First, I don’t see the connection between the two phenomena, other than they are both odd. And I do agree they are both odd practices.
You really miss the point entirely. I object to the game of proof-texting by opponents of the Catholic. Often the game is to conjure up some extreme perspectives that simply are not Catholic teaching. But it makes no sense for non-Catholics to attempt to bind Catholics to certain beliefs not held by the Church.
At the same time, I don’t like the game of seeking minimal belief at all. But it is ridiculous for you to be laying that charge against Catholics. Go to an Orthodox board and see all of the effort spent, for example, on retreating from the Church teachings - enshrined in the liturgy - on the Theotokos. There is positive pride about the East dogmatizing very little, and adherents happily take advantage of the latitude. My reaction: conform your thinking to the totality of the tradition of the church.
You are preaching to the choir.

Are you talking of the my particular church? I don’t think so.
Moreover, I think that it is inappropriate for you to use the world “mess” to talk about the Catholic mass. This “mess” incorporates the Eucharistic Sacrifice and Communion. Respect for that belief, even if you disagree with it, should preclude calling it a “mess”: however poorly practiced, it is, in fact, an awesome mystery.