Catholic, But Dislike Mass

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This is my struggle. I love my religion, but have no patience for Mass. It thoroughly bores me. I can’t stay awake. I dread going, because it’s so long, disorganized, chaotic and quite frankly, mind-numbing. Yet, I feel better afterward, for having gone, so I know on another level it’s rewarding. This is one of my greatest weaknesses. Any suggestions?
 
This is my struggle. I love my religion, but have no patience for Mass. It thoroughly bores me. I can’t stay awake. I dread going, because it’s so long, disorganized, chaotic and quite frankly, mind-numbing. Yet, I feel better afterward, for having gone, so I know on another level it’s rewarding. This is one of my greatest weaknesses. Any suggestions?
Find an EF Mass.

Read literature about the Mass, and why it is important.

Talk to an orthodox (if not all-out traditional) priest. An orthodox/trad priest is billions of times more useful than an Internet forum.
 
Thanks. Tell me – do you find the Mass interesting, stimulating, uplifiting? Do you look forward to it every week?
 
Thanks. Tell me – do you find the Mass interesting, stimulating, uplifiting? Do you look forward to it every week?
The Mass is a prayer. The centerpiece of the Mass is the Eucharist. If you understood that you would not ask the question.

If you are looking for something to hold your attention, may I recomend The Hooten’ and Hollarin’ Charismatic Temple down the road? They do the Benny Hinn Bunny Hop every Sunday morning.:D;)
 
Thanks. Tell me – do you find the Mass interesting, stimulating, uplifiting? Do you look forward to it every week?
I used to go to the Novus Ordo Mass. I found it less-than-interesting, not terribly stimulating, and merely OK.

Since having begun to attend the EF Mass for the past few months, I have found Mass to be “better.” It provides me time to pray the Mass, as opposed to sitting there being lectured/spoken to (as in the NO Mass).

I guess you could say I look forward to it. The priest is very good, the Mass is very nicely offered, and there is a great choir.

Although, I will warn, I cannot guarantee the EF will please you immediately (or even as well as it does me). If you do go, try not to form an opinion for at least 4 weeks of attending it. It will be strange, foreign to you, and you will be lost. But that is simply because it’s brand new to you, and as such you need time to acclimate yourself to it.

I’ll put you in my intentions today at Mass - it’s Ascension Thursday! Woohoo! (Plus, it’s a holiday in Baden-Wuerrtemberg… :-D)
 
This is my struggle. I love my religion, but have no patience for Mass. It thoroughly bores me. I can’t stay awake. I dread going, because it’s so long, disorganized, chaotic and quite frankly, mind-numbing. Yet, I feel better afterward, for having gone, so I know on another level it’s rewarding. This is one of my greatest weaknesses. Any suggestions?
I think the more you learn about what is going on at Mass the more meaningful it is to you. Perhaps you could suggest to your pastor that he offer a class that goes through the Mass step by step. My guess is that you’re not the only parishioner who would benefit from it.
 
I also attend an EF which I prefer over the OF for the same reasons others have mentioned. The first time I went, it prompted me to dig deeper into my faith and as others have said, that will make Mass more meaningful to you.

Having said that, if you are unable to attend an EF or would just prefer an OF, may I suggest a good book? The Lamb’s Supper by Scott Hahn. It helps to explain an OF and is a very easy read. It would not be as much help for an EF, but you could get something out of it.

I also agree with the suggestion to find a very solid orthodox priest who unabashedly loves the Church and ask LOTS of questions. You will be able to tell if this is a good one by how he responds to your questions. If he welcomes them and invites more, he’s a keeper:thumbsup:!
 
Latin or Byzantine instead?

Buy a missal, and follow along with the devotional prayers. Pray the mass, at more of a pace you can handle, with them.

Read about the mass, and what spiritually is occurring so you appreciate it more.

With an interior conversion, you can focus on loving the Lord enough that every time you hear His name you are touched, though the mass itself is disorderly said, you catch the good in the ritual.

The more you conquer yourself and all these feelings in the mass, the better for your soul. Strive against the way you feel to your utmost and try to kindle virtuous and appropriate feelings instead, for the love of God. 🙂

The mass is very necessary as you can see, like bitter medicine. The mass for Christ was agony, for reasons one should try to appreciate.

Try to kindle appreciation for the graces and prayers in the mass even if you cannot appreciate all of the form. Be careful, the devil will do anything to keep you from going to the mass, and so you do have to work on your heart.
 
This also reminds me of a part in the book, The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis where the demons are discussing how it’s not necessarily bad for them that the “patient”, the person they are trying to damn, is going to church as long as he is not focused on the mass and is distracted from it. If you haven’t read that, it’s also a really good book and once again, an easy read (wow, you can tell I like the easy readers :o)
 
This also reminds me of a part in the book, The Screwtape Letters by C.S. Lewis where the demons are discussing how it’s not necessarily bad for them that the “patient”, the person they are trying to damn, is going to church as long as he is not focused on the mass and is distracted from it. If you haven’t read that, it’s also a really good book and once again, an easy read (wow, you can tell I like the easy readers :o)
Ooh! I read that book! Excellent book! I love it! I don’t remember that particular letter, but I do remember a good portion of the others. It’s been a while since I read it.
 
Thanks. Tell me – do you find the Mass interesting, stimulating, uplifiting? Do you look forward to it every week?
I do now, but I did not always. I had the same experience you describe growing up. When I got to HS, I was thoroughly disgusted by the “reforms” of Vatican II. I was so disgusted with Beatles music (“Mother Mary come to me”) during Mass,and people dancing down the aisle in leotards, I left the church. I was gone for a long time, and attended only protestant services. When I came back into the Church, it was through the Charismatic Renewal, and although there were still abuses, I did see a deeper form of reverance and piety. I decided to explore Eastern Orthodoxy, and became enchanted with the mystical nature of Divine Liturgy. Slowly I got overy my avoidance.

It also helped me to listen to daily Mass on EWTN, and to study the parts of the Mass, the history and reasons for them.

Another reason people find Mass objectionable is that they are attending in mortal sin. Sometimes they don’t realize that their sins have separated them from Eucharist. I recieved the Eucharist in a profane state so many times that my heart had becomed hardened. One of the reasons that I left the Church was that I thought I was not being “fed”. I could not be fed in the Eucharist because of the state of my soul. I went seeking other types of “worship” to feel better.

It has taken as many years to heal from the damage as it did to create it. I can also recommend reading the daily readings in advance, and meditating on them. If you decide to try and Eastern Rite Liturgy, the readings and the Liturgical calendar will be different. I can promise you, though, it will never be disorganized or chaotic.👍
 
Ooh! I read that book! Excellent book! I love it! I don’t remember that particular letter, but I do remember a good portion of the others. It’s been a while since I read it.
It’s the second one. The patient starts attending church and the demons try to get him to focus on his own sense of accomplishment just for going rather than the reason for going. Maybe not the case with the OP per say, but he also talks about this as a period of time where one makes a transition from emotional experience to reason. He talks about how God allows this transition although it can be difficult to move from the romanticized idea of the beauty to the logic and reason behind it. He uses a great example of transitioning from the hearing of the Story of the Odyssey to the task of actually learning Greek. In leaning Greek and Greek history, the story of the Oyssey comes alive and is fuller. The demons also say that once this transition has occured the patient would be cut off to them.

I wish this were my analogy, but I bow to the greater mind of C.S. Lewis for that one!
Hope it helps anyway.
 
The Mass is a prayer. The centerpiece of the Mass is the Eucharist. If you understood that you would not ask the question.

If you are looking for something to hold your attention, may I recomend The Hooten’ and Hollarin’ Charismatic Temple down the road? They do the Benny Hinn Bunny Hop every Sunday morning.:D;)
Sorry, but this train of thought doesn’t help. 🤷
 
Thanks everyone. I appreciate it. I’m certain God will help me sort this out.👍
 
Do you understand that the holy Mass is the representation of the sacrifice at Calvary?
 
This is my struggle. I love my religion, but have no patience for Mass. It thoroughly bores me. I can’t stay awake. I dread going, because it’s so long, disorganized, chaotic and quite frankly, mind-numbing. Yet, I feel better afterward, for having gone, so I know on another level it’s rewarding. This is one of my greatest weaknesses. Any suggestions?
I’m thinking you should get one of the books readily available - I’m sure there’s some here on CA in the shop - that explains the mass. Books on how the liturgy evolved from the earliest times may be of interest too.

When I came back to the Church, I read some books on the mass and my heart really perked up and I couldn’t wait to go to mass to experience the things the early Christians did. I still feel that way, although to a slightly lesser degree.

Oh yeah, and you might want to pick up Scott Hahn’s book “The Lamb’s Supper”. In it he describes the correlation between the Mass and the book of Revelation. It’s a good read.

I love going to mass.

God Bless,
Snert
 
Interesting how different we all are. Without the Mass - without the wonderfully intimate moment of receiving Christ through Eucharist - I would see no sense in being Catholic. The Real Presence of Christ in the Mass - that’s the most important reason for me to be Catholic!
 
Do you understand that the holy Mass is the representation of the sacrifice at Calvary?
Yes, Friend. I ‘understand’ all this. In this instance, ‘understanding’ doesn’t help. I think priests who supervise disorganized, boring, distracting Masses are passing up vital opportunities to inspire many. I must accept the fact I don’t like Mass as a sacrifice I must offer up to Christ, He for whom I live exclusively. I’m just disappointed by priests and laity who lack the imagination and skills to make Mass awesome and a *powerful *force in combatting the Culture of Repudiation that’s killing Christianity in the West today.
 
Interesting how different we all are. Without the Mass - without the wonderfully intimate moment of receiving Christ through Eucharist - I would see no sense in being Catholic. The Real Presence of Christ in the Mass - that’s the most important reason for me to be Catholic!
To each his own. For me, the most important part is carrying on the work of Jesus, in our daily lives. The Mass is a ritualistic institution, a community celebration, a commemoration of Jesus’ final teaching – submission to the ultimate consequences of doing God’s will on Earth. We must all be prepared to undergo our own ‘last supper’.
 
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