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ARA23
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Dear Sir or Madam:
I see that baptisms cannot be redone because a Godparent is deficient in his beliefs or toward a child. I currently have a problem where the Godmother of my son basically does not acknowledge my child even when the child is present. She shows no acknowledgement or signs of affection much less any interest in engaging him in being a Catholic. My child is now only 19 months old. I would hate for him to continue growing up this way.
I have now learned that my son’s Godmother, who stood as the Godmother not the witness in the documentation was not in good standing with the church even though she obtained a certificate of good standing. She is divorced and remarried outside the Church without an annulment. I understand that this would make the baptism illicit.
I was ill-informed about the Godmother as she had been a relative and a good matron of honor at my wedding. I as such asked her to be my child’s godmother before I knew I was having a boy. As soon as she learned she would be the Godmother of a boy she became less and less interested. I didn’t read the signs at first. It was so bad that at the baptism she served as Godparent, but failed to give him a keepsake or even a card for the special occasion. Since then she has forgotten his birthday and even failed to ever hold him or hug him or show him any affection or acknowledgment. Not to mention she does not attend church regularly and being that she does not acknowledge him or seems disappointed that I had a male child that she will likely refuse to be in his life much less in his religious formation.
Please advise whether the illicit nature of the baptism means it can be redone or at least have a new Godparent renamed.
Thank you,
I see that baptisms cannot be redone because a Godparent is deficient in his beliefs or toward a child. I currently have a problem where the Godmother of my son basically does not acknowledge my child even when the child is present. She shows no acknowledgement or signs of affection much less any interest in engaging him in being a Catholic. My child is now only 19 months old. I would hate for him to continue growing up this way.
I have now learned that my son’s Godmother, who stood as the Godmother not the witness in the documentation was not in good standing with the church even though she obtained a certificate of good standing. She is divorced and remarried outside the Church without an annulment. I understand that this would make the baptism illicit.
I was ill-informed about the Godmother as she had been a relative and a good matron of honor at my wedding. I as such asked her to be my child’s godmother before I knew I was having a boy. As soon as she learned she would be the Godmother of a boy she became less and less interested. I didn’t read the signs at first. It was so bad that at the baptism she served as Godparent, but failed to give him a keepsake or even a card for the special occasion. Since then she has forgotten his birthday and even failed to ever hold him or hug him or show him any affection or acknowledgment. Not to mention she does not attend church regularly and being that she does not acknowledge him or seems disappointed that I had a male child that she will likely refuse to be in his life much less in his religious formation.
Please advise whether the illicit nature of the baptism means it can be redone or at least have a new Godparent renamed.
Thank you,