Catholic dating

[OLofMtCarmel]

hey so lately ive been wanting to date, and ive browsed the online website opportunities and it seems every girl that i talk to that i think might have potential ends up not being right because i bring up god and then they think im a lunatic

its so hard to meet a goo catholic these days!

Tell me about it. It took me years to finally give up. Even the less attractive Catholics think they’re have to wait for prince charming… but with the money and the lack of commitment towards faith. I finally stepped out on the dark side and married a non-Catholic Christian that practice their faith better than most Catholics. Not to many years ago she converted, but that came after my realization that I left for all the wrong reasons and returned with my tail tucked in. It’s not easy being married, but that’s true for all of us married folk.

The women you probably should marry probably seem weird to you. Maybe you should find a mate in the convent… Just kidding. But I know some people that did. Don’t do that. The girls always romanticized the fact I was a seminarian, but they still lacked commitment. It’s disheartening. But God will lead you to someone in His time. It may take as long as me. I was 28, and she was 22 when we first got hitched in her church. It’s been 23+, mostly good, years. But that’s normal. Don’t lose heart. Just place Jesus first.

 

[Monkey1976]

Try this. catholicdatingsites.net/

Considering they list “AdultFriendFinder” in their list of the top 20 Catholic dating sites, I’m not sure how far one can trust their judgement.

 

[Unfinished]

I can absolutely relate. I have dated Catholic woman after Catholic woman and many head for the hills as soon as they find out that I am “one of those Catholics”! Not eating meat on Fridays, preferring traditional mass formats, and disapproving of movies/books that contain fowl language or immoral content are all pretty big deal-breakers with most Catholic ladies whom I have dated. Let’s not even mention my desire to meet somebody who doesn’t just believe in the bare minimum with regards to chastity, but who actually wants to help me push the bar in being pure before marriage (is it even possible to find someone who doesn’t believe in kissing before marriage anymore)? From a purely statistical point of view, my odds of finding somebody sound pretty bleak!

That said, I am not worried at all! I have discerned that I have a vocation to marriage by asking God for a clear, evident sign that my vocation is marriage, and He has given it to me! Even more importantly then this, my relationship with God is so front-and-center to me that I would gladly remain single for the rest of my life rather then compromise even the smallest aspect of my faith to be with a woman. I know God will bring a spouse into my life when I am ready and she will push me to be a better Catholic and help me enter through the narrow gate (I will never have to feel embarrassed about the fact that I pray the rosary everyday or that I find the vast majority of secular movies/television shows morally impossible to watch).

I just spend each day trying to love God more and more by becoming active in the Church, fighting for the right to life of the unborn, volunteering, etc… I am putting my trust in God that I will bump into my chosen spouse at a time in my life when He is ready and I won’t stress out over finding somebody on the dating sites anymore!

I can feel your pain. The last couple of years of my life have been heart wrenching. I have had tons of first dates, but rarely a second. In undergrad I spent most of my life at the Catholic Student Centre and left with nothing. I then forced myself to go to a good Catholic university for graduate school with higher hopes. After completing one year of my Master’s of Theology, I am still single.

This semester has been particularly difficult. I started doing youth ministry. Met a girl there. That went no where. Met a girl in my programme - that went no where. Yet, I could list off several names of girls who actually want to date me… yet they either don’t practice the faith or are, well, insane.

As I just turned 28, the wait is becoming increasingly more difficult. It seems in those periods over the years when I have absolutely no leads, I feel alright. But every time I start to get close to something that could be a good thing, it only makes me just a tad more cynical. Not sure what the good ones are looking for, but the ones in my life keep passing on some prime real estate!

Who knows? I am the only man at daily mass under the age of 50, yet it seems God has deigned to keep me alone, for whatever reason, I might never know.

 

[Groo]

Bringing up serious topics like God and Church too soon might be scaring women off.

Maybe keep the first few dates light and fun if you are not already. No serious topics for awhile, even if you feel like you ‘know’ someone by non face-to-face communication.

 

[pwlj_christ87]

sound slike alot of us are in the same boat. I dont get why its so hard here in the west. it is my belief its easier in europe or whatever but I could be wrong.

Anyways, the worst thing about wanting to date for me isthe backsliding thoughts in my head, I can relate to the user that posted “It was if god brought us to gether but said her o r me”.

Ther eis a nice looking girl who is cute shy but yet outgoing in my class and Ive just come to the knowledge that she is the same background as me which is great because I am almost positive she is a catholic too. She has the dark features that I like and she seems cool. Im not totally sure how devout she is but I need to gie it a shot or Ill feel like I missed an opportunity. I just dont know how yet. A simple casual talk sometime would be cool.

I need to hold strong though, and maybe if she isnt as devout, I could help her become it.

its all in jessu hands im just scared of the bacsliding i hate that thought.

 

[Bataar]

It’s the fall of Catholocism in our culture. There are simply fewer and fewer people who go to Mass. Due to my schedule, there are 3 different churches I attend and when I look around at the other people there, I don’t see any women that appear to be single and in the appropriate age bracket. Not a single one. Even if I had normal conversation skills, it wouldn’t matter if there isn’t anyone to talk with.

 

[Luvz2travel]

Bringing up serious topics like God and Church too soon might be scaring women off.

Maybe keep the first few dates light and fun if you are not already. No serious topics for awhile, even if you feel like you ‘know’ someone by non face-to-face communication.

It saves a lot of time though if you’re upfront about who you are and what your looking for. As long as it’s not the first and only thing he talks about I don’t see a problem with discussing those issues right away.