Catholic Dating Websites that are free to use

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I went to professional school in the barrio of Los Angeles 45 years ago.

Even then, all of the med and pharmacology students had their noses constantly buried in books and didn’t come up for air. The dorm was as quiet and dead as a tomb. The library was silent.

The surrounding neighborhoods were dangerous. People were robbed at gunpoint in the park across from the campus. It was like living on a desert island, devoid of any social life.

Don’t know if your campus experience is like that, but, if so, you need to get away occasionally for your mental health. My campus offered superb education but was isolated and depressing.

Maybe it’s something about the nature of doctors, but we didn’t congregate or befriend each other closely. I came away from those 4 years with zero friends from that period, 45 years later. People were too busy, too absorbed in schooling. Kind of sick, looking back on it! Doctors are trained to compete for excellence…not to be chums.

Is there some off-campus activity in a nearby city, even if you have to drive? Dance, sport, hiking, or off-roading clubs come to mind. You expand your social network there safely, have fun, and maybe you’ll meet someone nice.

Of course, meeting a Catholic is preferable for personal growth and equanimity.
 
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Servant31 said:
Online is often not a good representation of reality.
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Online is fine for the initial connection, but it needs to transition to in person dating quickly. You can’t know what kind of chemistry you have with someone just from online messaging.
 
Well, while $20–30/month would be extreme, I would still advocate for paid sites — a paywall has the effect of discouraging a lot of people who aren’t very serious about it, as well as fake accounts, multiple accounts, and so on. Perhaps it minimizes the incentive for ghost accounts, as in people losing interest and no longer actively checking their mail but leaving their accounts open. On the basis of my own experience I’d rather not have to go to a fee site, even though forking out $30 a month would certainly not be desirable — and would make me drop the idea unless perhaps I were to try the service for a month, getting the max out of it in that time span, which is also an option.

Hence I would suggest that perhaps it might be worth giving lifetime fees, modest monthly subscriptions, etc. a chance, or even paying the $30/month for a short period of active use.

For active use, I would choose a period in which you knew you had the energy and motivation to meet a number of people and try multiple times, as opposed to waiting to be approached — which would be trickier and could make recurring subscription fees problematic, as it usually takes a longer time to get noticed.
 
redbetta said:
I’m thinking of getting around this by posting an email or other contact information on my profile, but I am not sure if that is very safe.
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Catholicmatch won’t let you do this. Their software is very good at screening for this stuff, and even if you do get around it, someone will likely see it and report it to the admins.
 
Why? There is no point in allowing someone to use something for free if it’s unusable.
 
redbetta said:
Why? There is no point in allowing someone to use something for free if it’s unusable.
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I assume the hope is you see the profile of someone you find attractive and that spurs you into forking over your credit card number. If it were truly “usable” for free they wouldn’t make money.

At least a paywall keeps the kooks to a minimum.
 
Could I PM you? I’m considering medicine but I have some reservations/questions from a Catholic angle.
 
I think reddit has a dating thread? Iirc it’s not super populated, but free at least…
 
The free account is not designed to be usable. It’s designed to hook you when you receive a message, and entice you into buying a paid membership.

It used to be (not sure about now) that after I believe 10 days they did let you read the message, but realistically you can’t have any meaningful communication this way. It’s very hard to get someone to reply on that site in the first place, and if you cannot read the message for 10 days, forget it. You could try of course, it doesn’t hurt anything to open a free account.
 
@redbetta Pretty sure due to COVID a lot of these sites are discounted or free like CatholicSingles or CatholicMatch.

I would recommend Catholic Singles. Or you could try Ava Maria Singles.

One of my brothers has done online dating for 10 years (he’s 31) and has had very little luck. Two relationships and the first she was emotionally abusive and the second they got engaged but broke up
 
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redbetta said:
I guess no love for us broke Catholic students.
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You could always make a free account and see if you run across any interesting profiles before you decide to fork over any money.

And I know you said you want to keep it online, but once Covid calms down don’t necessarily discount more traditional methods. Sometimes things fall into place and surprise you when you least expect it.
 
Anonkun said:
The chancellor said the murder of Seth Smith was “difficult” for some people, and that by contrast many other people were feeling “grief, stress, and anxiety” related to the murders of George Floyd et al.
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In the context of the letter, she’s saying that this may be difficult especially because people are already raw about the pandemic and the racial unrest. It’s not saying “yeah this is bad but George Floyd was worse.”

I think you’re trying to be offended and reading something into it that isn’t there.
 
What do you all think of using a more generic Christian dating site to find Catholics to date? Because there are not a lot of completely free options that are Catholic-specific. One I found, catholicfriendsdate.com specifies that it accepts more casual Catholics and that they “don’t judge” and, well, that phrase is a red flag in and of itself.
 
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