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SFlo123
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I have been asked to be a godmother and I said yes. I am truly honored!! but I have a boyfriend. Is this allowed?
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JanSobieskiIII
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Why wouldn’t you?
Tis_Bearself
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Simply having a boyfriend doesn’t put you out of the running.
If you are doing sinful things with that boyfriend, then that’s something else again.
If you are doing sinful things with that boyfriend, then that’s something else again.
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UpUpAndAway
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As long as you are a baptized, practicing Catholic in good standing with the Church, you may be a godmother.
Unless there is something about your relationship with your boyfriend that goes against Catholic teaching, his presence in your life is not in itself an obstacle to your being a godmother.
Unless there is something about your relationship with your boyfriend that goes against Catholic teaching, his presence in your life is not in itself an obstacle to your being a godmother.
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Mintaka
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Do you mean, “I have a boyfriend and we are dating chastely,” or do you mean, “I have a boyfriend and we are engaging in publicly scandalous mortal sins all the time”?
Generally speaking, a godmother at Baptism or a sponsor at Confirmation should be:
a baptized Catholic who is in communion with the Church,
who is over the age of reason (and usually should have received Confirmation and be over 18),
and who is not engaging in publicly scandalous activity.
So if you were a Mafioso, an abortion provider, or a gay activist who wasn’t promoting same-sex chastity, probably you shouldn’t be a godmother.
If you have a bad conscience over your relations with your boyfriend, then you should talk to him, talk to a priest, amend your life, and go to Confession. You need to set a good example for your godchild.
If you are not sinning, then there is no problem. You do not have to be married to be a godmother or godfather.
You should be willing (and make a plan, and stick to it!) to stay in touch with your godchild no matter where his/her parents move, and to support your godchild’s Catholic faith. You should also pray for your godchild often.
Godparents are important. It is a big spiritual responsibility. But you can grow into it! It is also good practice for having kids of your own.
Generally speaking, a godmother at Baptism or a sponsor at Confirmation should be:
a baptized Catholic who is in communion with the Church,
who is over the age of reason (and usually should have received Confirmation and be over 18),
and who is not engaging in publicly scandalous activity.
So if you were a Mafioso, an abortion provider, or a gay activist who wasn’t promoting same-sex chastity, probably you shouldn’t be a godmother.
If you have a bad conscience over your relations with your boyfriend, then you should talk to him, talk to a priest, amend your life, and go to Confession. You need to set a good example for your godchild.
If you are not sinning, then there is no problem. You do not have to be married to be a godmother or godfather.
You should be willing (and make a plan, and stick to it!) to stay in touch with your godchild no matter where his/her parents move, and to support your godchild’s Catholic faith. You should also pray for your godchild often.
Godparents are important. It is a big spiritual responsibility. But you can grow into it! It is also good practice for having kids of your own.
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SFlo123
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Thank you!
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pianistclare
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Godparents need not be married. They can be two single people, so long as they are practicing CATHOLICS in good standing.
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Charybdis
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A couple of my children only have one godparent. One of my daughters has an uncle as godfather and a totally different cousin as her godmother!
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redbetta
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Are you thinking that the godmother needs to be married to The Godfather? (Sorry, autocorrect is not allowing me to put that in lowercase)
That is not the case. In situations where the whole extended family is Catholic, it’s actually common practice to have the godmother be from the mother’s side and The Godfather from the father’s side. That was the case with me. Although, you can, I guess, pick one couple to be both sets of godparents.
That is not the case. In situations where the whole extended family is Catholic, it’s actually common practice to have the godmother be from the mother’s side and The Godfather from the father’s side. That was the case with me. Although, you can, I guess, pick one couple to be both sets of godparents.
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PaulfromIowa
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Canon law for baptismal sponsors:
"Can. 872 In so far as possible, a person being baptised is to be assigned a sponsor. In the case of an adult baptism, the sponsor’s role is to assist the person in christian initiation. In the case of an infant baptism, the role is together with the parents to present the child for baptism, and to help it to live a christian life befitting the baptised and faithfully to fulfil the duties inherent in baptism.
Can. 873 One sponsor, male or female, is sufficient; but there may be two, one of each sex.
Can. 874 §1 To be admitted to undertake the office of sponsor, a person must:
1° be appointed by the candidate for baptism, or by the parents or whoever stands in their place, or failing these, by the parish priest or the minister; to be appointed the person must be suitable for this role and have the intention of fulfilling it;
2° be not less than sixteen years of age, unless a different age has been stipulated by the diocesan Bishop, or unless the parish priest or the minister considers that there is a just reason for an exception to be made;
3° be a catholic who has been confirmed and has received the blessed Eucharist, and who lives a life of faith which befits the role to be undertaken;
4° not labour under a canonical penalty, whether imposed or declared;
5° not be either the father or the mother of the person to be baptised.
§2 A baptised person who belongs to a non-catholic ecclesial community may be admitted only in company with a catholic sponsor, and then simply as a witness to the baptism. "
"Can. 872 In so far as possible, a person being baptised is to be assigned a sponsor. In the case of an adult baptism, the sponsor’s role is to assist the person in christian initiation. In the case of an infant baptism, the role is together with the parents to present the child for baptism, and to help it to live a christian life befitting the baptised and faithfully to fulfil the duties inherent in baptism.
Can. 873 One sponsor, male or female, is sufficient; but there may be two, one of each sex.
Can. 874 §1 To be admitted to undertake the office of sponsor, a person must:
1° be appointed by the candidate for baptism, or by the parents or whoever stands in their place, or failing these, by the parish priest or the minister; to be appointed the person must be suitable for this role and have the intention of fulfilling it;
2° be not less than sixteen years of age, unless a different age has been stipulated by the diocesan Bishop, or unless the parish priest or the minister considers that there is a just reason for an exception to be made;
3° be a catholic who has been confirmed and has received the blessed Eucharist, and who lives a life of faith which befits the role to be undertaken;
4° not labour under a canonical penalty, whether imposed or declared;
5° not be either the father or the mother of the person to be baptised.
§2 A baptised person who belongs to a non-catholic ecclesial community may be admitted only in company with a catholic sponsor, and then simply as a witness to the baptism. "
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