Catholic Wedding with Protestant Guests/Family

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That’s exactly right. Still not sure why my fiancé can’t see this and compromise with me, But we plan to go talk to our Priest
 
Yes, it’s possible, I’m not sure how you assisting in the distribution of communion would help in this situation though…?
 
Oh yeah I must of misunderstood what she said case I don’t think it would help.
 
Have you talked to your family about this? Perhaps you’re making a mountain out of a molehill, and your family will understand that they can’t receive communion.

I’m afraid that if your primary motive is wanting communion to be something special between you and your husband, then I don’t agree. Communion isn’t about having or creating a special moment between you and your husband. That’s what the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony is for. Communion is about a moment with you and God.
 
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Still not sure why my fiancé can’t see this and compromise with me
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I don’t recall seeing you talk about this (sorry if I’ve missed it in this thread), but… how does your family feel about you being Catholic? How active are they in their faith life? Would they be offended if they weren’t offered the Eucharist (but a blessing instead)?
 
its not the fact that they cant receive it but not being able to be apart of our day/feeling left out…
 
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its not the fact that they cant receive it but not being able to be apart of our day/feeling left out…
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Have they communicated that they would feel left out? I attended Catholic weddings before I was a Catholic and never felt left out because I couldn’t receive.
 
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Yes they have.
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And have you suggested they might come forward and receive a blessing instead?

I’m just not sure why they would feel left out because they can’t participate in something that they don’t believe in; I think your fiancé’s family will feel much more left out if they are excluded from something they do wholeheartedly believe and value.
 
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In my case it was less about offending people and more the fact that I thought it would be daft to have a congregation of 60 and less than 10 going up for communions not including the groom.
 
Our priest does not offer mixed couples the option of a Mass. I think it makes everything much easier.
 
Some Protestants just don’t understand. They see themselves as Christian and this one point that obviously excludes them can be quite hurtful.
 
That’s what I thought but then my fiancé talked to his mom about this and she said there wouldn’t be any hard feelings and that she understood… Then he changed his mind.
 
I think you need to sit down with your fiancé and have a hard discussion about your ability, together, to communicate and manage challenges. This won’t et easier after the ceremony.
 
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And have you suggested they might come forward and receive a blessing instead?
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Would they feel ‘left out’ if they received a blessing at the communion line?
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On the blessing…if the priest does it, that’s cool but as someone that went up for a blessing as part of a wedding party I can easily say that’ll be the first and last time I did that. I felt so dumb…all the adults receiving and there was this groomsman and 6yr old ring-bearer getting their blessing…TBH, I’m not sure if I’ve ever seen an adult go for (what I’ve seen called a kids’ blessing) outside of the time I did it.
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I’m just not sure why they would feel left out because they can’t participate in something that they don’t believe in;
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They don’t necessarily know that it’s something they don’t believe in. In some protestant churches by saying you’re not welcome to communion is the same as saying “you’re not welcome here”. I’m not saying that’s right or it’s wrong, just say’n what it is.

We did choose not to have communion at our wedding. We didn’t want a part of the ceremony where my wife and her family would be active participants and my family and I (along with my side of the church) would strictly be non-participants, so I can see where she (and her family) is coming from.
 
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No reason a Mass can’t have Communion for only the bride-groom (and of course the priest, the only person present whose Communion is required). It is quite common in the Tridentine Nuptial Mass for only those 3 to receive Communion.
 
If non-Catholics wish to be in unity with us, we would be very happy to have them join the Church. It wasn’t our idea that they should depart in the first place.
 
That’s kind of the thing…and I think you know this…that a lot of non-Catholics don’t understand and/or never knew or don’t understand that they aren’t in full unity with Catholics.

They think/know/learned we’re all one big Christian family. For one, that’s how I was raised so I understand the point @somecanadian was told.
 
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Well, that’s a nicer way of being raised than the families who teach their kids that Catholics are idol-worshipping slaves of the Pope, I guess.
 
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