Catholic guy dating a JW girl.. Please help..

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jnoelbalana14,

Hi,
I also met a wonderful JW girl. Here is my story. I was Catholic and originally had plans to become a priest. While visiting with then Father Charles Chaput (now Archbishop Chaput), he told me that I should reexamine my vocation. He noticed that I liked young women a bit much for a future priest. Within a few years I met this wonderful girl while doing work for some JWs. I felt that these JWs needed to learn the truth about being Christian but I went totally unprepared. They were able to show me scriptures that seemed to prove their points. I loved her so much and the easiest way to be close to her was to study with them in their books. Notice that they won’t study with you just out of the Bible, but you have to study out of one of their books. It all sounded so good. They talked about a beautiful paradise earth in which I could live with her for eternity. I had no interest in being in heaven playing a harp for eternity. It sounded much better to live on earth, enjoying the animals and nature, building homes and a family. After a while, I wanted to believe their beliefs. I was alone in a small town away from my family and the Jehovahs Witnesses were so nice and treated me special. They became ‘friends’ quickly (now I know that the 'friends part is just an act because they are forbidden to be friends with 'worldly people). Soon I wanted to believe it all and I just saw what I wanted to see in the Bible. If it didn’t agree, I ignored it. Slowly but surely I was dropping my guard. After about a year and a half I was completely brain washed and was baptized as a Jehovahs Witness. I was married to the young lady about two years after my baptism (notice that it wasn’t while I was studying). Within five years I became a full time minister (what they call a Pioneer). I worked on their new World Headquarters in Patterson New York and was fully into it. But during this time, I was just reading the Bible too much. I started thinking about my non JW family. How religious they were, what good christians these Catholics were, but yet as JW, I knew they would be killed in a violent terrible death at Armagedon. I wondered what type of God would do this to such faithful wonderful people. As time went on, I came to realize that the JWs didn’t have the truth but they indoctrinated me to believe the Catholic church was evil, so I became an Agnostic. But here I am, 20 years later, trying to come back to my Catholic Church. My marriage to my JW wife has been sterile and sad for some 15 years now. We didn’t have children because while my wife was young enough to get pregnant, the JWs taught that you shouldn’t have children since the end was within the next couple of years. Now I look back with sorrow. I have no children but I love children, I live with a woman that doesn’t share my faith and even hates my faith, we have so little in common now. We still love each other but I can’t even share with her about my beliefs. She may even have to shun me or even divorce me if I went back to Catholic church again. How different would my life be now if I had just moved on and met a nice Catholic girl, had children, was able to worship God with other Catholics. But, I made the mistake that you sound like you want to make. Their religion is like quick sand, the more you struggle against it, the more it pulls you in. RUN, don’t walk away from this whole situation. She wants to break it off so please move on. Make this experience teach you how important it is to become closer to God, to pray to God for a nice Catholic girl who you can build a real happy and productive live, serving God and Christ in his one and only church on earth.
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
I’m willing to study but I will never convert…
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Then you should probally cash in your chips now and get out of the game.

They are taught to convert us. They will never accept your faith, and they do not see Jesus as the Son of God. They see him as the Angel Michael.

They deny Christ as the Risen Lord, and say that he never came back as he left us. They claim he came back as many people. Scripture of course disputes this. Jesus himself said it is I Thomas, put your fingers in my hands and feel the wholes.

If you are going to study anything study your own faith. That will be the truth to dispute the untruths they teach. Also they have their own version of the bible. Make sure you educate yourself and keep your own bible.

Also they are forbidden to read any of our teachings.
 
Run from this girl.I married a jehovah witness girl three years ago and now the issue of children has come up.she wants a child from me and it must be a jehovah witness.I’m Roman Catholic.I refused and said I will only have a child on condition the child is Catholic.After many arguements about it she has filed for divorce due to this sole reason.she was under the impression that in doing so I would crumble under pressure and I didn’t.It hurts like hell and yes I’m nursing a broken heart but will not have a child of mine grow up in that cult.since I have done nothing or made no attempt to stop the divorce she has become increasingly verbally abusive .I wished her all the best and limit communication unless relavant.I realized her love to have a child in her faith if you can call it that was greater than the so called love she had for me.She is using divorce as ransom for me to cave into her demands.I will not cave.hope you don’t make the same mistake I did in marrying a jehovah witness.she is going to break your heart and try to break your spirit.I pray for you my brother and I hope everyone can please pray for me in this trying time.
 
Trinity1,

I feel for you. I wanted to have a child too but as I mentioned, at the time she was able to have children, the stand of the Watchtower was ‘Children at the time of the end are a burden and it would be cruel to bring them into this evil world’. Well, now they don’t have that rule so we can have children. Too late anyway but she would have raised the child JW one way or another.
Just keep praying to God, Jesus and the saints to give you the strength to move beyond this difficult time.
 
St_Donatus said:
jnoelbalana14,

Hi,
I also met a wonderful JW girl. Here is my story. I was Catholic and originally had plans to become a priest. While visiting with then Father Charles Chaput (now Archbishop Chaput), he told me that I should reexamine my vocation. He noticed that I liked young women a bit much for a future priest. Within a few years I met this wonderful girl while doing work for some JWs. I felt that these JWs needed to learn the truth about being Christian but I went totally unprepared. They were able to show me scriptures that seemed to prove their points. I loved her so much and the easiest way to be close to her was to study with them in their books. Notice that they won’t study with you just out of the Bible, but you have to study out of one of their books. It all sounded so good. They talked about a beautiful paradise earth in which I could live with her for eternity. I had no interest in being in heaven playing a harp for eternity. It sounded much better to live on earth, enjoying the animals and nature, building homes and a family. After a while, I wanted to believe their beliefs. I was alone in a small town away from my family and the Jehovahs Witnesses were so nice and treated me special. They became ‘friends’ quickly (now I know that the 'friends part is just an act because they are forbidden to be friends with 'worldly people). Soon I wanted to believe it all and I just saw what I wanted to see in the Bible. If it didn’t agree, I ignored it. Slowly but surely I was dropping my guard. After about a year and a half I was completely brain washed and was baptized as a Jehovahs Witness. I was married to the young lady about two years after my baptism (notice that it wasn’t while I was studying). Within five years I became a full time minister (what they call a Pioneer). I worked on their new World Headquarters in Patterson New York and was fully into it. But during this time, I was just reading the Bible too much. I started thinking about my non JW family. How religious they were, what good christians these Catholics were, but yet as JW, I knew they would be killed in a violent terrible death at Armagedon. I wondered what type of God would do this to such faithful wonderful people. As time went on, I came to realize that the JWs didn’t have the truth but they indoctrinated me to believe the Catholic church was evil, so I became an Agnostic. But here I am, 20 years later, trying to come back to my Catholic Church. My marriage to my JW wife has been sterile and sad for some 15 years now. We didn’t have children because while my wife was young enough to get pregnant, the JWs taught that you shouldn’t have children since the end was within the next couple of years. Now I look back with sorrow. I have no children but I love children, I live with a woman that doesn’t share my faith and even hates my faith, we have so little in common now. We still love each other but I can’t even share with her about my beliefs. She may even have to shun me or even divorce me if I went back to Catholic church again. How different would my life be now if I had just moved on and met a nice Catholic girl, had children, was able to worship God with other Catholics. But, I made the mistake that you sound like you want to make. Their religion is like quick sand, the more you struggle against it, the more it pulls you in. RUN, don’t walk away from this whole situation. She wants to break it off so please move on. Make this experience teach you how important it is to become closer to God, to pray to God for a nice Catholic girl who you can build a real happy and productive live, serving God and Christ in his one and only church on earth.
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Thank you so much for your sharings. It seems that your experiences are most likely will be my experience if I pursue my former gf. I’m weighing the situation. I’m always praying to God to show me a nice Catholic girl. If I’ve met that Catholic girl, then I can totally move on… Thank you so much. Please pray for me.
 
Thank you so much for your (name removed by moderator)uts and replies. Please pray for me and for my gf… Thank you so much…
 
jnoelbalana,

You certainly have had a lot of good insights from others. But sometimes our heart screams so loud that our mind cannot hear a thing. It is our heart that is our undoing.

May I suggest something that will lift a heavy heart.

The MIRACULOUS Medal.

Why this? Because it truly is miraculous, that is where it got the name. From the people themselves.

You obviously need strength to do the right thing. Mary promises GREAT and ABUNDANT graces to those who wear it in her behalf. All you have to do is trust her, without a doubt, that she will give you those graces when you ask her for them.

Here is some important info about the Miraculous Medal, one of Mother Teresa’s
favorites.

"Have a medal struck… All who wear it will receive GREAT graces; they should wear it around

the neck. GRACES will ABOUND for persons who wear it with CONFIDENCE."
From the mother of Jesus spoken to sister Catherine Laboure 1830.
Later Mary said, “… it must be given to the whole world and to every person.”

“Great graces are often attached to what seems trifling.” St. Margaret Mary Alacoque

"The devotions we practice in honor of the glorious Virgin Mary, however trifling they be,

are very pleasing to her divine Son, …" St. Teresa of Jesus

During this apparition, Mary’s hands had 3 rings on each finger. Each ring gave off
rays of colored light. A few rings did not. Mary said that the lights radiating from
the rings are graces that people ASK for. The rings that didn’t radiate she said
were graces not given because they were NOT asked for.

Have it blessed. Keep it on all all times.
Wear her medal in her honor because the devil will not stand by and not tempt you.

Then say, “Mary I am asking now for great graces which
you promised to those who ask and believe in what you said.”
Trust her, it works. She is the mother of God. Would she lie?
Your mother wants to help you. It is her wish for you. She promised and she will deliver.

“Great graces are often attached to what seems trifling.” St. Margaret Mary Alacoque

Put yourself in her care completely knowing she will keep her word to you.
Just hold the medal, and ask for a great grace.
Code: 
[legionofmary.org/MiracMedal.html](http://www.legionofmary.org/MiracMedal.html)
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“Yes, blessed is she who BELIEVED that the PROMISE made her by the Lord would be FULFILLED.”
(Lk. 1;45) St. Elizabeth extolling Mary for her complete trust in God’s promise.
 
Dear Friend,

Please remember that the girl you love will not give up her faith and has set her sights on you as a . . . potential convert. I know Italian Catholics who have married Italian Jehovah’s Witnesses - all hopeless situations where the Catholics soon become Jehovah’s Witnesses.

If you study with them for three years or whatever, remember you will be going into a greater depth into their faith that you probably haven’t with your own Catholic faith. You will wind up knowing more about what they believe, including their arguments against Catholicism, than you know about Catholicism.

What will happen? You will be putting your faith in grave danger. You will set yourself up to lose your faith. Also, what if after three years of studying their faith, you don’t convert? Your girlfriend may even put the issue of your conversion as a test of your love for her.

Do you really want to be put in that situation (you sound like you are there already) to choose between that girl and your faith (i.e. eternal life)?

I don’t want to say there are plenty of other girls out there. But I will anyway . . . And good Catholic girls. Go out and find yourself some really pious Catholic girls. Studies have shown that the more religious women are, the more passionate they are . . . at dances and parties.

You are in a quandry, but you are young. Don’t kid yourself that you can hang out with them for three years and emerge as Catholic as you are today.

Alex
 
Alexander_Roman said:
Go out and find yourself some really pious Catholic girls. Studies have shown that the more religious women are, the more passionate they are . . . at dances and parties.
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Studies also show that Catholic girls are better at giving blowies because they so used to being in the submissive position with priests
 
Chaim said:
We will, God bless you. With that, you can visit the local Jewish community in your country if you want to get deeper information about this issue.
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The link doesn’t work for me. And I’m curious as to why you would recommend a Catholic dating a Jehovah’s Witness “visit the local Jewish community”? 🙂
 
Sorry the post is intended for the catholic guy dating a jehovah witness girl.👍
 
jnoelbalana14 said:
Hi! I’m a devout Catholic. I’ve recently dated a girl who is a Jehovah’s Witness. We love each other very much but religion is really a barrier. Just yesterday,she decided to broke up until I can fully understand her faith more - an allusion the she wishes me to study and eventually convert to her faith. We love each other so much but she’s afraid that we can’t make it in married life if we are from different religion. I don’t want to lose her and it seems the only hope is that I know is to attend their bible studies but I don’t think I’ll convert to them. Please help… I need your advices. Thanks alot…
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dont change your faith cause of a girl - i mean that in a way that you should see the evidence in the Catholic church and see that you HAVE THE RIGHT FAITH!
 
jnoelbalana14: I hate to break your heart, but it might not be a good idea for you to maintain a relationship with her. I used to have a JW boyfriend. At first, I thought religion would not matter because we loved each other. In fact, if we ended up getting married, I was willing to raise any children we had in his faith but I decided I would not convert. It did not work out. His family and his co-JWs made him feel guilty about dating a Catholic. He also felt bad whenever I would bring him to church when I heard mass. It was a mess in the end because neither of us would budge as far as converting went.

I know it sounds romantic when “love conquers all” but you also have to be practical. And you have to be concerned about your soul.

If you can bring her into the Catholic faith, then I think there is a glimmer of hope. Remember that as a male, you are expected to be the spiritual leader of your family.

I pray that God reveals to you His plan for your life in ways that you understand. Be firm and be strong in your faith.
 
I am praying to Saint Jude and it is just great the way he is answering my prayers. He truly always listens. Why wouldn’t you say a 9 day novena to him? I am sure he will give you a sign or show you a direction. He is really a marvelous saint! Please give it a try. Please.
 
Hi Guys

I just want to share some good news.Yesterday my divorce went threw.So I am officially free from the Jehovah Witness .It is with great relief that I can announce this as it has been a very traumatic journey being Catholic and married to a jehovah witness .I thank the Lord that he has guided me out of the darkness I was in .

Hope you guys have a blessed awesome day:thumbsup:
 
You’ve received excellent advice and I certainly hope you seek another relationship.

I recently met a JW neighbor who was interested in converting me. I went home and looked up JW and floored at what constitutes their beliefs. I believe they’re pagans, not Christians, and a cult. It is also very obvious that she is not interested in debating her religion. My feeling is they only want to involve themselves with those who are lukewarm and can be easily swayed. In your case the carrot is the girlfriend.

Have you ever met the Catholic brother-in-law? If he is still Catholic, his life is not easy.

My neighbor is divorced and her kids are Protestant. They chose to live with their Dad which grieves her. They come after all major holidays, after her birthday and after theirs because there is no celebrations in her home. Celebrations are against the JW’s beliefs. They are, in my estimation, a joyless lot.

A Protestant friend had a son who married a JW and converted. He then had five children. Everytime his mother sent a gift to one of the kids an argument would break out because he’d accuse her of forcing celebrations on to his kids.

Her reply was that she was a grandmother and this is what grandmothers do and she was trying not to send the gifts on their birthdays or on or around religious or patriotic holidays but it was difficult. Consider we’re talking about five kids with bdays in different months plus Easter, and Christmas and then add the patriotic holidays so when is a good time to send something???
 
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