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Charlotte408
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Can you get married without using wedding rings?
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whatevergirl
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*You can. Oh wait not you, as in Charlotte lol
In general, rings are not required to get married.
I personally believe wedding bands are a sign of the beautiful Sacrament you’re taking, and I treasure my rings.
But, it’s not required to validating a marriage.*
In general, rings are not required to get married.
I personally believe wedding bands are a sign of the beautiful Sacrament you’re taking, and I treasure my rings.
But, it’s not required to validating a marriage.*
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forever_always
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i think that rings tend to be more of a “sign” of the sacrament, and not a necesity
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crazzeto
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As a guy, believe it or not I wouldn’t feel right getting married with out rings… I would question whether my spouse viewed this as a permenant thing or not.
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whatevergirl
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Nice to hear you say that, crazzeto. My dh feels the same, and so do I. I love my e-ring, and wedding band…I feel like something is missing, if I were to leave home without wearing them. My husband, the same. To each’s own. 
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cthulhubryan
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I cannot imagine not wearing my wedding ring. While not required for validity, it does bring me joy when I feel down.
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Big_Ro
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I don’t think rings are necessary. On a different tangent, I once wrote a paper on marriage practices. The reason we put the ring on the fourth finger is because it was custom to start with the thumb and say, “In the name of the father”, proceed to the index and say, “and of the son”, the middle finger and say, “and of the holy spirit”, and then the ring finger and say, “amen”. My wife and I did it at our wedding. I thought it was cool.
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Rascalking
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Why couldn’t you?
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Zooey
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Yes, it is possible to be married without a ring (or rings). Many of the “plain” groups like Mennonites, and Amish have none. (They wear no jewelry of any kind…some even use straight pins rather than buttons to avoid ornamentation). Some conservative Quakers are giving them up (not a lot, I think).
Also there are Conservative Holiness groups that use no wedding band. My one grandmother was married in such a service, & there is no place for a wedding band in it. My other grandmother also had no wedding ring, because they never had any money for jewelry, including wedding rings.
My parents were also married in a Holiness ceremony, but Daddy slipped the ring on Mom’s hand during the prayers & blessing. (It came from Woolworth’s and cost whatever they were charging for a plain brass band in 1941…It was all all he could afford, & she never took it off, even when it–ineveitable for brass–turned her finger green and itself black).
Also there are Conservative Holiness groups that use no wedding band. My one grandmother was married in such a service, & there is no place for a wedding band in it. My other grandmother also had no wedding ring, because they never had any money for jewelry, including wedding rings.
My parents were also married in a Holiness ceremony, but Daddy slipped the ring on Mom’s hand during the prayers & blessing. (It came from Woolworth’s and cost whatever they were charging for a plain brass band in 1941…It was all all he could afford, & she never took it off, even when it–ineveitable for brass–turned her finger green and itself black).
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bpbasilphx
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In the Byzantine tradition, the rings are the symbols not of the Sacrament of Matrimony, but of the Betrothal, which is done first.
The actuall signs of the marriage are the Crowns.
The actuall signs of the marriage are the Crowns.
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LaLucia
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Some men don’t like to wear wedding rings. My wealthy relative’s wedding ring looks like a very “thin washer” ring. It is the type of ring that plummers use to fix a leaky faucet.lol.
His wife started laughing when I said that.lol.
My ex-spouse couldn’t were a wedding ring to work because he worked around machinery.
It could get stuck in the machines so he would only wear it when he wasn’t working.
There are many creative ways of making cheap rings. I remember some people saying they used to use cigar covers or silver gum wrap as rings. Some can be made out of carved wood, sea shells, ribbons, etc. I have seen rings made out of elephant hair.lol.
Recently a gal got engaged by wearing a twisty that is used for loaves of bread. Her boyfriend say that when his poor father proposed to his mom and he put a twisty on her finger.
So she also got one when he proposed as a tradition and then later on he gave her a diamond ring.
Just giving out some TRIVIA on rings.
His wife started laughing when I said that.lol.
My ex-spouse couldn’t were a wedding ring to work because he worked around machinery.
It could get stuck in the machines so he would only wear it when he wasn’t working.
There are many creative ways of making cheap rings. I remember some people saying they used to use cigar covers or silver gum wrap as rings. Some can be made out of carved wood, sea shells, ribbons, etc. I have seen rings made out of elephant hair.lol.
Recently a gal got engaged by wearing a twisty that is used for loaves of bread. Her boyfriend say that when his poor father proposed to his mom and he put a twisty on her finger.
So she also got one when he proposed as a tradition and then later on he gave her a diamond ring.
Just giving out some TRIVIA on rings.
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whatevergirl
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*That is a neat story, Lucia. I love that twisty ring idea. It’s totally romantic!!
I believe in the tradition of rings. Doesn’t have to be a rock, or a diamond, could be any stone you like or no stone at all…but, I believe in the tradition of a man getting down on one knee, asking a woman to marry him, with a ring. This tradition goes back to my grandparents and their parents way back in Italy, when they had hardly two cents to rub together. They wore modest bands…so I told my dd…if a man wants to marry you, I don’t care if the band is $50…he is buying you a ring. This dates back hundreds of years in our family, both on my mom’s and dad’s sides. AND on my husband’s sides of his family. And my son will buy a woman a ring, and get down on one knee. I won’t ask for much when they’re adults, except to carry on tradition!
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It’s totally romantic!!I believe in the tradition of rings. Doesn’t have to be a rock, or a diamond, could be any stone you like or no stone at all…but, I believe in the tradition of a man getting down on one knee, asking a woman to marry him, with a ring. This tradition goes back to my grandparents and their parents way back in Italy, when they had hardly two cents to rub together. They wore modest bands…so I told my dd…if a man wants to marry you, I don’t care if the band is $50…he is buying you a ring. This dates back hundreds of years in our family, both on my mom’s and dad’s sides. AND on my husband’s sides of his family. And my son will buy a woman a ring, and get down on one knee. I won’t ask for much when they’re adults, except to carry on tradition!
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Mintaka
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Re: Byzantine – rings as sign of betrothal
The “arrhae”. In the West, sometimes it was a ring that the groom gave (the engagement ring), and sometimes a set number of coins (as in the Sarum Rite), a knife, a sword, a piece of jewelry… different things of value for different cultures and times.
There were sometimes crowns in the West, too, but of course the wedding ring was the oldest sign (or perhaps the veil/palla/nebula was older).
The thing I think is cool is that we used to have chuppahs, too. Queen Mary and Prince Philip of Spain were married under a marriage canopy, as was the done thing in the Sarum Rite.
The “arrhae”. In the West, sometimes it was a ring that the groom gave (the engagement ring), and sometimes a set number of coins (as in the Sarum Rite), a knife, a sword, a piece of jewelry… different things of value for different cultures and times.
There were sometimes crowns in the West, too, but of course the wedding ring was the oldest sign (or perhaps the veil/palla/nebula was older).
The thing I think is cool is that we used to have chuppahs, too. Queen Mary and Prince Philip of Spain were married under a marriage canopy, as was the done thing in the Sarum Rite.
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Phemie
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When I was growing up is was unusual for a man to wear a wedding band - so much so that a ‘double ring ceremony’ was usually noted in the wedding announcement in the paper.
Dad didn’t have a ring until they renewed their vows at their 25th anniversary at which time he got a ring for the first time and Mom got one to replace her original one which had broken into several pieces some years before after she had handled mercury.
DH and I have plain white gold bands that look like pieces of pipe – which is what I told the jeweler I wanted when I went looking for them. DH didn’t wear his for about 32 years and I went years without one when I lost mine after taking it off due to arthritis.
Dad didn’t have a ring until they renewed their vows at their 25th anniversary at which time he got a ring for the first time and Mom got one to replace her original one which had broken into several pieces some years before after she had handled mercury.
DH and I have plain white gold bands that look like pieces of pipe – which is what I told the jeweler I wanted when I went looking for them. DH didn’t wear his for about 32 years and I went years without one when I lost mine after taking it off due to arthritis.
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chevalier
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Rings are not essential, but I would worry if there were a no good reason someone didn’t want them, such as feeling chained or something. There’s a reason why matrimony is called vinculum. 
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Nec5
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Thanks, man. Now we have to keep shelling out the dough. Way to take one for the team.
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whatevergirl
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Remember chev, to have someone snap a pic of you, someday…when you are down on bended knee, proposing to the love of your life. I expect you to post it here!Rings are not essential, but I would worry if there were a no good reason someone didn’t want them, such as feeling chained or something. There’s a reason why matrimony is called vinculum.
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chevalier
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I actually well might because after all I’ve seen in life I simply wouldn’t even consider marrying someone I didn’t have that kind of respect for.Remember chev, to have someone snap a pic of you, someday…when you are down on bended knee, proposing to the love of your life. I expect you to post it here!
Note that my points against that custom still stand, the bridezilla factor not the least among them.
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Charlotte408
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ewwww!! loll…lol…kick back-Thanks, man. Now we have to keep shelling out the dough. Way to take one for the team.
ya’ll (men) dont have to ‘shell out dough’ for no one, unless you take it upon yourself to do so…or if the woman you choose to marry is totally superficial…either way the choice is yours alone…
the question was asked because a friend of mine knows that her and her spouse not only can NOT afford a proper wedding (with a hall, people attending, you know what i mean) or even RINGS…and…we were discussing it because they’re ready to take the leap, and she feels she doesnt NEED a ring, and we just wanted to know if it’d be cool…as in…ok with tradition and the church…she has a lot of respect for keeping tradition and our faith, but…just cant afford the rings!
‘take one for the team’ lmbo…i havent used that term since high school…
oh oh- lol…or remember this one?? ‘if your down you’ll do it’
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