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MidnightSun02
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Hello,
My family have been really struggling with issues that pertain to our youngest brother. He has been making decisions (with a relationship) that, we worry, may end up in heart break. We have tried convincing our brother that these may not be the correct decisions.
However, long story short, it ends up that he has to lie to us in order to get away with some of the things he has been up to. One of my sisters is literally worried sick about him to a point where she is crying on the phone to us and she is pregnant. It is so bad now that some of my sisters have threatened never to speak to my brother or that he needs to move out becuase it is putting so much strain on the family.
Anyways, I had to apologize to my brother becuase I felt terrible that I yelled at him one day in anger for the decisions he was making. I sat down and talked with him and expressed my feelings. He said that he feels that he needs to get away and leave because he feels that no one wants him around. I told him that we enjoy having him around and that we really do care for him (and his future). But I also told him that he should feel more than comfortable to speak with me regarding anything. I even urged him to come to confession and mass with me this weekend (he hasn’t been going to mass regularly).
I don’t want my brother to just up and leave…he is only 20 and, in my opinion, still very naive and clueless about the real world. He is the youngest and only boy in the family of 7 sisters. I did, however, mention to him that if he does decide to leave for awhile that what he can do is perhaps go on a Catholic spiritual retreat so he can, in some respects, be alone but also able to pray and reflect and to ask for God’s blessing and guidance.
Does anyone know of a good Catholic place he can visit as a retreat? A monastery? Some place where he can block out the world and focus on what he needs to do for himself and others? I know I can’t make decisions for my brother as he will learn on his own. But I want him to know that I do love him and that I believe something like this may be able to open his eyes and his heart.
If anyone has any information on Catholic retreats please inform me…links would be wonderful.
Thank you and God Bless.
My family have been really struggling with issues that pertain to our youngest brother. He has been making decisions (with a relationship) that, we worry, may end up in heart break. We have tried convincing our brother that these may not be the correct decisions.
However, long story short, it ends up that he has to lie to us in order to get away with some of the things he has been up to. One of my sisters is literally worried sick about him to a point where she is crying on the phone to us and she is pregnant. It is so bad now that some of my sisters have threatened never to speak to my brother or that he needs to move out becuase it is putting so much strain on the family.
Anyways, I had to apologize to my brother becuase I felt terrible that I yelled at him one day in anger for the decisions he was making. I sat down and talked with him and expressed my feelings. He said that he feels that he needs to get away and leave because he feels that no one wants him around. I told him that we enjoy having him around and that we really do care for him (and his future). But I also told him that he should feel more than comfortable to speak with me regarding anything. I even urged him to come to confession and mass with me this weekend (he hasn’t been going to mass regularly).
I don’t want my brother to just up and leave…he is only 20 and, in my opinion, still very naive and clueless about the real world. He is the youngest and only boy in the family of 7 sisters. I did, however, mention to him that if he does decide to leave for awhile that what he can do is perhaps go on a Catholic spiritual retreat so he can, in some respects, be alone but also able to pray and reflect and to ask for God’s blessing and guidance.
Does anyone know of a good Catholic place he can visit as a retreat? A monastery? Some place where he can block out the world and focus on what he needs to do for himself and others? I know I can’t make decisions for my brother as he will learn on his own. But I want him to know that I do love him and that I believe something like this may be able to open his eyes and his heart.
If anyone has any information on Catholic retreats please inform me…links would be wonderful.
Thank you and God Bless.