Catholicism is making me go insane

[wcknight]

Hermione:

Thanks everyone for your kind replies.

I feel like the only way for me to avoid complete nervous breakdown and destruction would be to leave Catholicism. But there is the fear of “what if it’s true, then I’m definitely going to burn.”

BEFORE you do have a breakdown get professional help. You need counseling soon.

Hermione:

For all the bad things that the faithful sometimes say about atheists and atheism, I feel that I would have so much peace now if I were an atheist. I wouldn’t have to worry about being sent to Hell for not perfectly obeying God. I would just love life, love people, do good things, and be happy and SANE.

Atheism would not get rid of your guilt, if you think you are depressed now, think how much more depressed you would be if you lose all hope. Hopelessness and depression go hand in hand. Our faith gives us hope, the hope for a real life after death. It provides meaning in our life. It gives us a reason for living, and a reason for helping our neighbors.

IF there is nothing after death as atheist believe, what does it matter if you help anyone else out ?

PLUS you will always be worried about giving up your faith, will that send you to Hell ? It may not be a definite, and we hope it does not, but the idea will always be in the back of your mind.

I don’t want to lose my sanity. I don’t know all this about bearing crosses… what’s the point of this? It’s hurting me and it’s making me wish I could leave Catholicism. God could end all this by simply coming to me, reassuring me of His existence and of His love for me. Or He could modify my mind to take this living Hell away.

None of this is happening. I’ve been getting progressively worse and worse over the months. I keep wishing that I had never come to know what Catholicism is.

I’m sorry if this offends anyone, but this religion has devastated everything about my person and my life.

Leaving the Church will not guarantee that you will retain your sanity, and staying in the Church does not mean you will lose it either.

IT is your misunderstanding about Catholicism that is devastating your life. You are focusing on condemnation and that is NOT what Catholicism is all about. That is NOT what Jesus is all about !!

It is all about loving your neighbors and helping others. Charity and Love are at the heart of Catholicism. Somehow you have twisted it into a huge guilt complex. You need to really step back and talk to some folks and determine what is really important about our faith and what is not.

Your perceptions about Catholicism are all twisted. IF I shared your opinions about our faith, I would be really psyched out and stressed out over it also.

You are taking bits and pieces and saying that is what the Church is all about, and it definitely is not, especially if you have to pick the more negative bits and pieces.

For one thing, most people probably do NOT go to Hell. My guess is most folks end up in Purgatory (which really means most will eventually end up in Heaven).

For another, no one knows WHO will end up where. Unless you happen to murder someone, or lead a fairly wicked life, odds are you will end up in Heaven. You may or may not have a stop over in Purgatory but who knows you could go straight to Heaven.

IF you focus on Heaven, you will get there, that is Christ’s promise to us. You have to have faith that as God He will make it happen. That is what faith and hope is all about.

Christ’ s Peace

 

[AlanFromWichita]

asquared:

having trouble negotiating this thread, but somebody up there complained that too often Church teaching is reduced to threats to compel children to obey, and children hear the threats, but not the love behind them.

Dear asquared,

That was I.

If there is a roadblock up ahead that says “Danger, Road Closed, Bridge Out” is that a threat or a warning? Implied is the threat that if you continue on this road, your car will go off the road into the river and you will drown. Is the person who put the sign in place bad, malicious because he gave you that warning? Would he be kinder, more pastoral, more sensitive if he refrained from scaring you? True, you would not be scared to drive on that road, but all the same, your car would go into the river, along with those who had the warning but disregarded it.

You make an interesting case, and I agree fully with you. A slight modification might tell you what I’m trying to convey. If there were signs every 500 feet for two miles preceding the bridge proclaiming that possible death lies ahead and that few who cross here live to tell about it unless they take the detour, then I would consider that excessive and supportive of paranoia.

If your doctor tells you, “lose weight, eat right, stop smoking, get more exercise, manage stress, or you will not live to see your children grow up” is that a threat or a warning? Is he being unkind, insensitive, unjust by telling you the truth?

Same situation here. Your example is fine. It is as if the doctor send home Jiminy Cricket to sit on your shoulder and constantly remind you with your every move that you are either either doing something that brings death or you better watch out or you’re might, then that becomes irritating.

both of those “threats” or “warnings” were motivated by disinterested love and concern for the safety and life of individuals, do we condemn the messenger because some people disregard the message, proceed to follow their own inclinations straight to death?

No, we don’t condemn the messenger. We just don’t abuse the messenger by vain repetitions of threatening messages.

Alan

 

[st_felicity]

reen12:

Researchers today are looking into
brain structure, chemical messengers called
neurotransmitters and a host of other factors
that generate psychological difficulties…independent
of a person’s religious beliefs or lack thereof… Treat the medical problem first…or even concurrently…with spiritual solutions.

To do anything less, to me, is a form of blaming
the victim.

reen12

Reen12–Many of the suggestions ARE what would be suggested by a councilor–It’s called behavior modification and cognitive therapy. Just because we suggest a prayer rather than yoga or staring at a fish tank, and consciously taking our pains to the foot of the cross rather than imagining a serene beach or a warm white light doesn’t make it any less therapeutic. This is a Catholic forum after all–what do you expect to hear? of course if she needs medication she should see a doctor–but what harm would there be in first taking communion rather than taking a pill–then if the pill is still needed, of course!

 

[Reepicheep]

Hermione, beloved in Christ:

You speak so fearfully of God’s wrath. But He is a God of Mercy.
He loves us so dearly. He wants us to be happy, in this life and forever.

Hermione, please look at what they have to say, on this site thedivinemercy.org/message/

about the Divine Mercy.
And please, take the advice the others give you; see a counselor.
See a physician if the counselor asks you to.

We will go on praying for you.

May the peace of Christ comfort you, Hermione.

 

[burnside]

I once confessed to a priest that i may have committed a mortal sin and then gone to Communion.He told me if i was not sure that a sin was a mortal sin then it was ok to go to Communion.You just have to check up on how serious the sin is before you get yourself in that position again.That particular priest was not the only one who conveyed to me that i was too scrupulous about my sins.
Secondly,i remember reading in a catholic booklet that,when it comes to venial sins,it is much better to confess to one venial sin and NOT to do it again,rather than confessing to a whole string of venial sins and making no attempt to change.What about the times we go home from work and take our frustrations out on a family member,perhaps leaving them with even lower self-esteem.
Just because a work supervisor was unpleasant and,if we had another job to go to,we would have been rude to the supervisor
rather than our loved ones.

 

[Alterum]

I’m Hermione’s fiance. She’s going to abandon faith in Catholicism to maintain her sanity. It’s very hard. Please don’t stop praying for her. Thank you all for your help.

 

[gelsbern]

I guess this is what happens when you pile all of the stuff not necessary for salvation on top of a new convert.

Catholicism needs to get back to basics, once it does, people will realize it’s not so hard.

What is needed for salvation?

Baptism

What must we do to maintain that salvation:

Try not to sin, confess our sins, recieve the eucharist.

What must we believe

Everything in the Nicene and Apostles Creeds.

That’s it, nothing more is required.

All of the other devotions are icing on the cake that is the Catholicism. You can pray a million rosaries, thousands of our fathers, and do hundreds of good deeds, but if you don’t do what is required above they are useless.

I will keep praying for you Hermoine.

 

[anajosephina]

I really feel for you! I wish everyone could feel the love of Jesus all the time. God is ALL-LOVING. That means that no matter what you are feeling, He loves you. No matter how angry you are, He loves you. No matter how often you are tempted by Satan, God will still be there loving you. Remember the story of the prodigal son in the bible? The father in the story is God, and the son in the story is you-you are God’s child. He will always be there, whenever you are ready to go to Him. Just kneel down, close your eyes, open your heart, and let Him in. He has been waiting for you to open the door and let Him in. You will be amazed at the love you will feel if you really let go of all the negative and let God into your heart.

Here is a short, very good prayer for you to say: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, (your will), the courage to change the things I can, (my will) and the wisdom to know the difference.

I will say a prayer for you also: Mary, mother of us all, please wrap your loving arms around Hermione, and keep her safe. Help her to feel the love your son Jesus has for her. Help her to know the wisdom of the Holy Spirit. And help her to come home to the Father, who loves her. Amen

 

[anajosephina]

I really feel for you! I wish everyone could feel the love of Jesus all the time. God is ALL-LOVING. That means that no matter what you are feeling, He loves you. No matter how angry you are, He loves you. No matter how often you are tempted by Satan, God will still be there loving you. Remember the story of the prodigal son in the bible? The father in the story is God, and the son in the story is you-you are God’s child. He will always be there, whenever you are ready to go to Him. Just kneel down, close your eyes, open your heart, and let Him in. He has been waiting for you to open the door and let Him in. You will be amazed at the love you will feel if you really let go of all the negative and let God into your heart.

Here is a short, very good prayer for you to say: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, (your will), the courage to change the things I can, (my will) and the wisdom to know the difference.

I will say a prayer for you also: Mary, mother of us all, please wrap your loving arms around Hermia, and keep her safe. Help her to feel the love your son Jesus has for her. Help her to know the wisdom of the Holy Spirit. And help her to come home to the Father, who loves her. Amen

 

[Vinko]

Wow. What a sad little thread.

I am not sure what are the obstacles that are overwhelming this person. My prayers are definately with her.

I hope she went and talked with a priest… rather than hanging out on a MESSAGE BOARD!

These boards are not for “living the faith.” These boards are for discussion and help… hence the name… “Catholic Answers.”

I hope this person keeps her faith simple. I would suggest reading on St. Therese of Liseux.

Keep it simple.

1. Pray
2. Go to Mass
3. Read about a Saint (for understanding)
4. Put it ALL in the hands of God.
5. Get involved with helping SOMEONE ELSE. Get your mind off yourself.
6. Get a SPIRITUAL ADVISOR
7. Read the Gospel of John… NOW… especially 13-14-15

Why focus on hell? Why focus on sin?

I don’t mean to sound judgemental or “all knowing”… But, our friend sounds like she is struggling with something else besides our Faith.

Faith in our Lord will only help.

God Bless. I hope more read this thread and say some prayers.

OH… if Hermione or her husband to be is still reading this thread… PLEASE go buy ANY book by Father Groeschel. In fact… if you get EWTN… watch his “Sunday Night Live” show. He has many many great books. He is a true Saint… who loves our Lord very very much.

 

[justbeinfrank]

Hermione,

You mentioned some concerns about family life. I strongly recommend you read The Good News about Sex and Marriage, by Christopher West. (If you take only one piece of advice from me, let it be that one! … Seriously, do not finish reading this post without first purchasing a copy of that book!)

The Lord told us (Matthew 11:28-30):

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

And (Matthew 18:1-4):

At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them, and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child, he is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”

We must trust completely in the Lord as a little child trusts completely in his mother. Pray to St. Therese for help with this!

It seems that your perception of the Catholic faith lacks balance. You’re emphasizing certain aspects at the expense of others. That is not what Christ’s message was about. Peter Kreeft has some great (and light) reading on his website. (Here, specifically, is his reflection on joy, although others under the category “Relating to God” will interest you.) Professor Kreeft is great because he’s very well balanced.

Do not fall into despair; that is where Satan wants you! Remember that the Lord is kind and merciful (Psalm 103):

The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger for ever. He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor requite us according to our iniquities. For as the heavens are high above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us. As a father pities his children, so the LORD pities those who fear him.

Everything you have, everything you own, everything you love, everything you are, has been gifted to you gratuitously by the LORD. Therefore, rejoice always (Phillippians 4:4):

Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice.

Perhaps you could also read C.S. Lewis’ Screwtape Letters. But, if nothing else, take a look at that Christopher West book!

 

[AlanFromWichita]

Alterum:

I’m Hermione’s fiance. She’s going to abandon faith in Catholicism to maintain her sanity. It’s very hard. Please don’t stop praying for her. Thank you all for your help.

Dear Alterum,

To a person who is truly struggling to learn what is right and good, Catholicism can have this effect. I am not talking about what the Church teaches; I am talking about the way she behaves from the point of view of the average Sunday church-goer.

It’s all well and good to say that whatever is wrong is really not the Catholic Church at all, but the actions of a renegade bishop or unfaithful priests or lay leadership. That is bunk. If I demand satisfaction after being cheated by a Wal-Mart employee, you had better believe that I will hold Wal-Mart responsible for making it good. The Church cannot simply say, “well we gave your bishop the right instructions but he chose to deviate from them. Sorry pal.” The Church is everybody in it and not just a building, document, or abstract concept, therefore associating with the Church – a hospital for sinners – exposes a person to bad as well as good.

I am just getting over a psychotic episode that blew up a few years ago. I had stresses from all directions but I was hanging on, keeping a good job as a senior engineer (Member Technical Staff) at Bell labs and everything. There was one thing that I could not stand, and that was to see the Church I love corrupted by wrong thinking and behavior. Guess what was the trigger that finally set me off such that I got locked up in a psychiatric ward with severe bipolar disorder? A mean, intolerant priest.

What can be done about it? One can become an atheist but that will not likely correct anything; it will, however, remove the irritation from her. There is a better way, though. Have you ever sought out a spiritual director? This is a person who can answer all your questions and concerns and help you align yourself better with the church on an individual basis. Going to one is very non-threatening, and in our diocese there is only a suggested $10 contribution for meetings lasting upwards of an hour.

Also consider getting involved in the apophatic tradition of the Church, largely relegated to the cloister in recent centuries but gradually becoming better known as the Vatican II affirmation that holiness is for everyone (not just cloisters or even all religious for that matter) slowly gains ground. The apophatic tradition is exemplified by the 14th century book the Cloud of the Unknowing, and was well known by the great mystics. As opposed to the kataphatic tradition which attempts to define what God is, it acknowledges that God is beyond knowing.

Also consider getting involved in contemplative prayer forms such as lectio divina or centering prayer. You might call these people to see if they have meetings near you.

I was healed myself by the Holy Spirit, a.k.a. the Divine Therapist, in conjunction with a number of techniques. I had to turn my entire way of thinking upside down. I listened to and read material from philosophers and theologians, both Catholic and non-Catholic. I listened to a 17-hour recording of the New Testament for days on end. The key to it all, though, was what I learned about the spiritual journey from reading Dark Night of the Soul and from teachings by Thomas Keating of Contemplative Outreach.

If you want to know more, please feel free for you or Hermione to PM me. These are touchy topics because some Catholics believe that centering prayer is dangerous, evil, or inherently non-Catholic. Nothing could be further from the truth, but even though I’ve told you this I bet a steak dinner somebody will chime in with a link to an article warning you against centering prayer. It isn’t about centering prayer; it is about contemplative prayer (there is a difference) and reaching interior silence to invite the Holy Spirit in to heal you of a lifetime of emotional wounds and help you progress along the spiritual journey.

Your fiance has some very valid concerns, and this is all too common in the Catholic community. Rest assured that Catholicism has the answers she is looking for, but you have to get past the surface level where it seems everybody is preaching at, judging, and scaring each other. “Step on a crack, break your mother’s back” type paranoia is not what Catholicism should be, although for many people it is very much that way.

Alan

 

[NightRider]

Alterum:

I’m Hermione’s fiance. She’s going to abandon faith in Catholicism to maintain her sanity. It’s very hard. Please don’t stop praying for her. Thank you all for your help.

I really hope that someday Hermione comes to learn that she does not need to abandon her faith to maintain her sanity. I’m sorry, but Catholicism does not cause insanity. If she feels her sanity is being threatened then she needs to see a psychiatrist and then *listen to them and follow their directions. *

Meanwhile I will continue praying.

 

[AlanFromWichita]

NightRider:

I really hope that someday Hermione comes to learn that she does not need to abandon her faith to maintain her sanity. I’m sorry, but Catholicism does not cause insanity. If she feels her sanity is being threatened then she needs to see a psychiatrist and then *listen to them and follow their directions. *

Meanwhile I will continue praying.

Dear NightRider,

I agree with you, except that your assertion that “Catholicism does not cause insanity” could use some definition.

If you are using “Catholicism” to mean the official teachings of the Church, then you have a pretty good case.

If you are using “Catholicism” to describe the experience any given person has with the Church then you have a pretty weak case.

The problem is that you cannot separate the two. With fallible, human bishops, priests, and lay leaders, Catholicism AS PRACTICED as opposed to IN THEORY is certainly quite capable of producing mania. It happened to me. The fact that there are apologists who can weasel-word things such that the Church remains blameless is of no use whatsoever to a person who has been abused – physically or mentally – by church leaders.

Let me see if I can make this clear. Let’s say my Dad owns a store and you are a customer. I don’t like your looks, attitude beliefs, or something, so I punch you in the face. You object, threaten to avoid or even try to close the store. I send out my apologists to tell you that our store is blameless, because my Dad left specific instructions not to punch customers in the face. You should still come into the store, and if I punch you then you should still like this store because it is my sinful self hurting you and not the store.

I dare somebody to tell me how this logic is any different than much of the apologetics practiced here. “The Church hurt me.” “No it didn’t. Her people did. She is infallible” “Oh thanks I feel better now. I guess I just thought I was hurt because I was ill-trained.”

Alan

 

[rayne89]

AlanFromWichita:

Dear NightRider,

I agree with you, except that your assertion that “Catholicism does not cause insanity” could use some definition.

If you are using “Catholicism” to mean the official teachings of the Church, then you have a pretty good case.

If you are using “Catholicism” to describe the experience any given person has with the Church then you have a pretty weak case.

The problem is that you cannot separate the two. With fallible, human bishops, priests, and lay leaders, Catholicism AS PRACTICED as opposed to IN THEORY is certainly quite capable of producing mania. It happened to me. The fact that there are apologists who can weasel-word things such that the Church remains blameless is of no use whatsoever to a person who has been abused – physically or mentally – by church leaders.

Let me see if I can make this clear. Let’s say my Dad owns a store and you are a customer. I don’t like your looks, attitude beliefs, or something, so I punch you in the face. You object, threaten to avoid or even try to close the store. I send out my apologists to tell you that our store is blameless, because my Dad left specific instructions not to punch customers in the face. You should still come into the store, and if I punch you then you should still like this store because it is my sinful self hurting you and not the store.

I dare somebody to tell me how this logic is any different than much of the apologetics practiced here. “The Church hurt me.” “No it didn’t. Her people did. She is infallible” “Oh thanks I feel better now. I guess I just thought I was hurt because I was ill-trained.”

Alan

Alan, on other threads Hermione has said she has a history of mental illness. That she has been is a pyschiatric hospital before, which was much before she even had the idea of becoming a Catholic. She had a very negative experience with treatment and now will not seek help. She only became Catholic this Easter.

 

[STIOFAN]

Hermione:

I don’t understand how you people can be Catholic and sane. At this point, I feel like this faith is destroying my happiness, my sanity, and for that matter my whole life.

Hermione, at the bottom of the Divine Mercy picture are the words "Jesus I Trust In You ".

When Pope John Paul 2 was elected and walked onto Saint Peters balcony, his first words were “do not be afraid”.

Jesus told us many times in the Gospels, “do not be afraid”.

In the Diary if Faustina, Jesus said to her, "what wounds Me to the Heart is the lack of trust in My Mercy.

Jesus mentioned that in order to gain the Kingdom of Heaven we should be childlike, look at the trust a little child has with it’s Mother and Father.
It trusts them in everything, holding their hand crossing busy roads etc: it looks up to them and trusts them completly.

Christina Gallagher of Ireland, believe in her or not, says the devil rules by fear, fear is his weapon.
She was shown that the more she trusted in God, the less she feared the devil.

Hermione, I have a book here on the Devotion to Divine Mercy, and in it is the Litany of Mercy.
It helps me in times of fear, it says at the start, “Let the doubting soul read these considerations on Divine Mercy and become trusting”.

scborromeo.org/prayers/litanydm.htm

I suggest you read them now, and renew them from time to time, remember the prodical son ? all he had to do was turn back to his father, and thats all it took.
Jesus was obviously trying to show us that His Father will do the same for us.
I read somewhere, that Jesus said He wasn’t searching for perfection in man, because he knows he’ll never find it.

So God Bless and trust in Jesus, because He said we can do nothing without Him.

 

[4_marks]

Hermione:

I don’t understand how you people can be Catholic and sane. At this point, I feel like this faith is destroying my happiness, my sanity, and for that matter my whole life.

Thinking about God, and sin, and Hell is making me feel naseous, overwhelmed, and like the only way out is nonexistence (which is not an alternative in Catholicism).

I can’t even believe that there was once a time when I was happy, free, and at peace.

I can’t even feel safe about my future. I am supposed to choose between leaving the man I love, burning in Hell, or having a bunch of children who will overwhelm me to the point of insanity and make my life miserable. And even if I stay alone and not worry about this, I’ll still be in constant fear of sin, and Hell, and all of that.

I feel like I will never have anything but torment. And on top of that God will probably burn me because I’ve made statements that expressed hatred for Catholicism.

In addition, Catholicism might not even be true and I am killing myself for nothing.

At this point, I am really hoping I’ll lose faith and gain SANITY.

It’s so hard to believe that the teachings of a supposedly loving God can do this to a human being. Where’s the love and peace and joy? It’s not like I"m an immoral person. I was doing my best to follow Jesus’ teachings. All I got in return was the destruction of my whole being.

P.S. I just measured my blood pressure and it’s 160/90 when normally it is 110/60. Great faith.

When you use the terms “love,” “peace,” and “joy,” what exactly do you mean, Hermoine? For you, does the word love connote that God overlooks sins of all the “good persons” who “try their best to follow Jesus?” What about “peace?” Does “peace” mean the cessasation of all conflict, strife and suffering in your eyes? What is “joy” for you? A sense of contentment, comfort, security? If so, you will always have serious problems with the Catholic faith because, with Jesus, it does not understand love, peace and joy like that.

Following Christ requires that one lay down their life daily, and “take up their cross.” In this life, if you wish to follow Christ, you will have suffering, a constant struggle with your own sin and also with that of others, conflict, strife, restlessness, hardship and a certain degree of insecurity. Contrary to the popular opinion of the hoi polloi, authentic Catholic Christianity invites you to an intensified experience of reality, not an escape from it.

P.S., I wouldn’t base my world view upon what people say on Internet message boards like this one. Examine the faith. Carefully and prudently study the lives of those who have been recognized as Saints, who lived the Catholic faith before you jump to any rash conclusions.

 

[st_felicity]

AlanFromWichita:

I dare somebody to tell me how this logic is any different than much of the apologetics practiced here.

ooooOOOOOoo…a Dare! Okay…I’l try…

Let me see if I can make this clear. Let’s say my Dad owns a store and you are a customer. I don’t like your looks, attitude beliefs, or something, so I punch you in the face. You object, threaten to avoid or even try to close the store. I send out my apologists to tell you that our store is blameless, because my Dad left specific instructions not to punch customers in the face. You should still come into the store, and if I punch you then you should still like this store because it is my sinful self hurting you and not the store.

There is a problem here with your analogy…

Let’s say your store is a Bakery…You, the crazy son of Baker Jones hangs out at Jones’ Bakery…Just down the street is Smith’s Bakery with very nice people who don’t punch anyone in the face–IN FACT Smith’s Bakery uses only the BEST ingredients and take extreme care to follow the proper recipes when baking…Jones’ Bakery would cut corners and use artificial flavoring–sometimes it’s hard for patrons to tell the difference, but the long time customers know and ALWAYS go to Smith’s…The patron who you punched would be foolish to return to your store when a much better bakery is nearby…and certainly your patron would be extra foolish to go to Bob’s Hardware to try and buy his bread!

 

[under_his_wing]

Hi

**I think u need to get into a relationship with Jesus. Our God is a god of love for the Bible says though we are sinners God died for us. **
He was wounded for our transgressions and bruised for our iniquities; the chastisement for our peace was upon Him and by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5

He will give give us His peace if we allow Him into our lives.
**Why dont you talk to Jesus just as u poured your heart out in ur post & ask Him to take control of ur life…ur confusions etc. **And see the difference in ur life…i’m sure u are willing to speak to different people to find an answer to ur confusion…why not try JESUS this time.
**For the Son of man is come to seek and to save that which was lost.**LUKE19:10
You spoke about Hell…you need not worry about it if u confess ur sins & believe Jesus died for u & also continue to walk in His presence, according His commandment of love.
1JOHN 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
God Bless.

 

[st_felicity]

Alterum:

I’m Hermione’s fiance. She’s going to abandon faith in Catholicism to maintain her sanity. It’s very hard. Please don’t stop praying for her. Thank you all for your help.

In Hermione’s original post she said this:

I am supposed to choose between leaving the man I love, burning in Hell, or having a bunch of children who will overwhelm me to the point of insanity and make my life miserable. And even if I stay alone and not worry about this, I’ll still be in constant fear of sin, and Hell, and all of that.

Your post seems to support her decision to leave the Church “for her sanity”. How are you supporting Hermione?

There is an odd subtext going on here…