Catholic guy dating a JW girl.. Please help..

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Also “Answering Jehovah’s Witnesses” by our very own Jason Evert.
 
jnoelbalana14,

You are to be commended for your desire to save your gf from this cult. But it doesn’t sound as if she shows any inclination whatsoever to be saved. I’ve spent over 30 years trying to help my Dad see through the fallacies of the JW brainwashing program, all to no avail. He hates us just as much today at age 84 as he did when he was a boy. If you insist on trying, understand that you’re going to have to be a real scholar of Catholic teaching before you can even begin to effectively help her. The JWs are very well-versed in twisting Catholic teaching into something you won’t recognize. May the Holy Spirit give you the right words, and may St. Michael guard you from all of the JW deceptions.
 
There are plenty of other women out there. If she is making you study her faith and trying to convert you (I pray you dont convert) then what else in your life will she try and change?
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Hello guys! I really appreciate your replies. 🙂

Well, don’t worry, I’ll hold on to my faith. What bothers me more is how to save my JW girlfriend from JW cult. I know this will not be a easy task but I know it will be worth it. 🙂
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A big reason why my brother married this oneness girl is because he thought he could save her. Like I said in an above post, she did convert to Catholicism, but her heart never converted. Her brainwashing is to deep.

Good luck to you my friend.
 
Thanks alot for your replies. Well appreciated, my brothers in Christ 🙂
 
Jnoelbalana14,

I hope you enjoy pain, because you are setting yourself up for a great deal of it.

Please reconsider and find yourself a nice Catholic girl.

I will pray for you.

Paul
 
Hello,

I’m having the same problem with an SDA ex-boyfriend. SDA seems to have a lot of things in common with JW’s and it is difficult. We have since broken things off because I realized how entrenched he really is in his religion. He had told me the whole while dating that he did not believe in most of his religious beliefs, he didn’t go to his church and he wouldn’t talk to me about.

When he brought up marriage he agreed with everything being Catholic. We were going to meet with my priest for counseling, he visited my church a number of times and even agreed that our children can be raised Catholic. Then he tells me we can’t marry because he will lose his salvation if he marries outside the SDA church. It didn’t take me long to see what SDA was about and I will never convert to it. This was very sad for the both of us. Neither of us wanted to end things but we saw it was the best thing to do. And you have to remember that things will get harder once children come into play.

He is willing to learn about the church, so I have been finding great articles on Catholic Answers for him to read. This site disputes just about every argument Protestants have, including the Catholic Church being the Whore of Babylon. It is hard for him to prove most of his belief about Catholics and even harder for him to prove his own religion. But he was born and raised into this religion so, I understand things won’t change at the drop of a hat. I also, learned as much as I could about SDA’s, so I can better understand what we are dealing with. Doing that helped me be more patient and understanding towards him.

So with that being said, my advice is to be friends with her and if she’s willing to learn the real truth about Catholics than show her. But, do not put your life on hold thinking she will soon come around. It takes some people 1 year and others 10 years to see what the church has to offer. Date other people and try to find some happiness, because I know this is stressful for you (at least it is stressful for me).

If my ex and I never get back together, I will just mark him as the one that I wanted to marry but God had someone else in mind. My ex has claimed that he will leave his church if he sees the truth in the Catholic church but, I’m not holding my breath (I might pass out).

Hope this helps you.
 
I think you should try and remain friends if possible, but if your religion is important to you (it must be if you want to raise your children in your faith) then it’s best to find a Catholic spouse. Unless the person you meet is already wanting to convert to Catholicism. In that case, they can start RCIA in the fall and be Catholic next Easter (or the Easter after depending on the parish).
 
Fab82 said:
Hello,

I’m having the same problem with an SDA ex-boyfriend. SDA seems to have a lot of things in common with JW’s and it is difficult. We have since broken things off because I realized how entrenched he really is in his religion. He had told me the whole while dating that he did not believe in most of his religious beliefs, he didn’t go to his church and he wouldn’t talk to me about.

When he brought up marriage he agreed with everything being Catholic. We were going to meet with my priest for counseling, he visited my church a number of times and even agreed that our children can be raised Catholic. Then he tells me we can’t marry because he will lose his salvation if he marries outside the SDA church. It didn’t take me long to see what SDA was about and I will never convert to it. This was very sad for the both of us. Neither of us wanted to end things but we saw it was the best thing to do. And you have to remember that things will get harder once children come into play.

He is willing to learn about the church, so I have been finding great articles on Catholic Answers for him to read. This site disputes just about every argument Protestants have, including the Catholic Church being the Whore of Babylon. It is hard for him to prove most of his belief about Catholics and even harder for him to prove his own religion. But he was born and raised into this religion so, I understand things won’t change at the drop of a hat. I also, learned as much as I could about SDA’s, so I can better understand what we are dealing with. Doing that helped me be more patient and understanding towards him.

So with that being said, my advice is to be friends with her and if she’s willing to learn the real truth about Catholics than show her. But, do not put your life on hold thinking she will soon come around. It takes some people 1 year and others 10 years to see what the church has to offer. Date other people and try to find some happiness, because I know this is stressful for you (at least it is stressful for me).

If my ex and I never get back together, I will just mark him as the one that I wanted to marry but God had someone else in mind. My ex has claimed that he will leave his church if he sees the truth in the Catholic church but, I’m not holding my breath (I might pass out).

Hope this helps you.
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We’re almost in the same boat, my friend in Christ. Thank you so much for your advice and insights. I’ll send you a personal message 🙂
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Hi! I’m a devout Catholic. I’ve recently dated a girl who is a Jehovah’s Witness. We love each other very much but religion is really a barrier. Just yesterday,she decided to broke up until I can fully understand her faith more - an allusion the she wishes me to study and eventually convert to her faith. We love each other so much but she’s afraid that we can’t make it in married life if we are from different religion. I don’t want to lose her and it seems the only hope is that I know is to attend their bible studies but I don’t think I’ll convert to them. Please help… I need your advices. Thanks alot…
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You are on shaky ground. Advertantly or inadvertantly, you have already begun to aquiesce to her believes when you say, “…but religion is really a barrier”.

You have begun the process of relegating The True Faith to a lesser clumping of [religions] which can lead to the spiritual numbing of your soul and the eventual acceptance of a bad counterfeit.

She seems more willing to break it off for the sake of her beliefs and seems to sense that you are wavering in your’s. So, she puts the threat out there as bait disguised as love.

Show some Catholic character and turn the tables on her: The Catholic church is the One, True church that Christ intended to exsist after His ascension into heaven and of which He left Peter as it’s first pope…264 popes later to Pope Benedict XVI. And the gates of hell have not and will not prevail against her.

Now, if it is truely love, she will convert to the One, True, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic church and reject the cult of JW’s.

Don’t be alarmed by this- JW’s are not christians in the truest sense. They fancy the term “christians” but they are not. They do not believe nor accept the Divinity of Jesus Christ as true God-one in being with the Father-in the unity of the Holy Spirit. Three persons, one God.
This in itself makes them non-christians and in fact makes them a cult.

You have a difficult decision ahead of you. I pray that you’ll make the right one…the heroic one.
 
perro_sarnoso said:
You are on shaky ground. Advertantly or inadvertantly, you have already begun to aquiesce to her believes when you say, “…but religion is really a barrier”.

You have begun the process of relegating The True Faith to a lesser clumping of [religions] which can lead to the spiritual numbing of your soul and the eventual acceptance of a bad counterfeit.

She seems more willing to break it off for the sake of her beliefs and seems to sense that you are wavering in your’s. So, she puts the threat out there as bait disguised as love.

Show some Catholic character and turn the tables on her: The Catholic church is the One, True church that Christ intended to exsist after His ascension into heaven and of which He left Peter as it’s first pope…264 popes later to Pope Benedict XVI. And the gates of hell have not and will not prevail against her.

Now, if it is truely love, she will convert to the One, True, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic church and reject the cult of JW’s.

Don’t be alarmed by this- JW’s are not christians in the truest sense. They fancy the term “christians” but they are not. They do not believe nor accept the Divinity of Jesus Christ as true God-one in being with the Father-in the unity of the Holy Spirit. Three persons, one God.
This in itself makes them non-christians and in fact makes them a cult.

You have a difficult decision ahead of you. I pray that you’ll make the right one…the heroic one.
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Thanks alot my friend. I’m always praying that He’ll give me the strength to let go if it’s really His will…
 
I sadly see this ending with a lot of heartbreak.

To make an interfaith relationship and marriage work there has to be a deep level of understanding for each other and respect for each other’s beliefs. It can’t be just merely tolerating, it has to be truly accepting that as a part of your partner’s life even though it may not be a part of yours.

JW’s are be doctorine heavily discriminatory. If you are truly a devout Catholic, you’re going to run into problems immediately because her faith has absolutely nothing but contempt for any other Christian faith, calling them all apostates, and especially the Catholic church as worst of them all and being the Whore of Babylon. They very much expect themeselves to stick with their own kind taking a hard-line interpretation of the “do not be yoked with unbelievers” (2 Cor 6:14)

You also would never be able to share a core part of your being (your faith) with her. Her making any attempt to sort of be level with you and experience anything will land her in an immense amount of trouble. Participating in any sort of interfaith activity is grounds for disfellowshipment. She can’t even visit your parish without risk of excommunication. She’d be shunned by her community, and possibly even friends and family because of it.

Her breaking things up with you until you “understand her faith more” knowing full well the reality of her beliefs and her situation are really pointing to one thing: She wants you to commit apostacy and abandon the Catholic Chruch. She can play “open and accepting” all she wants for now, but if you want a future with her it’s conversion, or failure. JW’s will not accept a Catholic in their midst, and they would punish her deeply for it.

As much as you love her and she might love you, no person is worth you abandoning something you deeply believe in for.

With Metta, I hope you find the peace and wisdom to follow what’s in your heart.
 
There was a previous post by a women who is now a CAtholic and her husband in atheist and the problems they have over the children and religion. This is a reality check for you.
you need to be on the same page as a married couple especially in raising children.
You are going down a heartbreak road if you marry.
 
I think it is possible to be succesful. But you shall have to be at the side of God. Court Him and maybe he will lead you to court Her and make from Her a Catholic lady.

But make of God your first bride. And if He teaches you that your gilrfriend’s not the one, you should take it as a white shinning coming of another spouse towards you, and you won’t make for your gilrfriend a dark monster who helps to lead you Outside the most Glorious state. I talk from my own experience.👍
 
The fact that she, a JW, is dating a not-JW means that her faith is somewhat weak.
 
Archedreamer said:
I think it is possible to be succesful. But you shall have to be at the side of God. Court Him and maybe he will lead you to court Her and make from Her a Catholic lady.

But make of God your first bride. And if He teaches you that your gilrfriend’s not the one, you should take it as a white shinning coming of another spouse towards you, and you won’t make for your gilrfriend a dark monster who helps to lead you Outside the most Glorious state. I talk from my own experience.👍
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Thank you so much for your insights. By the way, can you tell me your experience? If you don’t mind, I’m interested. You may PM me or reply in this post. Thanks alot 🙂
 
I’m appreciating so much your insights and replies. I never thought there could be a forum that will uplift and enlighten me. God bless us always 🙂
 
As a convert (from the Presbyterian Church) nearly 25 years ago I found that in my conversion many questions I had about Christianity were answered (thanks Baltimore Catechism). There was not much distance between the denomination that I was raised and the Church.

That being said, with the differences in mainstream Christianity and the Catholic Church and JW I don’t see how two individuals who are committed to their respective faith can live happily ever after. The differences in your faith is the 800 Lb Gorilla in the room that is better addressed sooner than later.

Also be mindful that when two people marry their respective families are part of the package- and thus add a new dimension to your question. Are you or she willing to being cut off by one of your families? When I chose to convert my father’s advice was simply “If you convert, be a good one.” That is, live my faith and be a part of it.

I don’t know if I have given you and answer; but I hope that by sharing my view it can help lead you both to an answer. God Bless you both. :blessyou:
 
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