Can I be vague with a mortal sin confession?

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I invite all Christians, everywhere, at this very moment, to a renewed personal encounter with Jesus Christ, or at least an openness to letting him encounter them; I ask all of you to do this unfailingly each day. No one should think that this invitation is not meant for him or her, since “no one is excluded from the joy brought by the Lord”.[1] The Lord does not disappoint those who take this risk; whenever we take a step towards Jesus, we come to realize that he is already there, waiting for us with open arms. Now is the time to say to Jesus: “Lord, I have let myself be deceived; in a thousand ways I have shunned your love, yet here I am once more, to renew my covenant with you. I need you. Save me once again, Lord, take me once more into your redeeming embrace”. How good it feels to come back to him whenever we are lost! Let me say this once more: God never tires of forgiving us; we are the ones who tire of seeking his mercy. Christ, who told us to forgive one another “seventy times seven” (Mt 18:22) has given us his example: he has forgiven us seventy times seven. Time and time again he bears us on his shoulders. No one can strip us of the dignity bestowed upon us by this boundless and unfailing love. With a tenderness which never disappoints, but is always capable of restoring our joy, he makes it possible for us to lift up our heads and to start anew. Let us not flee from the resurrection of Jesus, let us never give up, come what will. May nothing inspire more than his life, which impels us onwards!

~ Pope Francis

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If we should fall into mortal sin let us remember Jesus of Nazareth: The Lamb and the Good Shepherd (and let us think of such even daily…)…he came for sinners…to give them true life.

"Jesus is called the Lamb: He is the Lamb who takes away the sin of the world. Someone might think: but how can a lamb, which is so weak, a weak little lamb, how can it take away so many sins, so much wickedness? With Love. With his meekness. Jesus never ceased being a lamb: meek, good, full of love, close to the little ones, close to the poor. He was there, among the people, healing everyone, teaching, praying. Jesus, so weak, like a lamb. However, he had the strength to take all our sins upon himself, all of them.

“But, Father, you don’t know my life: I have a sin that…, I can’t even carry it with a truck…”.

Many times, when we examine our conscience, we find some there that are truly bad! But he carries them. He came for this: to forgive, to make peace in the world, but first in the heart. Perhaps each one of us feels troubled in his heart, perhaps he experiences darkness in his heart, perhaps he feels a little sad over a fault… He has come to take away all of this, He gives us peace, he forgives everything. “Behold, the Lamb of God, who takes away sin”: he takes away sin, it’s root and all! This is salvation Jesus brings about by his love and his meekness. And in listening to what John the Baptist says, who bears witness to Jesus as the Saviour, our confidence in Jesus should grow. Many times we trust a doctor: it is good, because the doctor is there to cure us; we trust in a person: brothers and sisters can help us. It is good to have this human trust among ourselves. But we forget about trust in the Lord: this is the key to success in life. Trust in the Lord, let us trust in the Lord! “Lord, look at my life: I’m in the dark, I have this struggle, I have this sin…”; everything we have: “Look at this: I trust in you!”. And this is a risk we must take: to trust in Him, and He never disappoints."

~Pope Francis

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"Jesus is the “Good Shepherd” who goes in search of lost sheep, who knows his sheep and lays down his life for them (cf. Mt 18:12-14; Lk 15:4-7; Jn 10:2-4, 11-18). He is the way, the right path that leads us to life (cf. Jn 14:6), the light that illuminates the dark valley and overcomes all our fears (cf. Jn 1:9; 8:12; 9:5; 12:46).

He is the generous host who welcomes us and rescues us from our enemies, preparing for us the table of his body and his blood (cf. Mt 26:26-29; Mk 14:22-25); Lk 22:19-20) and the definitive table of the messianic banquet in Heaven (cf. Lk 14:15ff; Rev 3:20; 19:9). He is the Royal Shepherd, king in docility and in forgiveness, enthroned on the glorious wood of the cross (cf. Jn 3:13-15; 12:32; 17:4-5)."

~Pope Benedict XVI

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No, it’s a morality issue. I’ve never spoken about it to anyone and I’m having a hard time picturing myself doing so, even to a priest. I’m that ashamed. I’d been planning to go to my grave with it!!! 😦

P.S. I appreciate all the (name removed by moderator)ut here. It’s very helpful. 👍
And if you took it to your grave, you would go to Hell. St Alphonsus Liguori in one of his writings wrote about a nun who had committed a mortal sin before entering the monastery and was too ashamed to confess it. She held onto it her whole life, thinking she could make up for it by severe penances and lots of prayer. Her sisters in religion thought she was a saintly holy nun when she died, except one nun had a vision of her being taken away by demons after She vomited up all the sacrilegious communions she made. She later appeared to the sisters in flames telling them to stop praying for her because she was damned for having withheld a mortal sin all those years.
 
No, it’s a morality issue. I’ve never spoken about it to anyone and I’m having a hard time picturing myself doing so, even to a priest. I’m that ashamed. I’d been planning to go to my grave with it!!! 😦

P.S. I appreciate all the (name removed by moderator)ut here. It’s very helpful. 👍
Welcome to CAF!

AND

WELCOME BACK to the CHURCH!

The funny thing about your concern here, is when you are in there, you will have a great confession and this thread will be meaningless in a snap!
 
For the past 6 months,I have been going to church after many years away and really want to be a part of it again. I was raised Catholic, went to Catholic schools, etc., and went to church every Sunday until I was a teenager. This was all during pre-Vatican II, so we’re talking a while back.

I’ve been receiving a blessing at communion time and I now feel ready to go to confession and receive communion. I think I’ve lived a pretty decent life all this time and am a good, loving person with the exception of something I did 32 years ago, which would qualify as a mortal sin. No one knows about it but me and I have been extremely remorseful all this time. I want to be forgiven before I go to communion, but I really don’t want to be specific as to what it is, in the confessional.

Is there any way I can be absolved without actually stating to the priest what it is? It is definitely something for which I’m very, very sorry and I know it would never happen again.
You should provide the minimal information to identify the number and kind of sin, and any circumstances that would change the kind, for example you did not resist lustful thoughts after the reception of communion, while you returned to your seat, could be both ninth commandment and first commandment (sacrilege) offenses.
 
I’m sure it’s something that the priest has heard before. It was hard for me to go to confession (after being away from the church for 20 years!), so you can imagine how much I had to confess! For me, getting up the courage to go and actually say out loud my sins and feel the shame for them was important. I wanted to feel the shame for my mortal sins, it was really humbling and made it very clear to me how off the rails my life had been.
 
And if you took it to your grave, you would go to Hell. St Alphonsus Liguori in one of his writings wrote about a nun who had committed a mortal sin before entering the monastery and was too ashamed to confess it. She held onto it her whole life, thinking she could make up for it by severe penances and lots of prayer. Her sisters in religion thought she was a saintly holy nun when she died, except one nun had a vision of her being taken away by demons after She vomited up all the sacrilegious communions she made. She later appeared to the sisters in flames telling them to stop praying for her because she was damned for having withheld a mortal sin all those years.
Whoa, you don’t know that this or any other person would go to hell based on what they have said here!
 
Whoa, you don’t know that this or any other person would go to hell based on what they have said here!
If they die in the state of mortal sin the Church is quite clear that they go to Hell.
 
No, it’s a morality issue. I’ve never spoken about it to anyone and I’m having a hard time picturing myself doing so, even to a priest. I’m that ashamed. I’d been planning to go to my grave with it!!! 😦

P.S. I appreciate all the (name removed by moderator)ut here. It’s very helpful. 👍
Many years ago, I received an instant healing after confession in which I was vague in confessing an habitual sin of which had control over me for at least 15 years. After five years I began to have some doubt and wondered if it was just that my will power had gotten so strong that I overcame it myself. God let me know immediately that without Him I can do nothing. I am convinced of the power of the grace of Confession. So my answer to the original question is , yes, you can be somewhat vague and not have to go into any detail.
 
Just take a deep breath and go to confession. While in confession ask the priest how detailed he wants it to be. I do this and the priest always says just to give him the gist of it.

Confession is between you and your priest. The forum members here may state their opinion but in the end it is between you and the priest.
 
But it is not you that determines whether they were in a state of mortal sin because they were vague in confessing a sin.
Nor is it you who can determine they are not. but more importantly nor can the Church determine what needs to be forgiven. The power to bind and loose was given to Her. How can She exercise it if She does not know the sins She is binding and loosing?🤷
 
So my answer to the original question is , yes, you can be somewhat vague and not have to go into any detail.
Depends on what one means by “somewhat vague”.

The Church teaches one must give number and kind for mortal sin. Such as “adultery 3x, murder 4x”. The species of the mortal sin must (ordinarily) be confessed. S one cannot be too vague or general - the actual mortal sin must be confessed. One cannot normally just say a sin against such and such commandment. One must get to what that sin was -be it in the technical terms or in some other clear way. The Priest needs to know what the species of the sin was - even if one uses “more vague” language. It needs to get to what the mortal sin was. Unnecessary details are well unnecessary. The Priest can help one.

Of course for venial sins -such can be more general.
 
Confession is between you and your priest. The forum members here may state their opinion but in the end it is between you and the priest.
It is important to not that it is not “an opinion” that one must give number and kind for mortal sin. That is clear teaching of the Church. See Canon Law etc.

(While there can be exceptions due to the state of the penitent at that time - such are exceptions.)
 
Priests guide confessions.

When you get to the end of your confession and hear those great words by the priest, don’t come back here and double guess yourself if you said everything properly, because of what someone wrote about rules.

Someone who goes to confession for the first time in years, probably won’t know all the rules.

Maybe most people who go to confession, don’t know all the rules.

The priest will guide the confession as necessary.

Take care,

Mike
 
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