Catholic mom abandoned family - mental illness

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My father wasn’t christian, so this was never a theme. I can’t say if it had affected me. In the eyes of a child, there is IMHO only “staying loyal to the mother= staying married” or leaving. I was 7 and Not really interested in Canon law.
 
The OP is interested in getting married in the Catholic church.

It would be different if the children were being raised by this very mentally ill woman, but they are not she is hundreds of miles away.

With all due respect the situations, and what the OP is hoping to accomplish (marriage proper under Canon Law) are very different. And he is not talking about raising the children with the mentally ill mother, but whether or not he should provide them with a stepmother.
 
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The OP is interested in getting married in the Catholic church.
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Unfortunately the OP states both that he is validly married and not seeking a decree of nullity AND that he wants to marry someone else. So it’s not clear that he wants to marry in the Church, because he cannot marry in the church while his wife is alive.

So I’m not really sure what the OP wants. Maybe he wants people to tell him he is justified in seeking a civil remarriage and thereby committing adultery? Maybe he wants someone to tell him he could still receive communion while committing adultery? No, we can’t tell him something that is not true.
 
Well aware the OP cannot get married in the Catholic church if his first marriage is valid – which he says is it is. He is seeking to remarry “legally” which is not possible given what he has described. I am not contesting any of that (and my previous posts support this), just trying to explain to this other poster how her situation is different than his.

I don’t know exactly what he wants either – he states he wants a stepmother for his children, for a variety of reasons, but then admits he is validly married. He seems to want us to tell him that it is OK to get remarried if he is already validly married because of his admittedly tragic and unfortunate circumstance but of course no one can do that. It is obvious his Catholic faith is important to him, and he wants to remain observant Catholic, but there is no way around this besides an annulment, and he states he is validly married.
 
What I want is my wife back, and would live with today, if not for the presence of my children, even if all she did was study the Bible and speak to me intermittently.

In the absence of that, I want what most do: to love and be loved. I would offer a deep, caring, sacrificial love and cherish her - always.

Can I successfully get an annulment? I’m confident that I’ll receive one if/when I petition. I filled out the forms (maybe two years ago). I have prayed about it - a lot. Perhaps now is the time to move forward with my life.

I appreciate everyone’s (name removed by moderator)ut - really and truly. Happy Easter to everyone!!
 
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Not really, no. Closest ones are about 6 hours away. We see one another for holidays, etc, but not day-to-day.
 
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