or advice? Do you really have Agape love between you and your spouse? To me, it kinda sounds incredible.
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We live IN our societies, and are not OF our societies. Our societies tell us one thing, and Christ tells us the truth.

A constant state of “bliss” is not what marriage is about. It is about being committed to a lifelong union, as two persons of one flesh, regardless of what comes.

Just as Christ will never forsake His Bride the Church, and she will never forsake Christ, we are to make our decision to marry very VERY seriously and soberly and with the help of the wisdom of our elders, and once made not forsake it until death.

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I am sorry I didn’t express my question clearly. By “forever”, I meant “until death.”
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I knew you did. I was just joking with you .

Seriously don’t you know any couples married for 50+ years? Don’t they advertise that kind of thing in your newspapers?

I’ve been married 24 years. It’s not all peachy keen all the time. There are good times and bad times. There is love and happiness and virtue, suffering and sin and forgiveness. There is comittment.

Not really sure what you are looking for. The TV and movie romance to last and last? That’s not real marriage.
 
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Can a marriage last forever? It sounds impossible compared to the high divorce rate in our society. Can anyone give any example or advice? .
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yes it can if both parties are determined to make it happen and if they trust in God. if they marry with mental reservations, are determined to trust in their own efforts and purely human love, and intend to wrest control from God, they are probably headed for the Big D.
don’t quite get agape love in the context of marriage, that is great but does not quite describe the marital relationship, so I can’t answer that question.

you also have to move past love as romance, sentiment, physical attraction, chemistry, and “I need you” and get to the part where love is an act of the will. if stay embroiled in the romance phase you will not move into the deeper truer love that lasts through challenges and disasters.
 
Marriage is between a man, a woman, and God. God is love itself, and with God anything is possible.
 
Of course it can. Mine did. Love lasts as long as you decide to make it last.
 
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Can a marriage last forever? It sounds impossible compared to the high divorce rate in our society. Can anyone give any example or advice? Do you really have Agape love between you and your spouse? To me, it kinda sounds incredible.
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My wife of 20 years have agape love between us; however, that doesn’t mean we don’t go through trials. Marriage is a vocation. One has to work at it to make it last, and perhaps most important one has to have the will to work at it. It’s a beautiful thing and as close to living within the Trinity that one can come in this life.
 
Well, we haven’t reached forever yet, but we ARE going on 17 years and are still quite happy. I know a lot of people say that the romance fades, feelings diminish, and love becomes an act of the will…but for us, it simply isn’t cut and dried like that. We still have a lot of romance, bliss, and even occasionally that heady feeling we had way in the beginning. However, we have all that PLUS something much deeper-----a tremendous bond forged by going through all sorts of ups and downs, joy and anguish, health and sickness, births and deaths. Going through it all hasn’t always been a picnic, that’s for sure, but the bond we have developed from being in the trenches together is something that is simply priceless.

So I don’t think it’s necessarily an either/or situation—either you have romance and excitement OR you have an act-of-the-will kind of love. For us, it is all blended together but has definitely become much stronger through the years.

I do have to admit that I don’t know many truly happily married couples; even most of the “devout” Catholics I know (and I do know a lot of them! 😃 ) don’t have very happy marital situations. I suppose it’s fallen human nature that makes living with another human being very difficult for most. I am humbled and deeply grateful that God sent a man into my life who is VERY easy to live with!!

Lauren
 
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No, it lasts until death.
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About that, I know what Jesus said in the Bible, so it’s true in Heaven, no one is married?

I find that hard to believe since familial relationships would still exist.
 
My wife and I are a week shy of 38 years. My parents 57-year marriage ended with my dad’s death in 2004. Four of my six surviving siblings have been married 25+ years. Another brother had been married 22 years at his death. Original spouses in all cases.

Possible? You bet, but it takes, like everything worthwhile, a lot of work and prayer.
 
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About that, I know what Jesus said in the Bible, so it’s true in Heaven, no one is married?

I find that hard to believe since familial relationships would still exist.
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Well , no one has gone on to heaven and come back to report exactly what it is like there.

I’ve read speculation from various theologians that the primacy of the marital relationship is no longer necessary . That is a mode of sanctification for us on earth. We will feel that primacy with everyone in heaven. I’ve read that we will probably know our loved ones and still have our knowledge of our relationships with them though.
 
I believe that when young, our parents know us most fully; In marriage it is our spouse that knows us most fully. All this knowing is through the love bond. Love seeks to know so it can love more, and more love seeks more knowing to love more again… and on and on it grows. Of course, God knows us best, but here on Earth, it is those closest to us that do.

Have you ever heard a child say “you don’t understand me!!!” This understanding is what we find in marriage while here on earth. Without marriage, it can be found with Christ/God, as one Nun told me she was married to Jesus… as Christ has called His Church His bride.

PS: going on 37 years of marriage.
 
dumbseeker said:
Can a marriage last forever? It sounds impossible compared to the high divorce rate in our society. Can anyone give any example or advice? Do you really have Agape love between you and your spouse? To me, it kinda sounds incredible.
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Sure it can last until death do you part. We didn’t always have this high divorce rate in society. It was the likes of Margaret Sanger and others that have deteriated marriage in our society. Artificial Contraception, legalized abortion, sexual revolution, etc. have taken its toll on marriage. Divorces are obtained way too easily. People now days go into a marriage with the attitude that if it doesn’t work out, they can always get a divorce. That is why the divorce rate has finally past the rate of those who stay married. I believe 52% of marriages now end in divorce.

There is some optimism in the statistics. There are still 48% people who do remain married. Hopefully this upcoming generation is a little more conservative and these statistics will reverse.
 
My wife and I have been married for over 34 years. Our parents were married for over 50 years. We learn what marriage is from our parents. Good or bad. We were both taught that marriage vows were sacred. As the scripture says " Better not to vow then to vow and not pay." A poet once put it this way:
" I slept and dreamt that love was beauty.
I woke to find that love was duty."
 
Can it last? Of course!!! First and foremost, put God first in the marriage and realize that you are married to your spouse AND God!!! HE puts you together and forms the bond between you…

My parents have been married for 46 years and I have now been married very happily for 14 years and plan to keep it that way!!
 
yes marriage can last until death.

2.5 years going on 50? 60?
 
Yes, til death do us part.

At times, I have wanted to hasten that along. :eek: No, not really. But my wife and I are celebrating our 25th this year, and we joke that it’s been 20 years of wedded bliss.

A marriage can last forever if both parties believe that it will and are willing to work hard towards that end.
 
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