Can I get a new Sponsor?

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I was Baptized Catholic in 2018. At the time my sponsor was amazing. Unfortunately, at lot has happened. She accused me of many terrible things including things involving her husband (who was like a godparent) so I have absolutely no contact with them anymore. That being said. I’ve recently moved to a new town and really want/need help with the Catholic Church here. Is it possible for me to request a new sponsor? Or can I notify my current one I would no longer like her as my godparent?
 
If I’m not mistaken, the baptismal sponsor(s) of record remain(s) the baptismal sponsor(s) of record no matter what happens afterwards.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t seek out other people to assist you in nurturing your faith, though.
 
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Welcome to CAF. I’m sorry that a religion issue is a source of worry for you. You have my sympathy and prayers.

Talk to your priest. Your priest is almost always your best friend in matters relating to the faith. Sometimes, you may need to talk to more than one to find a better rapport, but usually your parish priest, once he understands your issues, will be best able to guide you.

Please contact the moderator and ask for a different user name. It is not a good idea to use your own name.

Best wishes in sorting out your spiritual needs.
 
Unfortunately, no. Your sponsor at baptism remains that forever. Think of it like the maid of honor at your wedding—even if you stop being friends, she was still the person who witnessed your marriage and whose name is signed on the license.

That said, you can certainly find someone who can ‘mentor’ you in the faith and fulfill the role your sponsor should have.

And yes, I agree with @Minks —please contact a moderator about a different user name.
 
Your sponsor is a fact of your baptism and confirmation. That doesn’t mean you must have a relationship with them.

Ask the pastor at your new parish for help with a spiritual mentor.
 
Should I notify my past sponsor/godparent that I’m seeking a new mentor?
 
Do you know if I need to inform my sponsor I had during baptism? It seems like the right thing to do by informing them that I am seeking a new sponsor
 
No, you can’t change Sponsors, as they are witnesses of public acts, recorded in your baptismal record.

You can always appoint someone who is a better role model and guide to your spiritual health unofficially; but the Church can’t erase the name of the original sponsor and replace it with a different person.

Practically, I don’t see the long-term wisdom in notifying the original sponsor that you don’t want her any longer. You can simply find guidance and support from a different person without fanning any smoldering flames.

Deacon Christopher
 
Thank you for the answer! I wasn’t sure if I should tell her that she was relieved of her position. I remembered her mentioning that she has a few godchildren so I thought I would be one less.
 
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I wasn’t sure if I should tell her that she was relieved of her position.
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Well, this you shouldn’t do, since she isn’t “relieved of her position.” She’s still your baptismal sponsor. As others have said, however, you don’t need to have a relationship with her.

I do recommend praying for her. (You never know, things could improve between the two of you.) But seek out other people who can help you in the present to develop your faith. These would not be new sponsors, but fellow Catholics with whom you can grow in faith. And a spiritual director—I recommend that highly!
 
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No, because you’re not. A spiritual mentor is not your sponsor—that will never change.
 
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