Can you help me with my confusion over my sins and my virginity?

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I have always tried to be a morally good person. I understand that we sin and ask for forgiveness but still I question myself and what I have done. I am Catholic, I try to study apologetics. I have been baptized and confirmed and have confessed my sins but I look at myself and feel horrible right. I have never done drugs, always done good in school, tried my best to maintain a morally good live while having fun with friends (no drinking or partying). I always try to help…I feel like I am a good person but I feel a mark of shame that no one knows about.

This is very hard for me to say and I have asked for forgiveness before but I can recall directly asking a priest on this. Anyways…I pride myself in respecting women and keeping my virginity until I am married…but I question whether I am a virgin?! When I was a kid, a little before the age of 11, I went on a camping trip in the with my family and pet dogs, I fully didn’t understand what I had done but I remember it was night in the truck and we were still driving a long way to the camping site, most everyone was asleep and I was in the back with my dog near me. I had began to touch and masturbate at the time because for some reason I couldn’t control the urge to…and in the process my dog had began to lick me…I was so confused. I had pulled away after a bit and I look back on it now with so much shame. I never did that again…and never plan on-it wasn’t even like I am mentally deranged. Was that normal?

Am I still a virgin? How would I tell anybody, including a woman that I am a virgin if I question this event in my life so long ago?! I mean…I look at it now and ever since then as a horrible act. I do not believe that it is morally right now and fully am aware of the gravity of such an act.

But have I been forgive for it? Should I just look at it as a stupid, childish act. Can I say to myself that I am a virgin and be honest? What is the definition of virginity? Please help me.
 
Hi Buddy,

Relax. You are a virgin. You were a child and didn’t know much. There was no sin. There is no reason for feeling shame. The Lord understands and has always looked down on you with love and understanding. This is not something that you ever have to share with anyone else. You are completely free of any sin from that night.

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.
 
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