Catholic husband and non-baptised wife

[Anicette]

Thank you. I am unsure if he did it deliberately. He may be unaware of the marriage procedure.

I am not sure what you mean.

I am seriousely doubting that a Catholic who is practicing doesn’t know that a civil marriage only will be invalid in the eyes of Church (so for us, for God). He needs to have a Catholic weeding at the same time.
I am doubting that he doesn’t know that a Catholic marriage cannot be dissolved. Most of people who live in a a Catholic culture know that.
I am doubting that he doesn’t know that a couple should agree with having children if it is a biological possibility for them when they marry in the Church.

Maybe he had have a civil marriage only because he feels unsure?

Anyway, you don’t need his agreement to be baptized.

 

[redcatholic]

Ok so we have a couple of issues now with more information. The baptism issue is separate from the marriage issue. If you believe in Christianity, are in contact with a parish priest and peruse the catechism then you should enter RCIA and get baptized as soon as possible. This has nothing to do with your marital issues but it is being used to cover up a bigger issue within your marriage. If the Gospel and the Church is something you accept and believe you MUST get baptized.

Second, many things about your marriage aren’t adding up. Strangers on the internet won’t help you but My recommendation is to contact and participate in retrouvaille. ASAP.

Something is off. You two could be from different cultures or there could be a communication issue. But something isn’t adding up.

 

[Liu]

Hi thank you. I have had the doubts but I chose not to believe myself. Thank you for pointing out this to me. I booked to see my parish priest on Jan to understand the procedure to get baptised.

 

[Liu]

Thank you. You have already helped me a lot. I live abroad. My ex-husband-to-be is my only family here. I haven’t talked to my parents yet and have no one to talk to but the priest. So your views have helped me to see the situation better and clearer.

I am seeing my parish priest on Jan to understand the procedure of getting baptised.

I have lots of questions and doubts about my marriage. But I don’t see through.

 

[Tis_Bearself]

To be honest, it sounds like your husband was not totally committed to this marriage to begin with, or he would have married you in the Church. An “active practicing Catholic” knows that he needs to be married in the Church, not civilly. Him refusing to marry you in the Church originally sounds like he was trying to leave a back door open to get out of the marriage if it didn’t work out. If you two are not married in the Church, it would be easier for him to escape the marriage.

Furthermore some of the other stuff he said such as not wanting children is NOT consistent with an “active practicing Catholic”. If he feels that way then he should not be marrying anyone because the Catholic faith expects married people to welcome any children they might conceive.

I am sorry for this situation but he just does not sound like he is acting like a good Catholic husband.

While his sins are between him and his priest, the civil marriage he is in right now is sinful for a Catholic and he needs to either get the marriage recognized in the Church or get out of the marriage.

 

[Liu]

Thank you so much for the explanation. These days I start to understand the situation better given the advice and explanation I received from people here and my local priest. It is heartbroken to realise that he was not so committed to our marriage. I certainly don’t want to see him living in a sinful life. Himself is now also very depressed about this. It’s going to be painful for me to divorce him. I hope God would save us from this situation, one way or another.