Can someone help me out?

[MartyrForJesus]

I struggle with ‘annoyance’. I get annoyed very quickly and very easily, and often do things I don’t mean to. For example, when I just got home from church I was told by my dad to bring in the bins. Easy enough, however before I could do that my mum asked me to put the radio on. I was struggling to get the radio on because of an annoying remote that wouldn’t work properly, and my mum then said “Why haven’t you moved your iPod already!?” (When I got home I put iPod on the table) or something along those lines. That made me really annoyed. I raised my voice saying “I’m trying to get the radio on, I can only do one thing at a time!” and handed her the remote of the radio in an annoyed fashion.

A) Was this a mortal sin B) How can I get less annoyed in the future.

(The situation listed is almost the same to what really happened, but I modified it and changed names so it’s less personal.)

Thanks!

 

[Bob_Crowley]

I struggle with ‘annoyance’. I get annoyed very quickly and very easily, and often do things I don’t mean to. For example, when I just got home from church I was told by my dad to bring in the bins. Easy enough, however before I could do that my mum asked me to put the radio on. I was struggling to get the radio on because of an annoying remote that wouldn’t work properly, and my mum then said “Why haven’t you moved your iPod already!?” (When I got home I put iPod on the table) or something along those lines. That made me really annoyed. I raised my voice saying “I’m trying to get the radio on, I can only do one thing at a time!” and handed her the remote of the radio in an annoyed fashion.

A) Was this a mortal sin B) How can I get less annoyed in the future.

(The situation listed is almost the same to what really happened, but I modified it and changed names so it’s less personal.)

Thanks!

I don’t think it’s a mortal sin, since it was spontaneous. I suppose it was a venial sin.

We all get these irritating interruptions from time to time. Obviously you’re young, so you’re going to get a lot more of these sorts of incidents down the years. Just wait till you’re married …

You’ll just have to learn to live with them. If you know you’ve got a tendency to getting annoyed quickly, then you’ll have to work on it. Simple as that. There are no short cuts.

Although to some extent your irritation was in fact justified. Just the same I think I’d get the batteries in the remote checked if I were you. As the old joke goes, “How Come You Press Harder On A Remote-control When You Know The Battery Is Dead?”

If you get the remote fixed (check the batteries) and you’ll have removed one reason for getting annoyed.

And you can only do one thing at a time.

 

[lutherlic]

It’s not a grave matter.

It is a struggle to change fast, reactionary anger but can be done. You just need to work on it.

In a situation like this, try to catch yourself and think it through before saying anything. There is no need for a reply within a second or two. A better answer would be to agree that you needed to move the iPod (agreeing on something is the easiest way to disarm most confrontations) but wanted to get the radio on first. Who could argue with that? Everyone would be happy and you wouldn’t be stressed.

 

[MartyrForJesus]

Thanks guys.

 

[emisher]

Thanks guys.

Hey Marty,

Yes, I agree this is certainly not mortal sin. It’ just part of the human nature that we all have.

I too suffer from irritability. What I do is try to figure out what makes me irritable and try to adjust it if I can.

Secondly, whenever I get annoyed and say something I regret to my wife, I will usually feel really badly. What I do is say a quick prayer and I can usually apologize right away. Sometimes I will go into my room and kneel down and tell God how sorry I am. Then I get up and start again, confident as I can that He understands my weaknessess and wants to help me through them.
So always ask the Lord to help you with whatever you’re struggling with.

God Bless

 

[chemoangel]

You may benefit from taking Tae-Kwon-Do Classes. My husband used to be like you. Now he’s in control of his mind.