I would encourage you to read Pope Pius XII’s encyclical Mediator Dei on the Liturgy and excerpts of pope Pius X’s work on the Liturgy.
I’m not sure if you’re aware, since it appears you just joined the forum, but we’ve been over questions about liturgical music dozens of times on this forum. You are highly unlikely to enlighten Irishmom or any other regular poster, or change their mind. Your opinion is just another in a very long line of opinions on this topic.
The simple fact is this: The Church, usually through its bishops and the pastors of individual parishes, allows a certain amount of contemporary music at OF Masses whether you like it or not and whether you think that’s correct or not.
If you have a strong preference for more traditional music, it’s a preference you have. It doesn’t mean your preference is thr right one (except to people who agree with you), nor do you have any authority in this matter unless perhaps you are some kind of music director for a parish or diocese, and even then the pastor of the parish and/or the bishop of the diocese would be the ones ultimately in charge.
Having said that, you’re free to attend a Catholic church where the Mass music is to your preference.
If a lady you wish to date has a different preference, then each of you will have to decide whether it’s a deal-breaker for dating and a potential relationship.
I must say that if I was considering dating some man and this issue of Mass music was a big deal to him, I’d probably find someone else to date, because I like Catholics who can appreciate a wide variety of musical styles in the context of the Mass and/or worship. I also think there are a lot of things more important in life than whether I hear chant, a guitar, or an organ playing at Mass on Sunday. YMMV.