If I understood where I am coming from I would be somewhere else, but here I am. IOW, if I understood what bothers me about this, then it would probably be solved. Looking at this on this thread is helpful, anyway.
I suspect some people think that if you present logical argumentation to a Protestant, he will, if he is honest, instantly convert to Catholicism. People are much more complex than that. While we reason, we are a lot more than reason. Habits, viewpoints, presuppositions about the way the universe runs. I sometimes wonder if most of the time on CAF we are arguing about the wrong issues, because we are working from radically different bases. Sometimes we don’t realize how far apart we are, or how strongly ideas have taken hold of people.
If you tell a small child he has to do everything Mom says unless it is legalistic, you know what happens. Anything the child decided he doesn’t want to do is suddenly “legalistic.” That is at play, too. Catholics and Protestants use words in different senses and the Catholic context is very different in many ways, say on justification, than the Protestant, because the understanding is different. It is very difficult to understand the imposition of fasting. After I wrote the “insane captain” post I realized that there was no room in that expression for love, trust, or obedience. The things imposed are for our good, “that we may share His holiness.” Some Catholics are bad Catholics, but there are also good.
Maybe the cure is just more exposure to Catholicism, and not just the intellectual stuff, but showing up at Mass until the osmosis works.
But I am not the only Protestant who has ever looked at things this way, and I think it is important for Catholics who want to do apologetics to understand where Protestants are coming from. They are not just Catholics who have rejected the Pope. 500 years of suspicious separation has had an effect.