When I’ve tried that with other women outside of the church all I ever get when talking to them is lied to. That to me is a sign their heart (or minds) are somewhere else.
Can’t compare every woman that you meet to women that have done you wrong in the past. Same as I couldn’t compare my husband to every jerk I had met before him. If you feel that way about women in general, perhaps you’re not ready to date. Or you can give these women in your parish a fresh start and approach them without tarnishing them with your past experiences. All women don’t lie, just as all men don’t either.When I’ve tried that with other women outside of the church all I ever get when talking to them is lied to. That to me is a sign their heart (or minds) are somewhere else.
Those discussions involve a lot of definition ping-pong. Dating is not something which you define it as not being. Just like you can prove or disprove any textual statement by redefining the words to fit the goal.
My main reason for dating would be if nothing else to make friends. Friends you can spend time with to see if you would like to marry. I’ve never dabbled in romantic relationships and had bad luck on the surface but I have alot of girlfriends. I like women really and seem to make friends pretty easy with them. But it stops there. Maybe I haven’t met the right one. Well there is a vocation called being single.
Maybe your parish needs someone to start a singles group…
If you see dating as a way to make friends, perhaps this is why you have a lot of female friends but it stops there.
I don’t think I want to get them flowers I have done similar things. I can see a stalking or sexual harrassment situation coming there. I’ve had women try everything on me. Try to put me in jail, get me fired from jobs, (I was vindicated), and barred from public places. You learn after a while to mind your own business. Atleast in a bar conversations are more relaxed. I don’t drink but it’s alittle safer there. But it’s not a place to meet women. Not for a catholic anyway.
Yes, catholic believe in dating.
I don’t think underacloud was saying buy flowers right away for any of these young women at your parish that you find attractive. Flowers would come later after you’ve been out a few times and what to express to the young woman that you want to pursue the friendship on a more romantic level.
It sounds like you may need a little help with determining how to go about meeting and getting to know women, if this sort of thing has happened a few times now. Do you have any males friends you could ask for advice? Female friends too…or what about siblings? Dating can be very hard and most of us make mistakes along the way.
Yes, the flowers come a little later, and in the right context.
It sounds like you have some serious issues either with the places you are finding women, or the ways in which you are interacting with them. These results are abnormal, to say the least.
Any prosecutor willing to back that kind of “harassment” claim needs to get disbarred. Flowers are okay if it’s a date or if things are being ambiguous. If it stays within the friend zone, well, it doesn’t get out of it. Something must happen, I’m not saying “something immoral” or “something physical here”, but there needs to be a bit of open advances. Otherwise it’s kinda like trying to sell something without actually telling people it’s up for sale.
And avoid drama queens.
This sounds way worse than drama queens to me. If these women are filing lawsuits, getting him arrested, getting him banned from public places, etc. then he is probably either 1) consistently meeting women with severe mental health issues, or 2) behaving in wildly inappropriate ways.Any prosecutor willing to back that kind of “harassment” claim needs to get disbarred. Flowers are okay if it’s a date or if things are being ambiguous. If it stays within the friend zone, well, it doesn’t get out of it. Something must happen, I’m not saying “something immoral” or “something physical here”, but there needs to be a bit of open advances. Otherwise it’s kinda like trying to sell something without actually telling people it’s up for sale.
And avoid drama queens.
Well the thing with me is I do like younger women. My age group would be more like 20-40. But I do understand that women that young are probably not interested so that’s fine.
Well the sexual harrassment thing was from a troublemaker I believe. I was taking up a collection at a place I used to work for hot dogs from a bar across the street. I told a young lady I had talked to I had no interest in that I was taking up a collection and asked if she wanted hotdogs. I come to work and I’m called into the office and told I’ve been fired for “sexual harrassment”. She jumped the gun I guess this girl complained and there was an investigation and I was told I was not fired. I must’ve asked 4-5 people and I brought back the hot dogs. Another person I used to work with told me he asked her for a pen and she said it was in her purse and to get it. He did and she complained that he got into her purse and he was called into the office. He just quit.