Catholic Singles, did it work?

[Chyna]

Hello Everyone,

i was wondering if anyone here has tried the Catholic Singles web site that is attached to the bottom of this forum? Does it work? Have you tried it?

Do you think it is safe?

Chyna

 

[mamacita]

**I am not sure about that site. I met my husband through Ave Maria Catholic Singles website. My mom met her DH through that one as well. It was perfectly safe, cost around $100 back when I joined, not sure of the price now. But the cost involved made me feel safer, meaning that I felt like the people on there were serious about their faith (which in fact, all of the ones I met were very devout Catholics). The questions on Ave Maria were very in depth, meaning that you really had to be Catholic to answer them, in my opinion. **

 

[Chyna]

mamacita,

Thank you for answering. That is what i am looking for ,same faith as me, but also to really believe what the Church teaches. i meet so many Catholics who are non practicing or truly do not follow. They are what i would call a face Catholic. Thanks

Chyna

 

[donnyblake]

I’m currently a member at Catholic Singles, Catholic Match, and Ave Maria Singles. CM has the most members in my opinion. AMS has the most devout members though in my opinion. AMS is pricey initially…about $175 I believe. The other two charge a monthy rate. I’ve had success in the past on CS and dated a woman for 6 months last year. AMS needs to get more members, CS needs to get more members who post a photo, and CM needs to get more members who agree with all of The Church’s teachings. They all are worthwhile though in my opinion and I plan on keeping my memberships until I meet my future wife, there or offline. I wish you the best.

 

[Chyna]

donnyblake I’m currently a member at Catholic Singles, Catholic Match, and Ave Maria Singles. CM has the most members in my opinion. AMS has the most devout members though in my opinion. AMS is pricey initially…about $175 I believe. The other two charge a monthy rate. I’ve had success in the past on CS and dated a woman for 6 months last year. AMS needs to get more members, CS needs to get more members who post a photo, and CM needs to get more members who agree with all of The Church’s teachings. They all are worthwhile though in my opinion and I plan on keeping my memberships until I meet my future wife, there or offline. I wish you the best.

Thank you for the info. We you nervous at first? One hears of horror stories with finding a date on line. i would prefer to use one that does have members that truly believe what the Church teaches. Did you feel bad, to have to resort to such a way as to find a date? For me, i kind of feel bad that i am unable to find a good one. What does this say of me, i often wonder? i am picky but not for the wrong reasons. Do you think that i should wait until God sends him to me? Am i pushing my will and not God’s? Thank you for your insight.

Chyna

 

[1ke]

Hello Everyone,

i was wondering if anyone here has tried the Catholic Singles web site that is attached to the bottom of this forum? Does it work? Have you tried it?

Do you think it is safe?

Chyna

I met my husband on Ave Maria. I believe “Catholic Match” advertises here on Catholic Answers.

Ave Maria seems to attract more serious individuals, from what I have seen. I do know that there are people who are on both services. And, there are some people here on CAF who met their spouses on Catholic Match.

I think, as with ANY dating, caution and proper expectations are in order. Is it safe? I would say that yes, it is just as safe as meeting someone at your parish or out in public randomly. You should use caution, not disclose personal details (such as address, last name, etc) too quickly, and use your good judgment.

I had nothing but good experiences on Ave-- met and dated several men on there before meeting my DH.

 

[mamacita]

**When you go to meet someone that you met on a dating site, bring a friend along. Or, Meet in a public location (not a house, or a hotel assuming they came from out of town, etc.). Or, have a friend follow you (in their car) once you meet the person at a public location (not letting the other person know of course that a friend is ‘spying’), sounds silly I know, but in this day and age you can never be too careful. That’s just my opinion.

Don’t be embarrassed about meeting someone online. It is hard these days to find a good Catholic guy/girl at a bar or anywhere. Unless you find someone at Mass, I think that online Catholic sites are the way to go!!! **

 

[Chyna]

1ke Quote:
I met my husband on Ave Maria. I believe “Catholic Match” advertises here on Catholic Answers.

Ave Maria seems to attract more serious individuals, from what I have seen. I do know that there are people who are on both services. And, there are some people here on CAF who met their spouses on Catholic Match.

I think, as with ANY dating, caution and proper expectations are in order. Is it safe? I would say that yes, it is just as safe as meeting someone at your parish or out in public randomly. You should use caution, not disclose personal details (such as address, last name, etc) too quickly, and use your good judgment.

I had nothing but good experiences on Ave-- met and dated several men on there before meeting my DH.

1ke,

i am so glad to hear that you met your husband on Ave Maria. i am so happy that it worked for you. Thank you for taking your time to answer my question. Blessings to you and yours.

Chyna

 

[Chyna]

Don’t be embarrassed about meeting someone online. It is hard these days to find a good Catholic guy/girl at a bar or anywhere. Unless you find someone at Mass, I think that online Catholic sites are the way to go!!!

mamacita,

Thank you for your reply. Yes it is very hard to meet a good Catholic guy. No one that i can see at the Mass i attend. And the volunteer work that i do at Church, i really only encounter the old and the families. It seems that the guys my age do not go to the functions that i volunteer at. So anyway, thank you for answering. i am thinking…uch:

 

[beckyann2597]

My dear SIL is having the same problem. She had a major reconversion to the church last year and is now looking seriously for a guywho shares a passion for the faith. I am obviously married to her brother, and we know alot of devout men, all married fathers! I think I am going to suggest AMS to her, it seems to have the highest success rate!

 

[StratusRose]

Catholic Singles worked for me! That’s how I met my husband.

 

[Mirror_Mirror]

**I am not sure about that site. I met my husband through Ave Maria Catholic Singles website. **

That is me!!

**My mom met her DH through that one as well. It was perfectly safe, cost around $100 back when I joined, not sure of the price now. But the cost involved made me feel safer, meaning that I felt like the people on there were serious about their faith (which in fact, all of the ones I met were very devout Catholics). The questions on Ave Maria were very in depth, meaning that you really had to be Catholic to answer them, in my opinion. **

Just to add to what my DW has said, I felt that when I joined Ave Maria that there was so much care taken with the questions that, while I felt overwhelmed, I felt that this was extremely important. This gave you a snapshot into a potential mate’s faith life and you can find out what is important without even contacting them. Agree that it is important to talk with them and find out as well, but to have that info in front of you was a benefit.

Just open your mind and your heart to God’s will and maybe this will be where He choses to place you and your future husband. I would have never thought that I would meet my wife on a website and while at first it was embarassing to tell this, well I should say awkward, not embarassing, it has become a great story now with all that is inolved with how DW and I ended up meeting. Funny how the Lord brought us together. He must know what He is doing!

 

[mizznicole]

Friends of ours met through Ave singles and are happily married w/ 2 kids. I’ve known quite a few Christian couples who have met through other sites and have successful (so far!) marriages. And then there are other friends who have used eHarmony, for example, and have yet to find a match. Moral of the story? Technology doesn’t guarantee anything. You’re still in God’s hands! It is extremely hard to find a faithful Catholic or any kind of Christian man these days. My marriage was a pure grace, totally unexpected. Keep entrusting yourself to St. Joseph and Our Lady. They take perfect care.

 

[samovila]

I met my husband on Catholic Match in March 2005. I highly recommend the site!

 

[rpp]

I am a former member of both Catholic Singles and Catholic Match.

Catholic Match is quickly turning into a cesspool. They have a forum and those who make posts that actively promote chastity and booed and hissed away. I know at least one person who had their account terminated because they made a number of posts in opposition to pornography, and in support of chastity.

The forum on Catholic Match is completely unmoderated and it is a free-for all. What is more. I cannot in good conscience recommend the site. Yes, CatholicMatch **claims to **have more member than the others, but I am not convinced.

What is more, Catholic Match allows married people to join!

I cannot recommend Catholic Match. In fact, I would actually discourage people from joining.

Catholic Singles does not have a forum. I found their searching a little awkward, but it is not a bad.

I have heard nothing but good things about Ave Maria Singles, but I have no experience. Or rather, the only bad things I have heard about Ave Maria Singles comes from people who are not free to marry, that is they do not have an annulment in hand. Apparently AVS discourages such people from joining. For me that is a good thing!

 

[catechumen08]

Catholic Match is quickly turning into a cesspool.

Can’t argue with you there. At least that’s what’s been happening lately. It’s gotten a bit unfriendly to say the least. I quit the forums about a month ago, before all the bickering started, and I’m glad that I did.

They have a forum and those who make posts that actively promote chastity and booed and hissed away. I know at least one person who had their account terminated because they made a number of posts in opposition to pornography, and in support of chastity.

This I actually haven’t seen. When people post about chastity, the atmosphere is generally supportive and encouraging.

The forum on Catholic Match is completely unmoderated and it is a free-for all. What is more. I cannot in good conscience recommend the site. Yes, CatholicMatch **claims to **have more member than the others, but I am not convinced.

I disagree. The forums are patrolled rather closely by mods. Some threads are pruned or deleted outright. The rules are enforced.

What is more, Catholic Match allows married people to join!

True, but that’s not an issue. Married people don’t have access to the dating aspect of the site; they’re only there for the fellowship. It says clearly next to their name that they’re married.

I cannot recommend Catholic Match. In fact, I would actually discourage people from joining.

At this point, I’d still recommend it. What you get out of it is up to yourself.

Catholic Singles does not have a forum. I found their searching a little awkward, but it is not a bad.

I have heard nothing but good things about Ave Maria Singles, but I have no experience. Or rather, the only bad things I have heard about Ave Maria Singles comes from people who are not free to marry, that is they do not have an annulment in hand. Apparently AVS discourages such people from joining. For me that is a good thing!

Don’t have any experience with these sites, so I can’t really comment.