Can a retired Priest be a RCIA candidate's sponsor or godfather?

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I am not placing my priest before Christ. I chose him for my soul’s safe and sound. I cannot find anyone else. This Priest has as same culture as mine. I feel easier to talk to him when i have problems.
 
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OP, it is quite possible that when he said “cannot” he actually meant “will not.” As in, does not want to be your sponsor or godfather. You need to find someone else, a relative, a friend, or someone from parish that will be happy to be your sponsor. I know you said you don’t want a stranger, but sometimes, there is no other option.
 
I came up with questions because two priests have different answers. One said No and the other said Yes.
 
I am speaking of the priest that you specifically want as a sponsor that said he cannot.
 
I can understand that. Nobody likes to be told “no.”

Still, your sponsor does not have to be him. Since you are having difficulties finding one, perhaps this priest can help you in that regard. I hope so. Know that I am praying for you to find a sponsor so you can return to the Catholic Church. God bless you 🙂
 
Up to the priest, I know priests who have served as baptism sponsors for both infants and for adults. I know some who never serve as sponsor unless it is a family member. Ask him, if he says “no” don’t take it personally, respect his choices.
 
It could be the timing; most parishes bring their RCIA class into full communion with the Church at the Easter Vigil. Maybe he does not feel he can be your sponsor and celebrate (or co-celebrate) the Holy Saturday Mass. Or maybe, he doesn’t want to say yes to you for fear that he is setting a precedence.
 
Well. This Priest is old enough to be like my Father. I consider him as God Father. I do not want to have sponsors who are not 18 years older than me. Basically, when i learn religion and practice faith, i use my Willpower to resolve everything myself. 90% using my Willpower, 10% i may run into Priest to ask if I get stuck after I cannot google around.

That’s why the old Priest is the right sponsor for my Willpower side.
 
Thanks all for answering. I found out the reason after spending 2 days of meditation, collecting answers online, and putting myself into my Priest’s position. Even though he cannot sponsor me, he is still be my God Father in my heart and mind. The reason that i found out is that my Priest and others are still afraid of “humans’ lips” on this human worls. On the other hand, i reached to the highest level that i am no longer afraid of “humans’ lips”. To protect my Priest, i chose the others.

But according to the code of canon law, a priest can be a sponsor. Now it depends on if a Priest reaches to the level that he is not afraid of humans’ lips anymore?
 
Maybe there is a translation problem? I have never heard this “human lip” thing.
 
From his story, from the craziness on this human world, from my meditating time, from reading the code of canon law, from my willpower and from many people who still like judging the book by the cover. From these reasons, i need to protect my Priest by choosing the others in the ministry. Personally, i chose the couple who are at least 18 years older than me. Even though i reached the highest level that i do not care or I am at tired of how and what many other humans on this world still like to judge the book by the cover, i need to protect my Priest by choosing the others. However, in my heart and in my Priest’s heart, we still know that i am like his God dauggter and he is like my God Father. I have to sympathize and understand that many Priests do not get the highest level that they can smile at any obstacles created by humans.
 
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I give you a simple story. Supposing that your husband is having lunch with another woman, and your friend sees them having dinner together. Then your friend tells you about this. If your friend has an angel mind, she never judge the book by the cover. Unfortunately many people today in this human world still judge the book by the cover.

Many priests are still afraid of this.

What is the highest level? 5 years ago, i was still surprised by humans and by what is happening in this human world. Today, i am not surprised anymore, and i laugh at what humans are causing in the human world. 5 years ago, i said “i am not surprised by the Universe, but i am surprised by humans.” today, i am not either surprised by the Universe or by humans.
 
You may not know the story. There was a Priest who got a wrong accusation. In stead of living 3 more years, he died 3 year ealier because of wrong accusation. Therefore, many Priests are afraid of being sponsors to RCIA.

That’s why I said many Priests do not reach to the highest level that they can be still and smile at any obstacles caused by humans. On the other hand i saw and smiled at any obstacles happening to me which caused by humans.
 
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Well humans’ lips… I meant many other people still like judging the book by the cover or wrong accusation or gossip. Many Priests got wrong accusation because of “humans’ lips”.
 
I will pray for your priest, it would be very difficult to be a pastor when you could not be a sponsor for fear of an accusation. 😦
 
It is not my Priest. The story is from the other Priest. Therefore, my Priest and other Priests today are aware of this story. Strongly do I agree on this human world, there are still evils who like to judge the book by the cover.
 
I would be confirmed now rather than waiting over half a decade.

Remember as well, it sounds like you have already invested some time into RCIA classes. God gave us limited time on Earth. Why waste that gift of time that God has given you? Take advantage of these blessings which others do not have. There are poor single parents who have a burning in their hearts to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation but cannot attend classes because they have children and a home to take care of. Recognize how blessed you are to have this opportunity in your life at the moment. I would not wait.
 
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