Catholic Dating Websites that are free to use

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I’m sick of not having a guy in my life, but, since I’m a student and still will be a student for the next 3 years, I don’t want to pay $20-30 a month to subscribe to a service I would not be using frequently for most of the year. I’m looking to meet fellow students or other individuals who would like to start getting to know potential mates and would not mind long periods of interrupted communication.

Catholicmatch I see is free to use, but you can only receive but not send messages with a free account, which is dumb. I’m thinking of getting around this by posting an email or other contact information on my profile, but I am not sure if that is very safe.

Any other ideas for online dating? And I’m not looking for replies along the lines of “meet someone at your parish or a neighboring parish.” Not very useful advice when my parish is still closed. Also, I want to quickly and easily filter by interests and preferences instead of wasting time working up the courage to ask someone to a date and then who knows how many dates later finding out you have really nothing in common except being Catholic.
 
I see that the Catholic Chemistry site that’s been advertised here a lot lately is free, but I don’t know if it gets to a point where you have to pay. I wonder if some sites might also offer a free trial? Could be worth looking into.
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Catholicmatch I see is free to use, but you can only receive but not send messages with a free account, which is dumb. I’m thinking of getting around this by posting an email or other contact information on my profile, but I am not sure if that is very safe.
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Please be careful with this, if you do. I think the safest would be to create an email address and use it only for Catholicmatch - but don’t give out personal info on your profile like a phone number.
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Also, I want to quickly and easily filter by interests and preferences instead of wasting time working up the courage to ask someone to a date and then who knows how many dates later finding out you have really nothing in common except being Catholic.
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I think sadly you will have to go through some trial and error and meeting people that you really have nothing in common with. I think it’s just par for the course with dating in general, not just online dating. Honestly, the best advice I’ve seen for online dating is to try and meet people in real life as quickly as possible - to make sure they’re genuine, to not waste your time if not. When you’re meeting people, I’d recommend it be in a public place, maybe get a friend to be with you until they turn up. Unfortunately catfishing isn’t uncommon and being careful is really important.
 
I would never be dumb enough to put down my phone number. Last thing I need is to periodically have to change my number because I encounter a weirdo.

Unfortunately, I find that people are more inclined to judge a book by its cover in life and the only real friendships I ever had started on the Internet. People nowadays don’t bother to stick around and get to know someone these days if the first impression is not perfect.
 
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Also, I want to quickly and easily filter by interests and preferences instead of wasting time working up the courage to ask someone to a date and then who knows how many dates later finding out you have really nothing in common except being Catholic.
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Actually, in terms of your own growth, approaching people in person could be the best thing you could possibly do.

A lot of times we have mistaken impressions of what will really make us happy. We think we want something, when the thing we want is exactly the opposite of what we need.

One of my best friends went on hundreds of dates based on matches he got from all sorts of dating websites. They all looked great on paper. None of them panned out.

If you’re filtering people based on arbitrary criteria of what you think you want, you’ll miss out on people who could potentially be great partners for you. What you’re looking for ultimately is not someone who shares the same interests as you do, but someone with whom you have chemistry, whom you connect with physically, emotionally, and mentally, even if you don’t see eye to eye on every issue. And those are not things you can discover through any Internet profile.

Secondly, asking someone out doesn’t have to be a big deal. There’s no reason your love life has to become entangled in complicated courtship rituals and bizarre mind games. If you see a guy you think you might be interested in, just make opportunities to hang out with him. Maybe invite him to a group activity with some of your other friends, maybe have him join you for a casual meal or coffee, or just go on a walk together.

You’ll learn far more from hanging out with him for a while than you would from any online profile. If you decide later on that you’d like more from the relationship, you can handle that later.

The chances of you getting “friendzoned” by a guy are very, very low. If anything, the opposite is more likely to occur. That is, if you develop a genuine connection with this guy, there’s a good chance he’ll become attracted to you even if he wasn’t before.

Being in school is the perfect opportunity to learn these types of social skills, because you’re in a community filled with other people your age that you already have something in common with (the shared experience of being in that community). You don’t want to be hiding behind a screen your whole life. So just relax, and have fun. 🙂
 
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While I’m not very fond of the fact that my parents met at a bar, I don’t like doing that stuff online.
 
I would never ever date someone from my school. I will not even befriend someone from my school. The reason is that, if things go south in the relationship, it will be more likely to hurt my academic performance. I accidentally befriended someone this year who later became overdependent on me for her own academic success and it ruined the latter half of my school year. I even had to take some personal time from academic activity because I was falling so far behind from the drama.
 
Just be careful. Some of the people on those sites aren’t who they say they are.
 
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Just be careful. Some of the people on those sites aren’t who they say they are.

(Catholic Dating Websites that are free to use)

Maybe some of the SITES aren’t who they say they are. May not even be Catholic. Might be a place to mine personal information.

Try to discern who really runs the dating website of interest.
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Great points.

I know a girl who dated a guy for about a year and a half (!) before she found he was married. They met on a Catholic dating site, I don’t know which one. This was about a decade ago, so it was a different time. Now, a simple Google search o FB search could find out so much information about a person. Regardless, it’s still a good idea to be careful.
 
I hope she reported that guy to the moderators of that website so that his profile could get taken down.
 
Modern corporations mine personal information and SELL it $$$ to ??? Other corporations? Foreign countries? Intelligence Agencies?
 
Try different parishes. The ones offering TLM might surprise you. Never know 🤷‍♂️
 
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