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LittleSoldier
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Oh wow, don’t worry about offending people. I didn’t feel offended at all; just surprised a bit and then very saddened because it was obvious you were suffering and I didn’t want you to leave. I’m so sorry at what happened to you. I’ve had two miscarriages and understand the experience. My doctor told me to abort and I told him no but it was too late anyway. My daughter was dead and, yes, she was delivered into a toilet, just like yours.
My doctor didn’t care. They took my child and dissected her, without our permission and then they threw her away like garbage. We never got to bury her - they called her “tissue” or “human tissue” but never “your baby.” Nobody said they were sorry or asked what they could do. My doctor sent me home without even telling me that I would go through delivery and when I did it hurt so much and I remember crying for my husband. Nobody knew what to do.
This all happened almost thirty years ago. I thought things would have to be better but now I wonder if they have improved at all. I’m so sorry. I’m just so sorry.
And I’m sorry that you were raped. It sounds like you have had a rough life. I can’t identify with you as a rape victim but believe me, I feel for you.
You are right about prayer. Prayer can be so powerful and we should pray for all women who feel the despair that leads them to such a drastic decision. Sometimes I forget to do that and you have reminded me about how important it is. Thank you.
I’ve known people who have had abortions and feel horrible about what they’ve done. But one thing I’ve learned while debating the abortion issue is that the mother shouldn’t be condemned. The mother is a victim. I get very angry at physicians who should know better and for places like Planned Parenthood that are very good at talking unsure women into having abortions and denying that any woman who goes through that experience develops emotional problems afterward. As a child of God you know that He loves you. I know God understands and is a merciful judge and will forgive anything. Anything and everything. Someone told me that the worst sin anyone can imagine is like a drop of water in an infinite sea of God’s love. That’s held me together at times. I hold onto God’s love like a life preserver.
There are groups that can help you grieve over your losses, both your baby and your innocence. I hope somebody here knows how to find out how to access them. You can try calling your church. If you’re not Catholic you can still call the local Catholic church and ask them. Or a local clinic or hospital should have that info. I’ve thought about going to some of these groups to deal with my losses.
I don’t know what else to say except that I am so happy that you have stayed. You are probably right about staying out of the abortion threads for now - they can get nasty, although many of the prolifers have lost children through abortion and/or miscarriage. You are very strong. I know that because it took guts to come back and post again.
Does anyone here know where she can go in CAF to get some support? I don’t know but it seems to me there must be a support group or two that can help.
I wish the best for you. Maybe if we all stand together we can stop atrocities like rape, abortion, and the way miscarried children and their parents are treated. You are in my prayers. I hope you find peace.
God bless you!!
Christina
I do believe you’re right. That’s the second time this has happened to me. I’m the OP of a thread right now and I try to keep a close eye on it so that it doesn’t go off-topic.
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