Yes, it was sloppy. If you care, please pick one of the so-called “bad” behaviors (masturbation, contraception, pre-marital sex, extra-marital sex, cohabitation) and give us the secular, double-blind “studies” which show that they are necessarily detrimental, or at least they are detrimental in most cases. (Just to show that sometimes they might be detrimental is not enough. Anything and everything can be bad under certain circumstances). I also ask you not to refer to any dogma, religious assertion while you doing it. Remember, I am saying that the Church’s sexual stance is indefensible of secular grounds. I would suggest to do it in a different thread. Your choice.
Consider the following secular grounds why fornication and pre-marital sex should remain immoral.
Effects of Pre-marital sex:
*Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life
Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today’s infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.
Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father’s love, protection and care.
If you date and you don’t have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.*
unification.net/tfv/tenreasons.html
Fornication:
*You mean generally how? With religion aside and sicknesses, it causes, especially excessively, lack of importance of sex in future relationships. It devalues the actual act. It may even cause you to only look at the opposite sex for nothing but sex. Fornication can also make it very hard for you to be satisfied with one woman (and if continued, in your marriage as well) especially if you and the girl you are with have sex randomly and frequently. You get used to it and start to want to have more variety, if you will. It becomes a habit so much that even if you are not in the mood, just because the girl is in the mood, your mind tells you that since you have been doing it so much, you must “show up”.
For women, it makes them feel that sex is all they are really valued for. They therefore, in order to be accepted, embrace their sexual image and develop it further, bringing even more stigma and gossip on themselves. They also can start to think that having sex with a guy can make him fall for her and make him stay around. It is quite the reverse: having sex with a dude soon makes him not see you as serious material. It hastens him to label you as a free sex supply basically. Someone who he can simply see you when he is in the mood because the first thing he finds out about you is that you dont value yourself that much so why should he?*
wiki.answers.com/Q/What_are_the_possible_effects_of_fornication_generally&src=ansTT
Life is full of surprises. Now, if you just could prove that the Bible is correct in what it says…