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I am a Catholic convert and want to get married eventually, when or if that’s Gods will. Would I be able to get married in the adoration chapel, rather than in the church?
 
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Not while the blessed sacrament is exposed.
I’m pretty sure you can’t have mass and exposition at the same time.
 
Speak with your pastor. They may or may not permit weddings in the chapel.
 
I don’t want a big extravagant wedding and am a Catholic convert and I don’t want bridesmaids or an expensive dress. All I care about is the man I’m going to be married to and getting to pick the readings and the eucharist.
 
A church wedding doesn’t have to be a big extravagant thing. You may not be able to marry in the Adoration chapel, but you could still marry in the regular church and not have all those things.
 
You can validly marry without a Mass, to be clear, though I am not sure why one would choose that personally.
 
No, I want our first meal together to be the Eucharist. There has to be a mass!!
 
You can indeed have a Mass but not have the white dress and all the flowers and the dozens of guests. It’s not wrong at all to want simplicity.
 
His_helpmeet said:
You can indeed have a Mass but not have the white dress and all the flowers and the dozens of guests. It’s not wrong at all to want simplicity.
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At the same time you only get one wedding in your life. You could easily regret not spending or not putting enough into the day, you probably won’t regret spending a little extra and having a big party.
 
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I don’t want a big extravagant wedding and am a Catholic convert and I don’t want bridesmaids or an expensive dress. All I care about is the man I’m going to be married to and getting to pick the readings and the eucharist.
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You do not have to have any of those things to be married in the Church and in the actual church building. You can be married at a daily mass, Sunday mass, or a separate nuptial mass. You can have guests not, you just need two witnesses. All that other stuff is optional.
 
My point is if you want to get married in an Adoration chapel, you can, but it wouldn’t be Mass.

If you want to have Mass at your wedding, you can but it will likely not involve the adoration chapel.

Of course, you can be validly married without either, though that wasn’t my choice.

It sounds as though you want an intimate setting with Mass more than an adoration chapel, per se.
 
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My point is if you want to get married in an Adoration chapel, you can, but it wouldn’t be Mass.
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Unless you are her pastor that is not your decision to make.

A parish may have a chapel where Adoration takes place. That does not mean that the pastor cannot repose the Eucharist and celebrate Mass in the same chapel.
 
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A parish may have a chapel where Adoration takes place. That does not mean that the pastor cannot repose the Eucharist and celebrate Mass in the same chapel.
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This is true. I think you would have to repose the blessed sacrament during the actual mass. Though you could have a time of adoration after mass if you wanted.
 
True, I was talking generally. And haven’t seen it done, but that isn’t to say it hasn’t or can’t be done depending on the Pastor. But the point I was making was the need to clarify what was important, since it sounded as though the desire was for a small, intimate ceremony with Mass. The Adoration Chapel seemed kind of thrown in as it is small and more intimate.
 
Not thrown in I love the name of the chapel and I don’t want a big empty church and then just me and my future spouse. That would be umm, well, empty. I don’t need to walk down an aisle having people look at me or say vows in front of a lot of people and have my voice shake and not be able to even repeat anything. If they demand that the ONLY way to have a valid Catholic marriage is done at the church, then they are going to have to make accommodations to meet my needs for a small space and not a lot of people. An anxiety free day. I want a mass. If they don’t allow it in the adoration chapel, I’m going to elope and come back and then get a convalidation then I won’t have to walk down the aisle and have a shaky voice or cry and not be able to recite vows. It’s worse to have a big wedding with a mass and people who think they are Catholic, but don’t go to church or haven’t been in years receive the Eucharist. Since receiving the Eucharist without examining yourself 1st, brings condemnation on yourself. Then having a convalidation in front of mass goers will be better, because everyone there would most likely be able to recieve. That is the true celebration and reason for having a church wedding anyway. Celebrate with other believers and mass attendees at our own church. Convalidation is really just an acknowledgment and bringing your marriage into the church, in front of the congregation. Im a catholic convert so, why have a big church wedding if no one goes to the Catholic church, that would be invited on my side of the bridal party?
 
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Not likely. I have heard many people say how their wedding should have been simpler, I do not recall ever hearing anyone say they wished they would have had a more extravagant wedding.
 
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