Catholic, married to Non - May I accept Eucharist?

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Hello, new to this forum. Here is my dilemma. I am a cradle Catholic (baptized, 1st communion, confirmed) who left the faith 20+ yrs ago. In my heart, I never left God, just the Catholic religion. I ended up attending a non-denominational church. During this time away from the Catholic Church, I met & married my husband. Again,was not a practicing Catholic so we were not married in a Catholic Church. We were married outdoors, by a Justice of the Peace who was also a Deacon in his church. He did pray over us because I asked him too. I didn’t want to be married simply by the state, I wanted God involved. ANYWAY, fast forward to current day … after a journey of seeking, knocking, & asking … I have returned to my Catholic faith, whole heartedly. I’ve been going to confession regularly, monthly, accepting the Eucharist every mass. My husband has no interest in the Catholic faith so he hasn’t followed. I DID talk to my priest about this, he said he was fine with me returning to the faith on my own and accepting the Eucharist, he also offered to counsel us, perhaps find a way to bless our marriage within the church. I forget the term he used. The problem is, the more involved I am in returning to the faith, the more I love to listen to sermons and lectures by priests on-line- food for the soul. And I just heard one say something about marriage, not blessed in the Catholic Church, and people accepting Eucharist anyway is just sin, on top of sin, on top of sin. So now I’m confused. Again, I talked to my priest and he said I was okay to do so! WHAT IS THE CORRECT answer. I’m trying to live in a state of grace, not in the grave! Please help!
 
Your priest is aware of your own personal situation. You need to follow your priest. If you have a concern about what priest A told you, you would have to go find another priest B and speak to priest B, in detail and in person. You cannot just pick something off the Internet and assume it applies to you. Nor can you go by the judgment of a lot of random people off the internet.

However, I think if I were you I would take the priest up on his offer about seeing if there is some way to “bless your marriage within the church”. That way, it would remove all doubt in your mind, since the only issue seems to be the status of your marriage.
 
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Nobody on this forum can answer your question, they can only speculate.

Listen to what the Priest you talked to said.

@Tis_Bearself gave you an appropriate response as well… which was basically listen to the Priest, or if you’re really in doubt get a second opinion from another Priest.

That’s the furthest anybody is going to be able to accurately address you, OP.
 
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“However, I think if I were you I would take the priest up on his offer about seeing if there is some way to “bless your marriage within the church”. That way, it would remove all doubt in your mind, since the only issue seems to be the status of your marriage.“

Agree with @Tis_Bearself

Work with your priest. His compassionate response may help to win over your husband.
 
Thank you all for your replies. I think that’s all I needed- just gentle reassurance. I left the faith once but now, I am certain I’m back to where I belong. I will never leave again. I left because I completely mis-judged the whole church by the behavior of a few. I know now, how wrong that was. People are people, we’re imperfect … which is exactly why we need a savior. Thanks for the direction! May God bless you for taking a few minutes out of your day to respond.
 
The term for bringing a marriage into the Church is convalidation.
 
You should discuss this with your pastor. Your marriage does need convalidation, which doesn’t require your husband to be Catholic.

You need to talk with your pastor, not get random (name removed by moderator)ut from the internet. There may be aspects of the situation he is aware of that we are not.
 
The only thing that could cause a problem here is if your husband was previously married and divorced. Then, his first marriage would have to be annulled before you could be convalidated.

If this is his only marriage, it should run smooth as silk
 
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