Catholic guy dating a JW girl.. Please help..

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LayingHands said:
The JW faith recruits under very strict ruling…their beliefs are to give someone a chance to convert to their faith, but only, fully, so completely, regarding how to raise their children and tithes (Catholics do this too), that once you say and or admit you will not convert to their faith…even friendship among working mates dissolves.

You come to a place of non-reconciliation, and ties are broken, completely.

Since you have already said you will never convert and she is this adament of your conversion…it is time to let her go. You are not only wasting your time, you are lying in the process…sin enough, just starting…there is no relationship here, in all honesty. You will become hurt…but this will pass, with time…this is something I know about the JW religion.

Have you ever heard of the “Cut Direct?” Business only work mates and friends, no more…
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We’re inlove with each other so much… But I know very well the trials… Is there still a way for me to fight for this relationship? She said that she’ll be waiting for me until I understands her faith so much… By that time,we’ll be married… I’m so confused…😦
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Thank you guys for your replies… I think she’ll still love me if I say that I don’t believe Christ is not God. However, what she’s emphasizing, I must learn more about her faith through bible study. I don’t think she’s forcing me in any way. She tells me I have the freedom to undergo bible study or not. But she’s telling me that if I can’t understand and accept her faith(which is possible through bible study), we’ll be having problems in the future married life… I’m so confused right now… 😦
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I’m not one who tries to tell people that they can only marry other Catholics, but… there are some non-Catholics that you just can’t marry.

I say, enough with the “I thinks” or “I hopes.” It’s time to actually have hard discussions with her, and actually tell her that you will never become a JW even if you go through the Bible studies.

Relationships with non-Catholics will only work if both people in the relationship are willing to learn about the other person’s religious views. My brother married a Lutheran and they do their best to go to both Catholic Mass and Lutheran church services and Bible studies together. They also “meet in the middle” and pray together. Unless your girlfriend is willing to go to Mass with you and learn about the Catholic faith while you are going to JW Bible studies, then the relationship becomes severely one-sided. And that is unhealthy.
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
We’re inlove with each other so much… But I know very well the trials… Is there still a way for me to fight for this relationship? She said that she’ll be waiting for me until I understands her faith so much… By that time,we’ll be married… I’m so confused…😦
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Sometimes its better to listen to your head, than your heart. This is that case.
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Thank you guys for your replies… I think she’ll still love me if I say that I don’t believe Christ is not God. However, what she’s emphasizing, I must learn more about her faith through bible study. I don’t think she’s forcing me in any way. She tells me I have the freedom to undergo bible study or not. But she’s telling me that if I can’t understand and accept her faith(which is possible through bible study), we’ll be having problems in the future married life… I’m so confused right now… 😦
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You should invite her to go to mass with you, make it equal. It’s unfair if it’s all one way.
I know it’s confusing but pray about it. Don’t be afraid to pray and ask God what to do.
 
Sarah_Angel said:
I’m not one who tries to tell people that they can only marry other Catholics, but… there are some non-Catholics that you just can’t marry.

I say, enough with the “I thinks” or “I hopes.” It’s time to actually have hard discussions with her, and actually tell her that you will never become a JW even if you go through the Bible studies.

Relationships with non-Catholics will only work if both people in the relationship are willing to learn about the other person’s religious views. My brother married a Lutheran and they do their best to go to both Catholic Mass and Lutheran church services and Bible studies together. They also “meet in the middle” and pray together. Unless your girlfriend is willing to go to Mass with you and learn about the Catholic faith while you are going to JW Bible studies, then the relationship becomes severely one-sided. And that is unhealthy.
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Thank you…I think I’ll be bringing up this suggestion to her,if she’s willing to attend mass and Catholic bible study once in a while if we get married… Thanks alot…
 
domandcarols said:
You should invite her to go to mass with you, make it equal. It’s unfair if it’s all one way.
I know it’s confusing but pray about it. Don’t be afraid to pray and ask God what to do.
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I’ll be praying… Please for me pray for me guys too… Thanks…
 
Lunasol said:
Sometimes its better to listen to your head, than your heart. This is that case.
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Yup, i’m considering that too… It’s just too painful and we both know that we love each other so much… Deep inside me, I want to fight this relationship but I don’t know…
 
I’m so confused if I’ll be fighting for this relationship knowing that despite our religion difference, we both know that we love each other so much…
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Thank you guys for your replies… I think she’ll still love me if I say that I don’t believe Christ is not God. However, what she’s emphasizing, I must learn more about her faith through bible study. I don’t think she’s forcing me in any way. She tells me I have the freedom to undergo bible study or not. But she’s telling me that if I can’t understand and accept her faith(which is possible through bible study), we’ll be having problems in the future married life… I’m so confused right now… 😦
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Hi, I went through a very similiar situation with a girl form INC. Long story short even though I loved her very much, I had to let her go. If she is not willing to learn your faith and is only expecting you to convert then their is no chance for you guys. I would say you need to let her go and search for someone who you could have a harmonious married life with. Besides how would you raise your childeren. Her family wouldn’t be to happy about you raising them Catholic, and likely neither would she.

Just to let you know, I fought for my relationship for 1.5 years but bottom line is God comes first. If you want to know my experience give me a PM and I will elucidate more if you would like.

I feel for you… This situation pretty much sucks hard.
 
DJK100 said:
Hi, I went through a very similiar situation with a girl form INC. Long story short even though I loved her very much, I had to let her go. If she is not willing to learn your faith and is only expecting you to convert then their is no chance for you guys. I would say you need to let her go and search for someone who you could have a harmonious married life first. Besides how would you raise your childeren. Her family wouldn’t be to happy about you raising them Catholic, and likely neither would she.

Bottom line is God comes first.
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Thank you… I’m considering to let her go but it’s never easy. We both know that we are inlove with each other,so much… 😦
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Hi! I’m a devout Catholic. I’ve recently dated a girl who is a Jehovah’s Witness. We love each other very much but religion is really a barrier. Just yesterday,she decided to broke up until I can fully understand her faith more - an allusion the she wishes me to study and eventually convert to her faith. We love each other so much but she’s afraid that we can’t make it in married life if we are from different religion. I don’t want to lose her and it seems the only hope is that I know is to attend their bible studies but I don’t think I’ll convert to them. Please help… I need your advices. Thanks alot…
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I do not believe that a practicing Jehovah’s Witness could be in a relationship with any Christian, let alone a marriage - Catholic most of all, the “Mother of All Whores, Babylon the Great, Pagan Mystery Religion” - unless that person (maybe) was a Christian in name only, and didn’t care about religion (although, from the JWs I’ve seen, they wouldn’t settle for a CINO), or if they would convert to Jehovah’s Witnessism. Most Muslims are much more favorable towards Christians than JWs are, except JWs for the large part pull away from the world instead of engaging it, except in their rote door-to-door missionary work.

There’s a likely chance she’s dating you specifically to convert you to JW doctrine. JW is straight from the Pit itself, and none are more hating of Catholics. There’s no way her family or her religion would ever approve of dating someone outside of the tradition (she’d be disfellowshipped if she married you as a Catholic or converted out of JW. Disfellowshipping is like an extreme form of anathema, which obliges even her parents and siblings - every JW alive - to refuse to acknowledge that she exists, and to shun her entirely; families are torn apart this way. If anyone, even her family, would speak to her or acknowledge she existed on more than one occasion after she was disfellowshipped, a warning would be given and then that person would be disfellowshipped as well) unless they understood that person was making progress towards converting to who they dated. It’s influence from “the realm of Satan” (the rest of the world) to JWs, and too great a chance for their flock to be pulled away from lies in to the light.
 
The list of conflicts is daunting. If there is one thing I have seen over and over, it is that things that are problems before marriage grow exponentially afterwards.
 
Khalid said:
I do not believe that a practicing Jehovah’s Witness could be in a relationship with any Christian, let alone a marriage - Catholic most of all, the “Mother of All Whores, Babylon the Great, Pagan Mystery Religion” - unless that person (maybe) was a Christian in name only, and didn’t care about religion (although, from the JWs I’ve seen, they wouldn’t settle for a CINO), or if they would convert to Jehovah’s Witnessism. Most Muslims are much more favorable towards Christians than JWs are, except JWs for the large part pull away from the world instead of engaging it, except in their rote door-to-door missionary work.

There’s a likely chance she’s dating you specifically to convert you to JW doctrine. JW is straight from the Pit itself, and none are more hating of Catholics. There’s no way her family or her religion would ever approve of dating someone outside of the tradition, unless they understood that person was making progress towards converting to who they dated. It’s influence from “the realm of Satan” to JWs, and too great a chance for their flock to be pulled away from lies in to the light.
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Thank you for your reply. She don’t force me to bible study. She stresses I have the freedom to bible study or not. She tells me that it’ll be a big help to understand her faith more and if I “improve”,then we can be married right away. She tells me that she’ll be waiting for me and she’ll not entertain any suitors while I’m studying…
 
Georgia said:
The list of conflicts is daunting. If there is one thing I have seen over and over, it is that things that are problems before marriage grow exponentially afterwards.
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I’m so confused…
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Hi! I’m a devout Catholic. I’ve recently dated a girl who is a Jehovah’s Witness. We love each other very much but religion is really a barrier. Just yesterday,she decided to broke up until I can fully understand her faith more - an allusion the she wishes me to study and eventually convert to her faith. We love each other so much but she’s afraid that we can’t make it in married life if we are from different religion. I don’t want to lose her and it seems the only hope is that I know is to attend their bible studies but I don’t think I’ll convert to them. Please help… I need your advices. Thanks alot…
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If she loved you, why would she be trying to change you? Let her go.
 
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