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I had wanted for marriage for long but still can’t find one. I had a few relationships before. But now whoever I met are mostly married or unavailable or I don’t like.
I had prayed for many years to meet one but still in vain. I also requested some congregations to pray for my intention. God loves me and I know that, because every prayer I asked from God and Mary, they will grant me, only except this one. I am aged thirty something already and no time left as I still want children.
I really feel God doesn’t want me to get married or my vocation is not marriage. But I still have been sad on this, how should I face this? Do I need to accept this to be single forever? or to have an official vocation discernment in some congregations?
Is there anyone in similar situation? any suggestions?

Thanks a lot in advance.
 
I didn’t intentionally go out to search. Just met people in workplace, churches and some activities outside.
 
Be friendly and try to make friends.
I didn’t meet my current husband until I had been a single parent for 17 years; I decided to adopt more children but before I could, I met my husband.
God knows what he is doing. We just have to trust him.
 
shanishani7 said:
I didn’t intentionally go out to search. Just met people in workplace, churches and some activities outside.
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I did intentionally search, but I didn’t meet my wife through any of my intentional searching. That said, I think it is important to be deliberate in your search. Maybe try dating websites or agencies.
 
Unfortunately, the dating pool is so poisoned these days that one prominent writer on issues facing single Catholics, Mary Beth Bonnaci, once said that many Catholics who have a vocation to marriage will not be able to find someone suitable to marry.

Also complicating things this year is the whole COVID-19 situation, which is cancelling many in-person events. However, there may be some virtual gatherings (I know the National Catholic Singles Conference had one a few weeks back) to watch for.
 
Have you heard about the Catholic blogger Christina Jaloway? She wrote a blog called the evangelista which is her own personal insight and lessons being single and childless entering her 30s. I thought maybe her writing will resonate and help you.

I think there is a blog post on there as well about potential ways to meet a Catholic spouse.
 
You want to stay single as long as you can. Trust me. When the time comes, you won’t be able to change it.
 
Norseman82 said:
Also complicating things this year is the whole COVID-19 situation, which is cancelling many in-person events. However, there may be some virtual gatherings (I know the National Catholic Singles Conference had one a few weeks back) to watch for.
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Thanks. I just had a look on the site of National Catholic Singles, it seems there were some activities and travel trips in the past. maybe will have more after covid19.

did you join any?
 
MasterMacLeod82 said:
You want to stay single as long as you can. Trust me. When the time comes, you won’t be able to change it.
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Why? you mean you wanna stay single? how is your marriage life?

although i know staying single will have much more freedom
 
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My marriage life is dead. My wife one day decided that I wasn’t worth it anymore and just left. No good reasons given. She doesn’t even text me anymore.
 
Isn’t Saint Anne the patron of marriage? Have you prayed to her (or a novena perhaps)?

Five years ago, a friend of mine who wanted to get married when we were still at university couldn’t find one no matter how much she wanted. She persuaded her bf into marriage but the dude wouldn’t budge. Now, they’re finally married. She appears ecstatic but I felt a little bit sorry for her her husband as he still doesn’t seem “prepared” .

We both (the friend) will be pursuing our Master’s degree full time, but often, she lashes out at her spouse over minor things and is so emotionally unstable that it has led me to be worried about how she will cope with her academic tasks as well as her married life.

I’m happy for her new found chapter (marriage) but the way the pair constantly fights makes me question “Did God grant her wish or is He teaching her a lesson?”

I wish you the best. 🙏
 
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My marriage life is dead. My wife one day decided that I wasn’t worth it anymore and just left. No good reasons given. She doesn’t even text me anymore.
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I am so sorry for it. If no children, maybe you can find another more suitable one in the future.
 
Viki63 said:
Be friendly and try to make friends.
I didn’t meet my current husband until I had been a single parent for 17 years; I decided to adopt more children but before I could, I met my husband.
God knows what he is doing. We just have to trust him.
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You should be a good mother. So your husband did not mind to take care of your child? and did not mind he didn’t have his own baby?
 
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