Can't seem to stop doing this

[ready]

If you put yourself in the near occasion of sin, then what do you expect? Please avoid near occasions of sin like you would the plague. God bless you.

 

[warriorgent]

Thanks for the reply. To answer your question, the reason why I look at porn and wank is the same as anyone else: I get horny. Married people have it easy, they can go have sex. That’s not the case for those of us who are single. I really don’t think that there’s a deep meaning or reason why I wank. We all have sexual urges, and need to satisfy them- that’s why.

Your reason, “I get horny,” is the immediate and the deepest reason, and while I thank you for your honesty in telling me it, I think one can list many deeper reasons why wanking seems like a good idea and if you wish, I can try.

I strongly believe that you can come up with more than one situation when you would decide not to wank, and decision not to wank can give the self-control needed to stop all together.

Similarly, healthy people do not snack at every instant they feel hungry if they plan on eating at regular meal times, since compulsive snacking would prevent them from eating the most of their meals since they would not be hungry. Self-mastery over sexual urges, like discipline in eating meals, allows you to make the most of your opportunities when they arise. I do admit as a fellow single person that I am also unaware of sexual ways of managing sexual urges while single, but such ways may be unnecessary. All sensations do pass, even intense sexual urges that seem undeniable when they surface. There are so many ways to take energy away from those urges and place that energy somewhere productive if you choose to. I will confirm that doing so is not easy.

I hope you can agree with me that being married will not cure the desire for sexual release since a future partner may not be willing to have sex at a particular moment, and masturbating would just add emotional distance between you and your wife.

I have a few questions: Are all urges created equal, like is an urge to drink water equal to an urge to hit a particularly annoying person on the train for being rude and loud? Also, while I will agree that urges do correlate to felt needs to satisfy them, are there not appropriate and inappropriate ways to try to satisfy them?

 

[warriorgent]

Here are a couple of links that I’d like to get your opinion, however brief on:

Some quotes by C.S. Lewis on lust and masturbation,

The Porn Effect founded by Matt Fradd, an all around cool guy who was once addicted to pornography.

 

[DanAl]

21 year old dude here. I can’t seem to stop masturbating. I know the consequences to my soul regarding heaven and he’ll. But alas, I do it, as if I’m a machine. I also look at porn and video chat with others. Prayers please

Patience, not despair. That’s what I would have told my 21 year self. Get a filter, like net nanny, get yourself used to it and lock yourself out. Or always take your computer to public places.

A nice piece of advice from a priest, if you fall, fast the next day. Fasting does minimize urges.

Above all, patience, the older and more mature you get the easier will be to handle it.

 

[system]

Hello, I’m new here. I’m a 17 Catholic year old boy and I’ve a problem with masturbation as well. I was looking for a free accountability site and found this… Can you guys help? I REALLY want to stop having bad thought and be pure.
Jesus bless!

 

[Larry1700]

I did it for perhaps 10 years, often several times a day. I even looked at porn and did it while at work. One day I was reading the Bible, and it hit me how strongly Jesus spoke out about sexual immorality. I suddenly got on my knees and prayed for His help. Thanks to Him, I have never done it again.