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Norm_The_Robot
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So many seem so certain that the devil would not or could not do this. Why couldn’t he?
They’re kind of pointless. More like a game than science.Your mistake is in assuming that polygraphs are accurate in the first place. I
My thought is that if a spouse is so far gone they need a polygraph to confirm or deny faithfulness, the devil has already won the battle.
My answer is to the original questions is “no”. People are responsible fro their own bad decisions. The devil may tempt, but we decide.
Yes, and yes. Time for marriage counseling, but maybe not from someone that recommends trying to get proof, but rather someone that will help you both overcome the issues before you. Repentance and honesty. Forgiveness and ability to move forward.The matter is for a trained counselor, therapist or a priest. If one has to hire a polygraph operator…that ship has sailed.
Mistrust is the biggest destroyer of marriages.
If one can’t speak frankly to their spouse, then marriage counseling.
What is to be gained by proving a liar?
Does it fix the bond? No.
If one is looking for a way out of the marriage they will find a way.
I don’t recommend this tactic to anyone who is serious about SAVING a marriage and repairing it.
So if he confessed to you…how would that make it better?You are very wise. I agree about the trust issue. I have lost trust with my husband. At times I feel that I should file for divorce, but my Catholic Therapist is helping me see the good in him and she wants me to forgive him. Trust is very difficult to rebuild after it has been lost. My husband lied to me several times. Now because of his lies I don’t know what to believe. He still won’t confess to me that he had lap dances with a stripper. Also, there is a “questionable” relationship that he had with a former female co-worker 15 years ago. He denies everything. My therapist told me that he is ashamed of what he has done and doesn’t want to lose me. He is afraid that if he tells the truth, I will file for divorce.
I do believe that the polygraph is a “horrible” example of rebuilding trust within a marriage. Our former Marriage Counselor (Non-Christian) recommended this to us. It opened up a huge can of worms and I am still traumatized by the results of the test. Sometimes I do feel that the devil is playing games with my marriage.
Therapist said that my husband will never admit to the truth, because he is ashamed of what he has done. She said that he won’t admit or confess to me, because he is afraid of losing me. My therapist told me that I should work on forgiving my husband.It appears you have had this same problem fro 2 years. now.
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What does the therapist suggest?
I agree with the therapist. Forgive and move on. If you can’t. Them that’s an issue for you to tackle with your priest.Therapist said that my husband will never admit to the truth, because he is ashamed of what he has done. She said that he won’t admit or confess to me, because he is afraid of losing me. My therapist told me that I should work on forgiving my husband.
Any thoughts?