Hi Christopher: Thank you for your response and the specific items you listed. It gives me a chance to clarify my position and what I believe is the Church’s thinking on these specifics. We’ve been talking in generalities - which is good in terms of acknowledging the moral framework we, as Catholic Christians, operate in - but ultimately, as you have done here, it must come down to specifics - mostly because that’s the way the Gospel is lived – person to person. God is love; the Good News is about that love, personified by the God-man, Jesus - so I agree with you that if we can’t bring our ‘philosophy’ down to the everyday and the everyman, it’s not worth much to us. Thank you for bringing the discussion to this level.
Here is what I believe: First, as the Church and the Catechism insist - there is to be NO discrimination against any person, for any reason. So we must respect homosexual persons and treat them with the dignity with which we would treat Christ (whatever you do to the least of these…etc…). Of course this goes for ALL persons. We, according to our faith, distinguish between the sinner and the sin; we are able to condemn and reject the sin of homosexual
behavior while according dignity and respect to the homosexual persons, themselves. (I think many people have great difficulty with this…imho)
In order to ‘hate the sin’ (but love the sinner), it is not necessary to always and everywhere CONFRONT the sinner, as you asked about in your post. That may or may not be the appropriate thing to do; it depends on the situation and the people. The Church teaches that in ‘admonishing the sinner’ (which is what confronting the same-sex partners amounts to), we are obliged to only do so if our actions will not offend charity, make the situation worse, or drive the soul(s) further away from Jesus. This is an individual decision to be made but the important thing, per your inquiry, is that it is not required we do that. It does not violate the stance of opposition to or hatred of sin to decide, in a given case, that confrontation is not appropriate for the reasons mentioned above.
It therefore follows that I am not in favor of criminal prosecution and punishment for homosexuals who engage in sinful behavior. The Church nowhere advocates this either. This whole issue is about souls, their salvation, and the God of Love. Sometimes we can ‘confront’ (or discuss, evangelize, etc.) but not always - and possibly not even frequently or most of the time. However, we must (and this is my position) in our hearts and lives, hate and repudiate all manner of sin - (again, this does not have to be in the form of ranting at the sinner. That can easily devolve into nothing but self-righteousness!)
But we cannot compartmentalize either, and we cannot say that sin does not concern us unless it’s our personal sin. We need to repudiate and hate it with our whole being and involve our whole selves in the work against sin. So we pray, we offer sacrifice and penance in reparation, we adore God for those who do not adore Him, love Him for those who do not love Him, believe in Him for those who do not believe in Him, etc. This will be much more effective in overcoming the evil one and his influence than ranting at individual sinners. I chimed into this whole discussion because what you were saying came off to me as your saying, in effect, that someone else’s sin was none of your business and had nothing to do with you…and I hope I clarified myself in my opposition to that concept. We ARE our brother’s keeper; his/her sin affects us and gives us an opportunity to pray for them and to offer some small reparation to Love, Itself, for the disrespect and offenses any sin heaps on the gentle heart of our Father.
Thank you for your Christmas wishes…may the child of the holy night to come, touch you with His awesome love and keep you in His providence !