Can my marriage be blessed if

[Heart_Of_Mary]

I posted this in another forum but wanted to see what other members thought or knew about the subject.

I wanted to know if my marriage can still be blessed even if my husband does not want to participate? He is not Catholic (I am) and is supportive of my choices as long as he is not expected to participate. I have been given different answers to this dilema; some say I can have it blessed and others say I cannot. What say you members?
KB

 

[axolotl]

Heart Of Mary:

I posted this in another forum but wanted to see what other members thought or knew about the subject.

I wanted to know if my marriage can still be blessed even if my husband does not want to participate? He is not Catholic (I am) and is supportive of my choices as long as he is not expected to participate. I have been given different answers to this dilema; some say I can have it blessed and others say I cannot. What say you members?
KB

Ask your priest about radical sanation.

 

[Siena]

I want to know if you are/were bound by the rules of the CC at the time of the marriage ceremony? What were the circumstances of your 1st mariage? (What rel. were you at the time? Who married you? Did you have a dispensation to marry?)

 

[Heart_Of_Mary]

axolotl:

Ask your priest about radical sanation.

Can you tell me what that is so I know what I am asking about ?
Thanks -
KB

 

[Heart_Of_Mary]

Siena:

I want to know if you are/were bound by the rules of the CC at the time of the marriage ceremony? What were the circumstances of your 1st mariage? (What rel. were you at the time? Who married you? Did you have a dispensation to marry?)

DO you mean my marriage that I am wanting to have blessed? I did not mention a 1st marriage (though there was one and I am working on that one as we “speak”)

KB

 

[Heart_Of_Mary]

Heart Of Mary:

Can you tell me what that is so I know what I am asking about ?
Thanks -
KB

I just found a terrific explanation online. Thank you!
KB

 

[Siena]

Heart Of Mary:

DO you mean my marriage that I am wanting to have blessed? I did not mention a 1st marriage (though there was one and I am working on that one as we “speak”)

KB

???

The marriage you are in now-

-What rel. were each of you at the time of the wedding?
-Where were you married?
-Was either of you married before? (Ended in divorce?)
-If 1 or both of you were Catholic at the time, did you recieve a dispensation (official permission) to marry each other, or to marry outside the Catholic Church?

I’m trying to get a feel for what your marriage looks like from the perspective of the church. (Different responses to my questions, would have me give a different answer about if I think a church blessing is necessary to have a valid marriage)

 

[Heart_Of_Mary]

-<<What rel. were each of you at the time of the wedding?>>

ANSWER:I was Catholic (though had been non practicing for about 6 years)- <<Where were you married?>>

ANSWER:At home - from someone that we found in the yellow pages

-<<Was either of you married before? (Ended in divorce?)>>

ANSWER:I was married twice before - first lasted 6 weeks to a man who had been married several times before (all ended in divorce), was never Catholic and had no annulments. What can I say? I was very young and very stupid…The second ended with the death of my husband

-<<If 1 or both of you were Catholic at the time, did you recieve a dispensation (official permission) to marry each other, or to marry outside the Catholic Church?>>

ANSWER:Technically I was Catholic (once a Catholic, always a Catholic, right?) Had not been attending Mass for many years at that point

 

[Siena]

OK Heart- Here is where I will ask you to start-

Get an annulment from your 1st marriage. Go to your local parish priest and ask him about this. This should be easy and quick, b/c there is no chance of you being married to him in the eyes of the church.

If you had said that you and your dh had never been married previously, I believe the church would presume your marriage valid. (If not sacramental) It then might not be nessesary for both of you to participate in a blessing to be considered valid.

Now, you are not even considered married to him at all in the eyes of the church.

Please go talk to your priest- 1st and foremost- clear up your past “attempt” at marriage, he can tell you where to go from there.

(What of your dh? Was he ever Catholic? Was he ever prieviously married? If he was , I presume he would need a Catholic annulment as well.)

I am not familiar with “radical sanitation”.

 

[Heart_Of_Mary]

Thank you for your (name removed by moderator)ut. I really do appreciate it. And no, my husband never was Catholic and this is his first (and last ) marriage (we were not exactly spring chickens when we married )

Here is what I found on Radical Sanation:

Participation

Yes, your marriage can be validated in the Church without your spouse’s participation in the process of validation, provided that his consent to marriage can be demonstrated to continue to be present, which from your statement appears to the be the case. Since you failed to observe canonical form, the canons (1159, paragraph 3; and 1160) require that for validation - the giving of new consent according to canonical form, what most people call “being blessed” - the canonical form must now be followed. This means that both you and your spouse must participate. However, the Code of Canon Law also allows for a process called radical sanation. You should go to see your parish priest and discuss this matter with him. If the parish priest thinks the circumstances are correct, he can ask the Diocesan Bishop to grant a radical sanation which is “the retroactive validation of an invalid marriage … without the renewal of consent granted by the” Diocesan Bishop. Canon 1161 paragraph 1 says that this radical sanation (which means, literally “a healing at the root”) “involves a dispensation … from the canonical form if it had not been observed, as well as a referral back to the past of the canonical effects.” This means that, if granted, the radical sanation would cause your marriage to be held as a valid and sacramental marriage from the day that you entered the civil marriage. Again, please talk to your parish priest.
Answer provided by:
Very Rev. Kevin Michael Quirk, JCD
Judicial Vica

 

[Heart_Of_Mary]

I am not familiar with “radical sanitation”.

I think that is when you clean your house too much

(the term I was told was “radical sanation” )

KB

 

[Siena]

Heart Of Mary:

I am not familiar with “radical sanitation”.

I think that is when you clean your house too much

(the term I was told was “radical sanation” )

KB

LOL!